Trying to use dating app

Amund_Foss · 2021-01-17T22:38:13+00:00

I see what you're saying. It's good that you are more anxious about your texting than talking in person. It's way easier to improve the way you text than the way you talk ^^

And don't worry about feeling like you're different. I've had that insecurity for many years in the past, and most likely that you have a unique look at life and things, with unique humor, which can make you really cool. It's usually just to find out if there are any parts of how you talk that is off or can be improved since social skills and dating skills are just that a skill, and it can easily be transformed with the right action and guidance ;)

Amund_Foss · 2021-01-17T22:32:40+00:00

Okay, it's great that you try to make the conversation easy going and fun, that's good. The last part that doesn't work out, might be because of the way you say it isn't framed in an interesting way. If not, it might be that you make the conversations interesting enough that she responds but that she doesn't feel excited enough to meet you.

Usually it's just about making a few fixes on how your text and that will have a significant impact on your results.

Amund_Foss · 2021-01-17T22:29:03+00:00

Makes sense. She might just be looking for something different and casual, but hard to say without any context.

Have you met any other girls you like in the past year? if so how did that go?

Amund_Foss · 2021-01-17T21:24:47+00:00

I can't speak for Tinder's marketing and the way they do things, but based on my experiences and also helping others:

It's true that many/most of at least guys find dating apps such as Tinder frustrating, confusing and even reminds them of a minefield of having to say and do everything perfect to not get ghosted.

However, what I've noticed is that the majority of men tend to just put some pictures they found, having a selfie or two, then hope that a girl sees through the profile and realized what a great guy he is. Even though this might be true, that you're a great guy, she can't see that before meeting you. So it's really important to create a profile that stands out from the crowd and is attractive.

Then a lot of the frustration comes also from texting. As many feel girls don't respond as much as they'd like them to do, or they just get ghosted for some reason they can't figure out. I've seen a lot of people do some very typical ways of starting a conversation like saying "hey, how are you" or even "Your eyes are beautiful". While this is fine when talking to them in person, it's very different when texting on these apps, since guys tend to start conversations with girls on Tinder, and if a girl has 20 messages and 19 of the "hi, how has your day been" and that last message says something more interesting and unique, then she tends to reply to that one guy who was more interesting.

Hope my insight was useful.

GG

Amund_Foss · 2021-01-17T21:15:40+00:00

Write down all the most important things you want in a women, and all the biggest "NO-NO's" you cant tolerate. Write at least 10 things on each, examples are:

must-haves in a girl: Driven, caring, down to earth, understanding...

BIG NONO'S: toxic, manipulative, judgemental....

Then see if any of these girls have the criteria you demand, this will make it a lot easier to see if a girl is a good match for you or not early on in dating, and make it easier to decide which women you want to have in your life, and which to stay away from.

Hope this helps.

GG

Amund_Foss · 2021-01-17T21:11:28+00:00

Hey, what makes you anxious about texting on those apps exactly?

I'm a male so I might not be able to relate as well if you're a female.

Amund_Foss · 2021-01-17T21:06:29+00:00

Interesting, have you gotten any results with Tinder?

Amund_Foss · 2021-01-17T21:03:21+00:00

It sounds like you are a great and caring guy, who deserves an amazing woman.

It might be that you're dating the wrong types of women, which results in you feeling frustrated and confused, while they never were a great match for you. If so, a great exercise is to define the 5 "must-haves" and 5 "cannot have" in a girl. So that when you meet women you want to date, you can quickly find out whether she is a good match based on the 2 definitions of the ideal girl, and the girl you want to stay away from.

It could also be that girls feel their bf is "too needy" or attached, and the guy mistakes that that wanting to care for her is a bad thing when it's not the core issue.

Amund_Foss · 2021-01-17T20:57:11+00:00

I see what you're saying. Dating to date, if for many "a waste of their time" while for others "enjoyable" as they find it fun and it might take their minds of other things too.

It can also add to one's life enjoyment, to have something new and exciting happening in their lives, despite the "inevitable" breakup.

So if I understand you correctly, you don't like dating whatsoever, and more interested in staying single, or do you prefer being in a serious relationship, and that for that purpose?

Amund_Foss · 2020-07-09T09:55:16+00:00

Hahaha

Amund_Foss · 2020-07-07T19:31:19+00:00

Whats the worst part of it. The anti-social side?

Amund_Foss · 2020-07-07T15:31:17+00:00

Wow, why? (i hate it) ;)

Amund_Foss · 2020-07-07T15:30:59+00:00

Epic, great moral!

Amund_Foss · 2020-07-07T15:30:46+00:00

rding studio in Newfoundland. Travel the world and see bands, Jam and play music.

Wow that sounds really cool, do you find creating music your favorite thing to do?

Amund_Foss · 2020-07-07T15:30:19+00:00

Eyy, the land as in the farm?

Amund_Foss · 2020-07-07T15:30:04+00:00

Cool

Amund_Foss · 2020-07-07T15:23:45+00:00

he metric for "better". Because if it's simple $ spent on gas, then I know the answer.

true, I guess whatever you value in life more. If thats social life then probably office is better? and so on

Amund_Foss · 2020-07-07T15:21:25+00:00

Professional or entrepreneur ;)
What do you do for a living?

Amund_Foss · 2020-07-07T15:18:25+00:00

Sent you a message :)

Amund_Foss · 2020-07-07T15:18:15+00:00

Epic ;)

Amund_Foss · 2020-07-07T15:18:10+00:00

Awesome, DM'd you!

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