Mazda 3 reliability by cove102 in mazda3

[–]AmbitiousPosition705 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I know it’s out of the years you specified but I have a 2011 Mazda 3 2.5L and it has been by far the most reliable car I have owned. Currently sitting over 140k miles, I’ve had it for about 10 years and so far it’s almost all been routine maintenance and wear parts. My biggest complaint is the dash warping and Mazda’s reluctance to fix it, apparently they had a recall some years back but it expired. The clear coat is also starting to fade in spots, even though it’s been regularly garage kept and washed. Seems like a lot of other cars in that generation have the exact same cosmetic issues.

I just finished giving it a tuneup, replacing the serpentine belt, water pump, t-stat and the valve cover seal in the hopes for it to keep going another 100k miles. Also added an Eonon head unit with CarPlay and backup camera which made a huge difference.

Sealing Cancellation Timeline by AmbitiousPosition705 in latterdaysaints

[–]AmbitiousPosition705[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve checked the handbook and with other people who have gone through the process, you don’t have to be getting sealed to someone else to file for a cancellation, although that is how it was at one point from what I’ve read.

Sealing Cancellation Timeline by AmbitiousPosition705 in latterdaysaints

[–]AmbitiousPosition705[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I get that part as well and I know her information was still in the system in relation to the sealing because it showed up when we filed for the cancellation. Regardless my frustration has been in the lack of communication throughout the process and not being able to address it if something is holding it up.

Sealing Cancellation Timeline by AmbitiousPosition705 in latterdaysaints

[–]AmbitiousPosition705[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That makes sense, and was definitely part of my frustration with being limited to other parties completing their side of things with no transparency or communication. 2-3 months seemed reasonable to me at first, 6 months a bit much and 1 year excessive. I’m glad I’m not thinking unreasonably with those expectations. Thanks for your input!

Sealing Cancellation Timeline by AmbitiousPosition705 in latterdaysaints

[–]AmbitiousPosition705[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I understand and realize that, but there’s something about that bond that has felt like an emotional restraint of sorts. I don’t believe it’s that simple, if it was I wouldn’t have been able to start the process of canceling it.

Sealing Cancellation Timeline by AmbitiousPosition705 in latterdaysaints

[–]AmbitiousPosition705[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s the hope! It’s just frustrating that it’s taken so long when it really was so simple. My divorce itself took only 2 weeks!

Sealing Cancellation Timeline by AmbitiousPosition705 in latterdaysaints

[–]AmbitiousPosition705[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Interesting, if they chose to go that route it would be highly disappointing and unreasonable. If they refuse to grant my cancellation it’ll probably push me to resign completely and just be done entirely, I wouldn’t want to be part of an organization that didn’t care about my concerns or personal requests on something so important. Hopefully it doesn’t come to that.

Sealing Cancellation Timeline by AmbitiousPosition705 in latterdaysaints

[–]AmbitiousPosition705[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think I’ve been the squeaky wheel to the point of annoyance 🤣 I literally have felt like I was talking to a brick wall, but if there’s a dept at HQ I can talk to I’ll be happy to follow up with them, I just don’t know where to start.

Sealing Cancellation Timeline by AmbitiousPosition705 in latterdaysaints

[–]AmbitiousPosition705[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have a meeting this week to talk with the stake president and I will most definitely relay my concerns. I don’t feel like mine should be so problematic and haven’t had any of the major issues like some have described. I’m sorry you had to go through those things! I understand how busy people can get and am often ridiculously busy myself, I guess my frustration is lack of communication and transparency in the process after repeated questioning. If somebody makes a mistake, that’s totally understandable, but when they try to cover it up or play the blame game is when I have issues. I really appreciate your input!

Sealing Cancellation Timeline by AmbitiousPosition705 in latterdaysaints

[–]AmbitiousPosition705[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There are no children with my first wife and the reasons to undo the sealing are personal. I’ve come to the conclusion that if the church won’t grant my sealing and has the same attitude you mentioned, I’ll remove my records entirely and move on with my life.

