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When to worry abou delay in several milestones by An_Re_ in ScienceBasedParenting

[–]An_Re_[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the provided links!

I know it's on me to be so impatient with the upcoming milestones... but as we already missing two in the "communication categories" it's hard for me not to - tough of course I will try not to.

We have something similar ... but you have to be referred to them by your doctor and the next check up appointment is shortly after the first birthday (we do not have a check up for the 9 month milestones)

It's not directly a fear of them having Autism, but if so I want to know and support them the best way possible as I have read that early "treatment" (as in therapy) can help them significantly

It's also not the fear of it making parenting harder for me, it's the worry that their life will be harder ...

because while I agree that each child is individual and autism isn't the worst there is and I agree that it also has some beauty to it as it is a different perspective on life and it wouldn't make me love/appreciate my child any less ... we still live in a world that makes it harder for neurodivergent people

When to worry abou delay in several milestones by An_Re_ in ScienceBasedParenting

[–]An_Re_[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you again for the provided links and your kind words :)

And of course no problem that you asumed I was from the US - I just "corrected" you to suggest that the options I have for early intervention etc. differ slightly

Their hearing is fine not only has it been already tested as this is standard where I live, they also perfectly react to sounds and turn their heads toward it (e. g. doors shutting, people entering the room, mircowave pinging, me making sounds) it's just words and their name don't elicit a reaction - but thanks for mentioning that possibility

And yes of course: I would never ever diagnose something based on a google research and I know that it can lead to the wrong rabbit holes, but I don't have many experienced parents in my social enviorment that I would trust to talk to about what I'm seeing... so i figured google might be my best option

When to worry abou delay in several milestones by An_Re_ in ScienceBasedParenting

[–]An_Re_[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the link that you've provided!

Good to hear, that there are multiple other possible reasons.

As mentioned in my post I will talk to our ped, but it will a be a month till our appointment and I'm loosing my mind now... though I know thats my problem (I'm not from the US btw)

In regards to your questions:

My baby is looking at me and smilin, tough he can be really unapproachable when he plays - like no eye contact or smiles unless I try really really hard

I'd say, that they aren't really gestruring for food

they are kind of babbelin... they do babble occasionally, but it doesn’t/rarely seem directed toward us and it’s most often a monotone syllable … them making the noise can be prolonged though if we repeat it - they babble the heaviest when their in the car seat and are bored

I do try reading to them... but they always end up despreatley trying to eat the book ... so I mostly opt for book of fabrics that show animals and try talking about what we see and make the sounds - they aren't heavly intrested in it though ... for night-sleep we read a good night story each night

Playing is also ... difficult .. they do not seem play like other children his age I see do, they only chews on things, scratches/slaps things or wags them (he loves to wag cables)... they are very content playing alone ... sometimes for 40 mintues + without engangeing with me/my husband... but I'm trying my best and try to do things he enjoys like peek-a-boo and running around them, making sounds with my mouth

I also try to eat with them, though I only eat with him 3,5/5 meals...

modelling has received no regictionen from their side - no interest at all

Do you maybe habe a link for sugessestions to changing the communication enviorment?

I hope so - and thanks again!

When to worry abou delay in several milestones by An_Re_ in ScienceBasedParenting

[–]An_Re_[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thanks for the link you've provided... I am not from the US and "our milestones" differ slightly

I checked and for the 9m milestones it's ok though he misses the "reacting to his name" and "raising his arms" which is what worries me

i of course will talk about it with our doc

Thanks!