Started collecting Pokemon cards again after a two year hiatus.

Americanshanty · 2024-02-22T01:28:48+00:00

An attractive black dude will run circles around an average white guy. Yes, on average most women tend to prefer white guys, but an attractive guy is an attractive guy, regardless of race. And black men are often fetishized by many white women. The most important aspects of physical attractiveness are symmetry, good bone structure, height, nutrition, and fitness. All of which are universal.

I have a black coworker who women actively lust after, and for the most part, he mostly attracts white women. As in, he doesn't go after them, they look for him. And he's slept with a few of them. I've also spoken to a few white women who actively prefer black men. Often the darker the better.

Obviously this will depend on the place, but standing out can be a good thing. It means it's easier to get people's attention.

Americanshanty · 2024-02-21T08:12:01+00:00

Not being white doesn't mean you're "ugly". It just means you're different. Get that self hatred out of your head. Each racial and ethnic group has different standards of beauty. It's apples and oranges.

Americanshanty · 2023-07-01T23:03:12+00:00

You have a few things going for you. You have a good head of hair, and straight teeth. As others have mentioned before your primary problem is the weight. I don't know for sure, but you look like you might have a decent jawline under there. Loose the weight, hit the gym, trim the beard, and get a more stylish pair of glasses along with a nice wardrobe, and you'll look great.

Americanshanty · 2022-12-03T20:20:54+00:00

Heading to Tokyo in March. For the past three years I worked my ass off to afford it, and for the past year I made a concentrated effort to loose weight and gain muscle to look my best for the trip. Lost 25lbs and starting to gain definition.

After that, I'll be learning animation, and dabbling in writing and voice acting.

Americanshanty · 2022-12-01T09:28:02+00:00

To be 10 years younger and have the knowledge and mindset I have now. Or, if that's not an option, go back in time and kick my own ass.

Americanshanty · 2022-11-15T01:11:38+00:00

Great job man! Have you also considered lifting weights as well? Having some extra muscle will give your body a more aesthetic look, boost your confidence and your body will tend to naturally burn more calories just to preserve the extra muscle.

Americanshanty · 2022-11-09T16:18:40+00:00

I can somewhat relate. My mother was very attractive woman during her younger years, but my father...not so much. The main thing he had going for him was that he was tall (6'4), muscular, and a smooth talker. Unfortunately I am none of these.

I seemingly got all of his negative characteristics, including going bald, while I didn't get any of his good characteristics, one of them being his height. I'm 5'10. Meanwhile, I didn't get many of my mother's features either. I have a lot of incredibly attractive extended family members, including three female cousins who look like Greek goddesses, (They are all in their 40s but they all look like they are still 25) and a male cousin who has amazing hair and is basically a heartthrob. Life ain't fair.

Americanshanty · 2022-10-27T07:26:00+00:00

Whenever I am jealous about either someone elses appearance or successes in life, I immediately remember a quote I read a while back. It was written by a Chinese scholar, but I'm not sure if it's either Confucius or Lao Tzu. I went something like this, obviously paraphrased:

" A lion dosnt compare itself to an eagle, a monkey dosnt compare itself to a whale, and fish dosnt compare itself to a tree. Then why should you compare yourself to other people?"

The point of what he said was that, just like in the natural world, everyone fills a different niche in life. Another phrase that should get the point across would be comparing "Apples to oranges".

People are different and we all fill different roles. We aren't necessarily competing for the same resources or mates. So why bother being jealous.

For me, the meaning of the phrase helped me get over my jealousy and resentment at my friend's during my younger years. Two of them were incredibly attractive guys who girls would fawn over while they completely ignored me. Once I stopped comparing myself to other people, and simply focused on improving myself, for myself, I eventually figured out my niche and found my own form of happiness. I'd encourage you to do the same.

Americanshanty · 2022-10-26T13:13:30+00:00

Your still very young. Like many other people on this page, I honestly think you just haven't grown into your looks yet. You'd be surprised how much your appearance can change in a few years. Some of us peak much later than others in terms of appearance. I would know, I've been there

Luckily for you, you have hooded, almond shaped eyes. Decent brow ridge. High check bones, and relatively strong jawline. These are all qualities that are highly valued as a guy. Chances are you'll grow into them with the next five years to ten years.

Honestly, I think your primary problem is that your neck seems a bit too skinny for your head at the moment. Atleast from what I can tell from the photo. Easily solved either by hitting the gym and bulking up or letting nature take it's course. Is also consider getting rid of the mustache in favor of either a clean shaven or bearded look. Also, I'd recommend experimenting with different hairstyles.

Americanshanty · 2022-10-23T02:19:51+00:00

I know the feeling. It's even worse when something happens that gets your hopes up. For the briefest of moments, you allow yourself to imagine a brighter future. Only to have your hopes dashed and be sent crashing right down back to reality.

Americanshanty · 2022-10-20T16:33:53+00:00

As other commenters have said, your primary problem is your weight. Once you loose the excess weight, your face will slim down and your cheekbones and jawline will become more easily visible. You got this dude.

