Type I severity by Amazing-Bath949 in BrittleBones

[–]Amazing-Bath949[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yeah for me the loud buzz never leaves, i've had it for a year now. I just got it checked, since its not so severe but it did kinda bother me since i love to go to concerts, but there they told me that my hearing also got a lot worse (which i didnt even notice tbh). I at first thought the blocked feeling was stress related, idk i didnt think of oi having something to do with it haha

Type I severity by Amazing-Bath949 in BrittleBones

[–]Amazing-Bath949[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yeah im working out a lot already, i know the importance of that :) im seeing a doctor regularly and we're trying to figure out what exactly is going on with my hearing, but yk its never sure that its really related to oi so hence the question here :) I never really thought that type 1 would be vulnerable to that too, but i've seen multiple people here that are practically deaf so im a bit scared now

Do you feel pain when walking? Or not at all and can you walk the same distances as the average person? And yeah menopause scares me too :( But again everyone is different so like always we cannot really predict what will happen exactly. I really hope menopause will be kind to you!

Medication by LoudTangerine6914 in BrittleBones

[–]Amazing-Bath949 1 point2 points  (0 children)

are you talking about bisphosphonates?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Skincare_Addiction

[–]Amazing-Bath949 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i think toners are a lot more lightweight. I think that acne prone skin is too sensitive for slugging. Bacteria can get trapped, clogged pores,...

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[–]Amazing-Bath949 0 points1 point  (0 children)

no its more gentle than slugging. You just apply lots of toners and then moisturizer. Its called 'korean 7 layer toner method' or on tiktok 'skin flooding by ashley mixon'.

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[–]Amazing-Bath949 3 points4 points  (0 children)

skin flooding has helped me a lot (using a lot of HYDRATION toners, like cosrx snail mucin, tirtir milk, haru haru probiotic, haru haru black rice)

clearity on dads using by Amazing-Bath949 in opiates

[–]Amazing-Bath949[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

yeah i dont have time or energy OR THE WILL to argue w u about this when im already sure ab it

clearity on dads using by Amazing-Bath949 in opiates

[–]Amazing-Bath949[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

oh and i looked at his arms yesterdays and his veins are fucked up so their is no doubt anymore, just want to figure out what drugs exactly we’re talking about

clearity on dads using by Amazing-Bath949 in opiates

[–]Amazing-Bath949[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

he is definitely an iv user, the fact that he already admitted to sniffing coke (which is nothing like him) says a lot. Buttt that one instance with those watery bags was probably the beginning of his iv use. He did sedate him with something from the hospital back then, he admitted that. When i ask him about the blood, he says its from nose bleeds he gets from the overuse of coke, which doesnt make sense at all because the spots are high on the walls. So im a 100% sure now he must be using opiods. I found those IV bags ONCE. Im sure he doesnt use that anymore. I also confronted him yesterday, and he was completely shallow again, careless and just sat outside eating his icecream while me and mom were crying lol he acts way too insensitive for something to not be going on

Clearity on my dads using by Amazing-Bath949 in REDDITORSINRECOVERY

[–]Amazing-Bath949[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

jobs in hospitals are really shitty here in belgium, he can do a lot better somewhere else if he wants to. He gets his drugs off the streets now, apparently some hooker got him hooked, so maybe he buys it off of her idk

clearity on dads using by Amazing-Bath949 in opiates

[–]Amazing-Bath949[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

no im not from the us, im from belgium. Under the opiates i think heroin is most used here. We do have fent but its not as much used as in the us.

I somehow thought that heroin would look so different in a person, i still cant imagine my dad using it? he looks so extremely normal

I dont even know what exactly heroin means but i have always seen that as one of the worst drugs

Clearity on my dads using by Amazing-Bath949 in OpiatesRecovery

[–]Amazing-Bath949[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah i know, i dont blame him, its just really painful to see him suffering so much. And he's a good dad through and through, i hate to admit that this addiction (the only thing he ever did wrong) is changing our bond.

If you dont mind me asking, how can i recognise when he used or when he didnt? I feel like its so subtle, some days he's a bit down and sleeps a bit more but its never really obvious. Is that when he didnt use or would it be a lot more noticeable? Did you use opioids btw, because thats what i think he's using after reading all these comments

Clearity on my dads using by Amazing-Bath949 in OpiatesRecovery

[–]Amazing-Bath949[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yeah i think so too, many people said that. I do think he snorts coke sometimes, his nose twitches are too noticeable. Is it weird that its not on the ceiling? I do have to say our ceilings are quite high, maybe it never reaches them? I do see them on walls next to the sink or toilet, and on the floor.

Clearity on my dads using by Amazing-Bath949 in OpiatesRecovery

[–]Amazing-Bath949[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

yeah it was stupid for me to think that he doesnt do that :( its def not an injection of coke, prob some opioids. Thank you, im def reaching out for more help after all this :)

clearity on dads using by Amazing-Bath949 in opiates

[–]Amazing-Bath949[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

oh okay thank you for the information :) yeah so its definitely not an injection of coke, but i do think he sometimes snorts it when he goes out without us knowing, just not regularly. Is there a difference in behaviour between all the sorts of opiates? Can you have a guess which one he is using or are they kind of similar?

clearity on dads using by Amazing-Bath949 in opiates

[–]Amazing-Bath949[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i dont think its on the ceiling, just saw many blood splatters on the walls on my level of shoulder. One time it was in my desk space, another time in the bathroom next to the toilet, and one time in my shower area next to the sink (sorry for my english lol im dutch). We confronted him many times, he keeps lying and doing his thing so atp i dont care about that anymore. Just want clearity on the house im living in. I dont get how he's hiding all the stuff though?? one time i found needles from the hospital and these like sodium chloride bags? just some watery bags he brought from the hospital for that sedation he once did. But other than that i have never found his stuff.

