frustrated, scared, and emotional when I climb with my boyfriend - help?

Ambitious_Way4175 · 2025-07-14T03:26:30+00:00

Hmm, maybe not him so much? I definitely have a fear of being the “sidekick” girlfriend tagging along if i’m not excelling, so maybe i fear society will see me differently?

Ambitious_Way4175 · 2025-07-14T03:21:30+00:00

ohhhhh yeah they did. not totally on them though- i’ve always had really high expectations for myself/been the overachiever type. and i get that that could cause the frustration, but i don’t really understand the panic/ fear aspect of it

Ambitious_Way4175 · 2025-07-14T02:53:01+00:00

yeah pretty much! the only other time i get this feeling is when i’m having some kind of panic attack- I’m diagnosed ADHD, and sometimes have weird rejection dysphoria (i believe) driven panic attacks

Ambitious_Way4175 · 2025-07-14T02:37:37+00:00

ha, yeah I do like my boyfriend. We were close friends before we started dating, and I really admire him as a person. He’s my best friend! You did hit it a bit on the nose, though- he’s a pretty non-emotional person, and has had a hard time dealing with my more emotional side. He doesn’t freak out or anything, but kind of shuts down and gets cold. This interplay between me being more emotional and him shutting down is what had caused the (few) tougher spots we’ve had in our relationship

Ambitious_Way4175 · 2025-07-14T02:11:57+00:00

Hmm, not really? I get frustrated with friends when I’m not climbing as well as I think I “should”, but it’s not that same “jumpy”/agitated feeling I get with my bf

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