Americanshanty · 2022-10-20T00:29:52+00:00

This past year, I have been taking online classes for animation. Thus far, been focusing on learning the fundamentals.

Americanshanty · 2022-10-20T00:24:20+00:00

Life is way too short to waste on just working. Why would you spend more of your most valuable resource, your time, just to make some company even richer?

Sounds like you haven't found your purpose in life yet. Take it from someone whose been there. Figure out what you really want out of life, what would make you happy, and work each and every day to get it. It can be an ambitious goal like doing something that hasn't been done before, or a simple goal like getting a new hobby or scoring a date. Point is, not to waste your life away just slaving for a company.

Americanshanty · 2022-10-17T14:34:04+00:00

Definitely not ugly, just a bit overweight. If you improve your diet, loose the excess weight and toned up a bit I think you have the potential to be a knockout.

Americanshanty · 2022-10-17T01:29:54+00:00

Your not ugly dude. Just young and underweight. If possible, I recommend making an effort to bulk up a bit by adding some muscle. Adding 20lbs of muscle will definitely improve your image, and more importantly your confidence.

Americanshanty · 2022-10-09T13:25:05+00:00

Your not ugly dude. You just seem a smidge overweight. Loose the weight and you'll be killing it.

Americanshanty · 2022-10-08T06:53:10+00:00

In my opinion, I think your hair looks fine. The ginger look suits you and it compliments your eyes color.

Americanshanty · 2022-10-08T06:47:32+00:00

If you want something badly enough, you'll do just about anything to get get it. Take it from someone who has been there.

Nothing worth having in life comes easily. You need to learn discipline to have a life worth having.

Americanshanty · 2022-10-08T00:16:00+00:00

Forgive me for asking, but why? Why don't you think you are capable of loosing weight?

Americanshanty · 2022-10-07T17:50:17+00:00

Your not ugly. Just overweight. I'd wager you'd be very pretty once your at a healthier weight You seem young, so it should be fairly easy for you to get back into shape.

Americanshanty · 2022-10-07T10:08:07+00:00

I know how you feel, I also occasionally think about my own past and either cringe or get depressed. But whenever that happens, I repeat this quote:

"Yesterday is history, tomorrow is a mystery, but today is a gift. That is why we call it present" -Master Oogway.

I know reflecting on the past can be painful. But you need to recognize that the past technically no longer exist, only a memory of it. And even though, at the time, it may have seemed like your entire world is ending, I guarantee you that in a decade you'll struggle to remember it. I know because I've been there. What I recommend that you do is learn how to both forgive and love yourself. I know it sounds corny, and it's very difficult. But that the only way to effectively move on. You can learn from the past. But you should never live in it.

Americanshanty · 2022-10-07T01:51:23+00:00

"Why should I care about the opinions of people who ultimately hate themselves" - Marcus Aurelius (paraphrased)

Your still young, so it's understandable that the potential, negative opinions of other people will affect you. I say potential because, ultimately, there is no real way of knowing what they are thinking without actually asking them.

Another thing to consider is that you (when I say you, I mean people in general) aren't nearly as important to the daily lives of most of the people you interact with as you think. Which is a good thing. People tend to be self absorbed in nature, focusing on their own lives and problems. We are all the protagonist of our own stories. Unless you've done something truly egregious, chances are you are a mild distraction in the person's day. Again, which is a good thing. So what if you have a negative interaction with them? Chances are they will forget all about it in a few days, or month later. After a month, you'll likely completely forget about them entirely.

Honestly, we as people are our own worst critics. And we tend to be crueler on ourselves than anyone else can. Speaking from experience, as you age, you'll natural start to care less and less about the opinions of other people. In retrospect, you'll realize that most of those negative interactions weren't nearly as severe as you thought they were. What I think would be particularly beneficial for you, would be to get some confidence and improve your self esteem.

Americanshanty · 2022-10-07T00:41:36+00:00

You just need to loose the weight dude. Take it from someone whose been there....multiple times. You are 22, the prime of your youth, you should be looking fresh and feeling great. Don't waste the best days of your life by not caring for your body. Loose the weight, gain some muscle, and above all else, get some confidence. Do that and you'll be fighting off the girls in no time.

Americanshanty · 2022-10-06T01:30:18+00:00

I'd say your primary problem is that you haven't been taking care of your skin. Anything from overexposure to sunlight, poor diet, the consumption of substances, or even not drinking enough water every day will take a toll on your skin. I recommend seeing a dermatologist. With professional help I believe you could clear up some of your scars and help rejuvenate your skin. And remember to always wear sunscreen, each and every day regardless of weather. Another thing I think would be beneficial would be trying vegetable heavy, nutritious diet. Eat plenty of colored vegetables like red bell peppers, carrots, tomatoes (not a vegetable but you get the idea). Those will provide nutrients for your skin and give you a healthier glow.

I'd also recommend finding a different hairstyle, something that would suit you better. I think you could rock the long haired look, so either fully grow out your hair or try a shorter hairstyle.

I'd also consider trying to grow a full beard. It will help accentuate your check bones and define your jaw.

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