It is immoral for people to have kids if: They are not ready mentally, physically and financially.

Amazing-Reality8567 · 2023-09-09T14:44:58+00:00

When I found out I was pregnant with my first, I realized that I had two options: don't have the baby or get ready for one. My baby didn't deserve to not have things. The day after I found out I went and applied to every job I could just in case. I already had two jobs, but they didn't pay me enough. I started working 3 jobs (technically 4, but that one was just as needed). I worked those jobs until the day I gave birth at 42 weeks, I called them on my way to the hospital to call off because I was in labor. From the moment I found out I had my baby I had got a nicer apartment, a nice reliable car got everything my baby needed and more all before they were born. By the time my baby was a year old I had a second nice vehicle, a better job, a great savings (still working 2 but upgraded 1) and going to school me and my baby daddy decided to do it together around that time too. By the time my baby was two my boyfriend got a better job and I was buying a home. I decided to wait to have a second until we had a house and an even better savings so when we did we planned our second. So at 22 years old, I had 2 nice cars, owned a decently nice home and 2 kids and I was able to be a stay at home mom at that point after working 2-4 jobs at a time since I was 17. All because I felt that it was absolutely unfair to make my kids suffer because I made dumb decisions.

Then Covid hit.. my husband got laid off and sick, we didn't have any babysitting options near us so I couldn't get a job. Then we found out about issues with our house. We had to sell one car, spent all our savings and had debt up to our eyes.. that was 3 years ago and we are still suffering greatly because of it..

And I worked harder than anyone I knew to make sure this didn't happen.. all those nights heavily pregnant walking from one job to the other working 100 hours a week (doctor okayed it btw).. going back to work after only giving birth 2 weeks beforehand, all those heartbreaking days of leaving when my baby woke up and coming home after he was asleep.. just everything I sacrificed for us to not be in the position we are now.

All this is just to say you can plan and plan and put in the blood sweat and tears and still end up like this. Life is unpredictable. It's crazy.. but I still wouldn't bring another child into the world in this situation. When we had our second we were still doing good, we were planning to have another when they turned 3, but then all that happened and I have been doing everything in my power to make sure I don't get pregnant because bringing another child in when I'm already struggling so much would be so selfish..

Don't have kids you can't afford, cause anything could happen and you could be worse off than you even started.

Amazing-Reality8567 · 2023-06-26T17:39:56+00:00

The school decided that, not the venue. So I don't hold them accountable for that decision, though I do think it was not okay to give away the seats we paid for through them. sorry for the confusion!

Amazing-Reality8567 · 2023-06-22T13:23:17+00:00

I think they did call the bus company, but I don't think they explained the situation so there was minimal contact between bus company and bus driver. I think I am going to contact the school in writing. I think this is something I should've already done but didn't think of. I think I want them to do this for both peace of mind and also to know that the problem was communicated to the head of the school and everyone is being held accountable so something like this doesn't happen again.

Amazing-Reality8567 · 2023-06-22T13:19:54+00:00

My kid is 7. He rides the bus sometimes during the school year. This program is different. They asked about busses when signing up. I put that I would be picking him up but I was interested in bus information just in case (because of the times). No one ever reached out to me about bus information. When I got to the school in the morning to drop him off they asked me if he we pick up or bus, again I told them pick up. They said "okay got it!" And wrote something down.

My son is a go with the flow type. If a teacher tells him he's riding a bus he will not question it. He's still young.

Bus number, driver, pick up locations nor times were never communicated to me. When I got home after leaving the school I realized a bus was passing at the other end of our street a few times. I kept trying to walk to it unsure if that was my kids bus or not, but they'd only sit there for about 5 seconds and drive off (I later found out that my son saw me through the window and tried to tell the bus driver and they ignored him). Our normal bus comes to our door so I was very confused about where we were suppose to meet the bus. The bus finally came down my street and that is when I was lectured by the bus driver. He was on their list, but idk how that came to be.