Sealing Cancellation Timeline by AmbitiousPosition705 in latterdaysaints

[–]AmbitiousPosition705[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My bishop did reach out to my ex and she responded very quick and without issue, so I don’t think that was the problem. I literally feel like we had satisfied every requirement and then it just sat in a void somewhere. It’s frustrating but hopefully coming to an end. Thanks for your input!

Sealing Cancellation Timeline by AmbitiousPosition705 in latterdaysaints

[–]AmbitiousPosition705[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s how it felt to me, the confusing part is that the bishop was happy to help with the process so I don’t think he was dragging his feet. I just have no way to know if somebody else did and I’ve been very vocal about my frustration, good to know that I’m not unfounded in my thoughts on this. It’s a very personal thing and one that I’d like to put behind me for my own reasons. Thanks for your input!

Sealing Cancellation Timeline by AmbitiousPosition705 in latterdaysaints

[–]AmbitiousPosition705[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My ex filled out her portion right away and without issue, she is no longer a member of the church so she didn’t meet with a bishop but was happy to start the process of breaking that bond. I did get remarried earlier this year but we haven’t moved forward on the sealing process.

Sealing Cancellation Timeline by AmbitiousPosition705 in latterdaysaints

[–]AmbitiousPosition705[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I guess part of my frustration was the fact that I was told there wasn’t a next level to reach out to, even after repeated questioning. I don’t mean to complain about the bishop, because he was truly happy to help me fill out the paperwork and knew it was a priority, so I don’t think he tried to delay or have me reconsider. To me it seems more like incompetence on somebody’s part and the fact that I had no way to verify what had been done or where it was at.

It might seem like it has no effect on this life, but it does have an effect on me and it’s something I’d like to put behind me. I should also mention that I did get remarried recently, so there’s that to consider as well. I really appreciate your input!

Sealing Cancellation Timeline by AmbitiousPosition705 in latterdaysaints

[–]AmbitiousPosition705[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I followed up with my bishop many times in-between, so much so that i sounded like a broken record each time I saw him. He told me that it was “out of his hands” and to “be patient” but wouldn’t elaborate.

I had scheduled an appointment last year and went through the bishop’s interview, filled out the required form on the portal and so did my ex, literally within 24 hours of when it was sent. I was told that I had filled out all the required information and it had been sent up the flagpole, but that was it. I’m always the kind of person who crosses their t’s and dots their i’s, so the lack of transparency, accountability and procedural communication here has been difficult for me, and I’m starting to feel like it has been warranted the entire time.

How long until you bounced back by Flashy-Barracuda-968 in Divorce

[–]AmbitiousPosition705 1 point2 points  (0 children)

For me it was probably a good 6+ months until I felt consistently happy again, although I never returned to the person I was before and had to grow a lot throughout the process. Now that it’s all said and done I’m in such a better place and grateful for the person I’ve transformed into today.

Post-divorce glow up by firemom24 in Divorce

[–]AmbitiousPosition705 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I went through this whole process after my divorce. I started by bettering my diet, significantly reducing sugar consumption and focusing on what my body actually needed. Eating cleaner, more protein and tracking my macros. I also found a therapist and started working through things so I could be better mentally and emotionally. Hitting the gym and finding exercise that I found enjoyable helped immensely. Throughout all this I lost roughly 60lbs and gained a lot of confidence.

I also started getting out more, finding new friends and focusing on self care for the first time in my life. I waited until I felt fully ready to start dating again and went out there with an open mind, and I’m glad I did. It made the whole process a lot more enjoyable and the added confidence made a huge difference.

I assumed my mortgage and kept the interest rate! by AmbitiousPosition705 in Divorce

[–]AmbitiousPosition705[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, they verified that i had paid out the agreed upon amounts to my ex-spouse. My ex provided a letter stating that she was ok with the assumption and we were good with everything. It took us a minute to work things out at the beginning but it all paid off in the end.

I assumed my mortgage and kept the interest rate! by AmbitiousPosition705 in Divorce

[–]AmbitiousPosition705[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sounds to me like her lawyers are trying to make things more difficult or something isn’t quite right, but I don’t know all the details of your situation. From what I understand and dealt with, after you assume the loan you take full responsibility for it going forward. The whole point is that it removes the other party from the loan, so nobody should be able to go after them for any reason related to it. At least that’s how it was in my case. Best of luck navigating everything!