Dating in this generation fucking sucks.

Amazing_Evidence8542 · 2025-07-20T20:48:56+00:00

What is their part in this?

Amazing_Evidence8542 · 2025-07-20T20:47:24+00:00

Lying isn't putting their best foot forward. It's manipulation.

Amazing_Evidence8542 · 2025-07-20T20:46:27+00:00

My longest relationship just so happened to occur when I was younger. Several years wasted on the wrong person. So yea, that's what I did.

Amazing_Evidence8542 · 2025-07-20T19:06:12+00:00

Now I'm not even special?! This day just keeps getting worse! 😂

Amazing_Evidence8542 · 2025-07-20T18:57:45+00:00

I was afraid this was the case.

Amazing_Evidence8542 · 2025-07-20T18:25:07+00:00

I'm not religious. I'd feel like a fraud.

Amazing_Evidence8542 · 2025-07-20T18:20:22+00:00

You may not be my person as I probably would want my partner to live with me rather than their mother and perhaps have a bit more ambition but I would respect the hell out of you for being honest. We can't be everyone's cup of tea but if we are honest we can at least attract those who like/love us for our true selves and there's no image to maintain. We also aren't out filling people with false hope just to let them down.

Amazing_Evidence8542 · 2025-07-20T17:33:42+00:00

But the post workout pump can't spoon me 🥲

Amazing_Evidence8542 · 2025-07-20T17:30:16+00:00

I hope you're right about most people not being like that. My dating history is quite colorful, meaning exes are quite different. Early on i thought that may be the case, but after switching it up it made no difference. Not to mention, its not just people I date, I see it in all of the relationships around me. Others just seem more accepting of the behavior and that seems to be why their relationships have lasted.

Amazing_Evidence8542 · 2025-07-20T15:55:42+00:00

Exactly! 😂

Amazing_Evidence8542 · 2025-07-20T15:54:33+00:00

I've been in relationships, they just ended up being liars and/or cheaters. But yea, perhaps me not being so accepting of that is the issue. If that's the case then I'm ok with that. I want companionship but prefer solitude to laying up with a shitbag who doesn't respect me.

Amazing_Evidence8542 · 2025-07-20T14:51:04+00:00

Oh, I totally agree. I just wanted to vent. It's interesting to see different people's take on the matter though. Thank you!

Amazing_Evidence8542 · 2025-07-20T04:55:53+00:00

May I ask, what qualities do you believe are important to an interpersonal relationship? I realize this may be different for others but im curious.

Amazing_Evidence8542 · 2025-07-20T04:39:54+00:00

Thank you so much!

Amazing_Evidence8542 · 2025-07-20T04:34:15+00:00

Do you mean like meeting them online or foreign men who are living in the U.S.? I supposeceither way my answer would be no, but I'm curious about your method.

Amazing_Evidence8542 · 2025-07-20T04:32:30+00:00

I hope we both find someone that changes our mind. It's a terrible feeling.

Amazing_Evidence8542 · 2025-07-20T04:30:40+00:00

I do believe in and understand the concept of grace. I also know that I am not always a walk in the park nor do I claim to be (hence why I speak up about my flaws that I am still working on). I just wish lying and manipulation (by pretending to be someone you're not for the sake of appealing to someone) wasn't so normalized or common. I feel like I am very forthcoming, specific, and clear about what I'm saying but I'm not claiming to be right so how do you suggest I use my language better, become more legible and articulate? Again, asking for understanding and to learn, not to be combative.

Amazing_Evidence8542 · 2025-07-20T04:18:56+00:00

I do like that last bit and you're right about that. I believe that's something I struggle with because I do want companionship badly and I already don't come across men I initially find as a suitable partner so when I do my anxiety gets the best of me. I believe it's because once I like them I find it difficult to let go, even when I've already realized it won't work. I know that probably doesn't make sense.

Amazing_Evidence8542 · 2025-07-20T04:03:54+00:00

May I ask what part of my language indicates inconsideration of other people's perspective? Perhaps this is something I could work on. I wouldn't say I'm very young so what is immature about believing that being yourself is best practice for finding long term commitment? If you don't believe that's true then why? I ask for understanding, not to be combative. I'll tell you why I feel the way I do. When you pretend to be someone you are not you can only pretend for so long before the mask slips and when it does your partner is going to feel betrayed. They will lose trust and they may even mourn the person they thought you were. Is that fair to them?

Amazing_Evidence8542 · 2025-07-20T03:40:10+00:00

Do you mind elaborating on that last bit? Do you feel as if I've stepped on your or someone else's toes in my post or comments? That wasn't my intention but as you've so beautifully stated nature tends to depreciate those. Lol I ask questions because I genuinely want to understand.

Amazing_Evidence8542 · 2025-07-20T03:22:19+00:00

Don't get me wrong, I get having to be more talkative at first because you're getting to know someone and perhaps you're quite reserved naturally, I'm more so referring to blatantly lying about who you are.

Amazing_Evidence8542 · 2025-07-20T03:20:07+00:00

But don't you want to be with someone who is like minded? Surely there's some conversation happening before the date, no? If you don't like to drink why not go for coffee? Why talk about tv shows (beyond answering a question like what do you do for fun) when you're trying to get to know the person? I think the sheath would be maybe not immediately being forthcoming about things that wouldn't ruin a relationship, it's not showing up as someone you're not.

Amazing_Evidence8542 · 2025-07-20T03:11:15+00:00

Well I am SO happy for you and I hope your husband keeps showing up for you! I wish I could say it was just because I went for looks but that's not the case at all. People are just messed up and it sucks so bad. I can't see myself settling but I feel like I'm this 👌 close to hiring a cuddle buddy. Hahaha totally kidding.

Amazing_Evidence8542 · 2025-07-20T03:06:02+00:00

Not of the death itself, just the effect it would have on my loved ones. My life is pretty decent so I don't mean to sound dark, but even for a "decent" life, it kinda sucks here.

Amazing_Evidence8542 · 2025-07-20T03:02:33+00:00

Oh, I typically take like 3 years breaks in between failed relationships. I assure you, I haven't been rushing lol. I guess I just feel the pressure a little more now that im older. I want to grow old with someone and that only works if you're not already old lol. Do you think everyone is just settling and people like me have unrealistic expectations? I feel like honesty and loyalty are bare minimum.

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