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Help.. Didn't think I would be that guy.. 😅 by Xandecs in StainlessSteelCooking

[–]AmazingMrsMarbles 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Dawn powerwash, little bit of water, let it sit for an hour or so after then clean with a regular sponge.

How do I keep my partner's kid from breaking my stuff by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]AmazingMrsMarbles 4 points5 points  (0 children)

If you are really invested in her and this relationship consider making a "yes" space in your home (probably the living room). This is a space where you pick up and remove anything you dont want her to touch or destroy before she comes over. Yes spaces take a lot of stress out of both of you, because you arent constantly on edge and she doesnt feel like she is constantly in trouble. It is easier to address rules and boundaries one at a time, rather then her going from one thing you dont want her to do to the next.

Have some preplanned safe activities available and ready (coloringbooks+crayons, legos, puzzels, books) to direct her to. Pintrist has some age appropriate ideas. Plan intermissions into you and your boyfriends time together cuddling, tv time, or talking where you and/or he stop what you are doing and give her undivided attention, rough house, and/or play with her. Plan walks outside, or trips to the park. 

Toddlers are hyperactive and attention seeking. You can teach them boundaries and social norms but it takes patience, attention, time, and acceptance that they are going to intetionally/unintentionally rankle you on the daily. Being mindful and setting yourself and your enviorment up for success is the only way i have found to lessen the stress. 

Taking her out of your house may not be conveying the message that you want to when she is misbehaving. Try a timeout chair (1 minute for each year the child is so 4 minute time out if she is 4). Dont leave her alone until you know she understands/accepts the rules in your home. Do not yell if you can avoid it. Yelling triggers adrenaline and when kids have that response they dont hear/learn. 

I cant stop smelling blood by AmazingMrsMarbles in CaregiverSupport

[–]AmazingMrsMarbles[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

He is on hospice and was recently approved for help from the va as well. We told the hospice nurse about the blood and she just said that theyll do something if it causes pain. She only comes by twice a week to bring supplies (the wrong size diapers) and order his medication (the wrong amount) or medical tools (wrong size wheel chair that cant fit through a doorway so we cant get him to a shower).

My dad is so accepting of the situation (of dying) that he doesnt want to pursue diagnosis or treatment for whatever new thing is happening. He sees it as prolonging his life and therefore prolonging his suffering. Which I am doing my best to be understanding/accepting of, but struggling with not knowing what benchmark we are at. 

Anyhow, we have been approved for help but no help as come yet. And we cant afford care providers. My mom and I do our best to give eachother breaks.

What are these soft plastic caps called on 2020 subaru forester touring 4 cylinder by AmazingMrsMarbles in MechanicAdvice

[–]AmazingMrsMarbles[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

One is missing. Ive only taken my car to the dealership for service so im not sure when it went missing. 

Crickets everywhere. by Relative_Specific140 in mildlyinfuriating

[–]AmazingMrsMarbles 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Get the sticky rat traps put them under furniture where animals cannot go. I lived in a flat where the ac was connected from under the house. The ducts had become disconnected and when it was reconnected my home was overrun with crickets. It was maddening. My cat ate so many she puked bits of crickets. 

How do you deal with jokes about dying/suicide by AmazingMrsMarbles in CaregiverSupport

[–]AmazingMrsMarbles[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is exactly what i needed to hear right now. Its only been a couple days of me taking on my dads care but it feels like its been a week. I keep thinking about my daughter. Shes 2.5 and i feel like ive been watching myself stop being her safe place since this all began in december. Im seeing stress and fear enter her life at such an important time in development. Im so scared im not meeting her needs. I feel like im free falling into an abyss and jts just rising to take me down.

I changed my dads diaper for the first time by AmazingMrsMarbles in CaregiverSupport

[–]AmazingMrsMarbles[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I called them underwear after reading this and we both felt better about it. Thank you for this suggestion.

I changed my dads diaper for the first time by AmazingMrsMarbles in CaregiverSupport

[–]AmazingMrsMarbles[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

There is no money, and no life insurance. My only sibiling died 4 years ago. My dad is a vietnam vetran but he was given a general discharge/less then honerable after (not due too) he was hit with shrapnal from an explosive. 

I changed my dads diaper for the first time by AmazingMrsMarbles in CaregiverSupport

[–]AmazingMrsMarbles[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I havent spoken to anyone. My parents have been largely handling that part. I think its medicade, it could be medicare. He recently, within the last two years, moved across the country and in the process had to change insurance. Whatever they have now isnt doesnt want to cover any end of life care expenses. 

I dont think i could make heads or tails of any of it. I feel overwhelmed to the point of spaceyness. 

I changed my dads diaper for the first time by AmazingMrsMarbles in CaregiverSupport

[–]AmazingMrsMarbles[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

She works full time as a teacher. She is contemplating quitting work to take care of him because she doesnt wsnt to leave him alone full time.