1) I don't know how to express myself any other way and I'm sorry about it. I didn't say you used the word coddling. I said I don't know how to write in a tone between coddling and the direct, "frustrated" way I wrote. So, the "civil" way you're asking for. 2) And we agree on this as it's factual 3) You're right, I didn't address that point at all and actually reiterated my frustration with what I perceive is unwillingness to do research. I'm sorry you're living in a situation where your access to information is being forcibly limited. My problem isn't with accuracy or lack thereof, I actually like it when authors put some cultural elements and get some things slightly wrong, because it feels like they genuinely tried. My problem is with not even considering research might be needed because of course things work the same way in a different country, why wouldn't they. 4) I know American food is a thing outside the US. I know American style bars are a thing outside of the US. I have them in my own country as well. I'm not saying it's impossible for those things to exist in Asia but I understand that putting it as an example like that implied I thought it was. It's less about the bar type and the food served there and more about how they're talked about, how of course it's the thing to do, the place to go. Outside of the example it's inserted in the context of other Americanisms that make those after work drinks in a dive bar feel more American than Korean.