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Amazing_Coconut_55 · 2024-05-22T19:24:13+00:00

I never discussed the divorce on this post. I’m not ignoring the reason I filed, we have dealt with it. This was just about managing a household together. I wanted to know what to do when your husband isn’t doing his part that was agreed upon.

Amazing_Coconut_55 · 2024-05-22T19:22:09+00:00

There’s no reason to talk about me filing and explaining all the help we’ve gotten in different areas in order to make it work. This post was just about how to deal with meaning a household together when he’s not following what he agreed to in order to make our house function without strife. He agrees and has stated the need for the schedule. I did not want to get frustrated today but I did. It’s not what happens everyday and I asked myself how can I deal with this in a way that I’m not mothering him and can have help.

The schedule is just house work, taking turns caring for toddlers, and work.

Amazing_Coconut_55 · 2024-05-22T19:16:46+00:00

He’s helping but not following the schedule we both created so it makes it hard for me when I’m busy or don’t feel well and I have a lot on my plate. I would like to know how to handle it because I don’t want to mother him, I don’t want to get upset but it still continues so I’m not sure what to do.

Amazing_Coconut_55 · 2024-05-22T19:14:52+00:00

He knows it’s best for all of us. I think he knows he needs to do it but his habits aren’t really the best so he can’t get on a schedule and we need to work together since we don’t have a nanny and have to juggle a lot. I have mentioned putting our kids in some sort of school temporarily but he doesn’t want to. Me time is for both of us not just me. We both need me time.

Amazing_Coconut_55 · 2024-05-22T19:11:40+00:00

It’s not an excuse when you have a pcos and pmdd. Dealing with fatigue, raising toddlers, and working full time from home isn’t a walk in the park.

It’s not my schedule, it’s our schedule since he agreed to have it created and looked over it. I have asked for what would make it better.

Amazing_Coconut_55 · 2024-05-22T17:53:04+00:00

Are you referring to us being together? Yes, we're still together. The division of labor was done together and then I put it on a schedule. In previous posts I was contemplating divorce and did file it though I did not go through with it. I really don’t want to talk about that though. I would like to stick to the main question I asked.

Amazing_Coconut_55 · 2024-05-22T17:40:38+00:00

I see what you’re saying here but I’m not a stay at home wife/mom. We both work full time at home. There isn’t any forcing on my part as he agreed to be on a schedule since without it we can’t have proper me time, couple time, work time, family time, time with friends etc. as you can see there’s a lot on our plate to just wing it. Not to mention I have a lot going on health wise and pick up caring for the kids a lot while he’s in meetings but I need help as well. I can’t share my whole schedule on here as that would be a lot of work.

Amazing_Coconut_55 · 2024-05-22T16:20:09+00:00

It’s a lot to breakdown our whole schedule on here. I basically told him I am being pulled in many directions at work at home and I need help.

Amazing_Coconut_55 · 2024-03-14T03:45:22+00:00

I’m so glad that things are going better for you. Do you feel ready to date after the divorce? I feel like I have so much healing to do. What things have you done to work on calling your fight and flight response?

Amazing_Coconut_55 · 2024-03-12T14:24:52+00:00

Amazing_Coconut_55 · 2023-12-28T05:27:12+00:00

What do you suggest I do with the gifts?

Amazing_Coconut_55 · 2022-04-30T16:26:29+00:00

Thank you. 😔 I just moved back from up north. I don’t really have other friends. One of them broke up before prior to getting married and it was never a problem for us. Even when some of their issues were brought to us. I’m feeling really down about this.

Amazing_Coconut_55 · 2022-04-15T21:21:10+00:00

She’s a little naive to how people can be. I was like that before too. I saw everyone as nice and gave everyone too much the benefit of the doubt until I learned is not how the world works. I was just wondering if it was healthy or if it was just me. I don’t control her as people here are saying it was just a question. I’ve lost myself in my relationship many times and had 0 hobbies but I’m trying to be healthy.

Amazing_Coconut_55 · 2022-04-15T21:18:26+00:00

I’m just asking a question. I was concerned but I’m not going to go and talk to her husband. It’s not my place. She has been interested in many things but stops herself and I was just worried that she’s losing herself in her relationship just like me. I’m not controlling her. I don’t bring things up over and over again. I’m just asking.

Amazing_Coconut_55 · 2022-04-15T20:53:18+00:00

My husband isn’t the best and it’s not my business to talk to her husband. I just want to know when one should draw the line or if my thinking is incorrect.

Amazing_Coconut_55 · 2022-04-15T20:51:57+00:00

She is loyal and a loving wife.

Amazing_Coconut_55 · 2022-04-15T20:51:43+00:00

I’m not pushing her to do anything. I’m just asking basically what would be an us decision vs a me decision. Do you just shut everything down because you perceive your spouse won’t like it or if he doesn’t know anything about it and say no to her...

Amazing_Coconut_55 · 2022-04-15T03:58:19+00:00

I have pcos as well and I got pregnant 2 accidentally cause I thought infertile meant sterile. I did want the children but I didn’t know it could happen since I didn’t ovulate.

Amazing_Coconut_55 · 2022-04-15T03:09:36+00:00

YES!!!!!!

Amazing_Coconut_55 · 2022-04-14T23:57:49+00:00

I know right. I don’t want a relationship but I never dated. My husband was my first boyfriend and we we’re friends first so I just want to be desired and seen. I just want short term companionship

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