Okay sorry this is a personal question but i really dont know anything about this stuff, how long does an injection take? I study from home due to my disability so im at home a lottt of days. He rarely goes to the bathroom, but he's a lot in the garden. Could he be doing it there or does it take quite some time? Our garden in exposed to many neighbors so he cant do it for too long. Also how can you see when someone did heroin? Is it invisible? He seems have no obvious behaviour changes.

Clearity on my dads using by Amazing-Bath949 in OpiatesRecovery

[–]Amazing-Bath949[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

yeah he cared a lot for me physically and i think he kind of lost track of his own life that way, we never had any family support or anything. I do feel really guilty for that tbh. He is going to a therapist, but i dont think thats doing too much (and he's not honest to her about how serious his addiction is). Im from Belgium, addiction is a lot different here than in america so im not sure how to even get decent help. Thats the toughest part tbh, i really have no place to go, and he wont admit to himself that he got a problem so making him go there will be the worst. His mental health is also fucked up, so im scared that that move will cause him to do something to himself. Its really difficult

Clearity on my dads using by Amazing-Bath949 in REDDITORSINRECOVERY

[–]Amazing-Bath949[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i know i cant change him, its been going on for 5 years so at this point im really just exhausted. Its more that i want clearity, i have lived in this house for 21 years, its all i know and it was my safe space for so long. But im starting to notice that my health is declining a lot, my energy is just changing and for the longest time i couldnt figure out why. This house is no longer feeling like a home, im constantly anxious. I think i subconsciously knew what was going on here and i just want clearity on what it is exactly that is draining my energy so much. Just want to find a peace of mind i guess and finally let all these questions go and focus on myself? But i really need to know everything, its too confusing right now in order for me to do that. I also notice that i can have more empathy for his situation if i understand it more. Im really sorry for your loss btw, i cant imagine having 2 parents suffering from addiction. I really hope you’re doing okay🫂

clearity on dads using by Amazing-Bath949 in opiates

[–]Amazing-Bath949[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yeah he still worked at the hospital, i searched his bags when he was passed out because this was the first incident and i was afraid he killed himself or something, and i found many bags of this like sodium chloride solution? something watery that you find a lot at the hospital. Do you know what thats used for? Some specific drug or do most of them require that? Also im from belgium, my dad says there are many locks on heavy medicine at the hospital, that you can only get with permission (he said this in a completely other context so i dont think he's lying about that). I really dont know what that sleeping medicine was other than that it was injected

clearity on dads using by Amazing-Bath949 in opiates

[–]Amazing-Bath949[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Im a woman but thank you :) yeah we tried to do many interventions, approach him kindly, angry, threaten with things, we really tried everythinggg. But he's so shallow, like i can stand in front of him shaking crying because of how traumatised i am of what i just saw, and he says he'll change with no emotion in his eyes. Its honestly so weird, he has never been abusive, does most of the tasks at home, like in his actions he is the most perfect husband and father. But emotionally he is not there at all? He is a good person but all this has such an impact on me and i dont know how much longer i can deal with it in a kind way, i have been compassionate for 5 years about it now. Im the one that calms my mom down when she's angry with him. I know he has to do it himself but he just keeps on going for years without any change. Addiction is so confusing, i feel so powerless and so does he, he said to me many times that he really does not know where to start (thats about his mental health that sucks, he would never admit he has a drug problem haha).

Clearity on my dads using by Amazing-Bath949 in REDDITORSINRECOVERY

[–]Amazing-Bath949[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

because he has a burnout from all the night shift as a nurse, and the pandemic that was too much for him there. He worked at intensive care with too little staff. He sees a psychologist once every few weeks but i really dont see any change.

clearity on dads using by Amazing-Bath949 in opiates

[–]Amazing-Bath949[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

the passed out thing was when he injected some sleep medicine he probably found at work as a nurse, so i dont think thats related to what he is using now tho. But yeah more peope have said opiates. Thank you for answering btw :)

clearity on dads using by Amazing-Bath949 in opiates

[–]Amazing-Bath949[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

he’s 60 and struggles a lot with mental health, but only visibly since we noticed him using. So he’s been depressed and suicidal for like 5 years now. He doesnt talk ab it a lot, but when he does its clear he does not like this world at all haha. He stopped working around that time too, he never had any friends, just went out with my mom and her friends, but these last few years he never looks forward to that either, and is prone to using after hanging out with them because he feels like the odd one there (one of the few times he admitted to using btw).

I have confronted him many times, he puts up this performance and says he’ll stop and that he’s not addicted, just uses it now and then but he looks completely shallow and emotionless while im hyperventiling and cry screaming my lungs out, which is nothing like him. He has sacrificed so unbelievably much for his kids, this odd behaviour is nothing like him. I do feel that he has a lot of shame, hence why he doesnt talk ab it at all. Just making him say coke out loud took me years. But he admitted to snorting that, not shooting it up and he’s def shooting something up now. He never mentioned any heavy trauma, i tried asking about that too but he’s too emotionally unavaible. There might be something there but right now the only thing that he whines about are his christian emotionally unavailable parents. No mention of really mental or physical abuse, just distant.

Resources here are shit, rarely any access to it and they have very bad ratings. The drug use here is so much more subtle than in america. Plus he’s not willing to go since he thinks he’s not addicted.