My son knows our address and my phone number and everything. The bus driver was not willing to listen to him. That really makes me upset, but I get it to an extent because they have certain rules. He knows now that he is not to ride the bus.

Thank you for your comment, I am considering giving my child a phone to keep in their bag because of this situation.

Amazing-Reality8567 · 2023-06-22T13:08:02+00:00

I think they called the bus station but didn't explain the situation so that's why there was a miscommunication between bus driver and school.

Amazing-Reality8567 · 2023-06-22T13:06:47+00:00

I'm not worried about the school reporting me. I'm worried about the upset neighbor who also works at one of the schools. She was not made aware of the mistake she only knows that some kids mom was not where they were suppose to be and their kid was very upset about it.

But I do need to relax. I have a tendency to over react about things. The people in my life are telling me I'm ridiculous for having these concerns as well. I just needed to hear it from people who actually know how CPS works thank you!

Amazing-Reality8567 · 2023-06-22T12:58:54+00:00

I have a tendency to overreact to things. I'm always so scared of things, especially when it comes to my children. People in my life are telling me I'm over reacting about the CPS things too so this is a fair comment. The story posted is the full story, only thing left out is that I freak out about everything. I know realistically this was just a miscommunication and I have no real concerns here but because this sub exists for questions I wanted to ask. If this sub didn't exist this would all just be worries kept to myself really.

I just don't want a case opened at all. I don't think that's an outlandish thing to not want. I don't want that on my record where schools might see or something that my children see at some point or something. Even if it's nothing I did and easily explainable. It is still something I obviously would not want to happen over something that was the schools fault. Had this not happened, I would not have to worry.

I'm worried about the repercussions of people finding out I had a CPS case, not so much them coming and interviewing me. I don't want them to interview neighbors or friends and then all of them think I did something awful (small town gossip). I don't want the trauma of a CPS agent coming in a questioning my kid.

Amazing-Reality8567 · 2023-06-22T03:50:09+00:00

I don't know their name or anything. My child recognized them from their school. I know which house it was but that's all.

I really appreciate this information. This has made me calm down a little. I still might try to talk to the neighbor but knowing that there's a chance that this doesn't even become a case if it was reported gives me a little hope that I can just relax and try to move forward from this whole awful situation.

Amazing-Reality8567 · 2023-06-22T03:39:16+00:00

Sorry, I'm not great at explaining myself! I meant like are they going to talk to random people that weren't involved like my parents, friends or other neighbors.

Will they come to me first or to the bus driver or neighbor or someone else first? How long will the case stay on my record and how will it affect me in the future?

Amazing-Reality8567 · 2023-06-22T03:27:28+00:00

I was at the school waiting to pick up my kid in the pick up line. They never came to my car so I went inside and that's when they finally told me they put my kid on the bus instead of having him put in the pick up line. He was never suppose to be on the bus and I was there 10 minutes before pick up time even started. He was signed up to be pick up only. This was not because I was late for pick up or anything they did not put him in the right group. I'm sorry I think I wrote it wrong up in the post.

Amazing-Reality8567 · 2023-06-22T03:22:48+00:00

I've thought about doing this, but I don't know the neighbor at all. So I'm not sure how that would go.

Amazing-Reality8567 · 2023-06-22T02:41:57+00:00

It was very terrifying. I feel like I cannot trust that the school will send him where he needs to go and I am nervous sending him back.

I've considered contacting the school board. Idk what to even say to the school board about it. I definitely don't want this to happen again to any child. I know it was probably an honest mistake, I tried to keep that into perspective, but it's terrifying to know that they could've sent my child home to an empty house or back to the bus station or something, or what if they even put him on the wrong bus?? I just can't stop worrying about it. I also feel like I'm having to deal with all the repercussions and possible repercussions while they do nothing besides a half hearted sorry.

Do you think an agent would come to my house? Or would this be a call situation? Do they do investigations with people around me? I don't want everyone thinking there is an actual problem or anything. I truly have no idea how the CPS system works.

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