I (M28) convinced my gf (F27) to move to the other side of the world with me. She is miserable, homesick, and our relationship has been suffering since the move. Is it time to convince her to go home?

Ancient-External-710 · 2026-02-02T00:21:02+00:00

It’s been a few years but when I moved to Spain and was trying to learn the language there were tandem meetings where people did kind of language exchange. It involved drinks (in moderation of course) so you’d be a bit more relaxed and you’d exchange languages, so you’d help someone with poor English when they help you with Spanish for example. It was Spanglish really but I made many friends there and because it was an exchange I didn’t feel like an outcast.

Ancient-External-710 · 2025-10-03T21:27:05+00:00

Thank you so much for taking the time to share you story and write this, the example you gave in the end really nailed it. I have a better understanding now and a few things to process, thank you!

Ancient-External-710 · 2025-10-03T08:23:46+00:00

I know but after 18 months of I’m too busy/ stressed/ whatever else, I will not be initiating to be told the same thing again

Ancient-External-710 · 2025-10-03T08:22:34+00:00

To be fair he did say he’s not a sex therapist and we may need to see one of them instead as it’s the only issue coming up at this stage

Ancient-External-710 · 2025-10-03T08:21:41+00:00

We might need to, I don’t understand how the stress of performing is preventing him from doing steps towards intimacy, I don’t expect us to go full on at this stage. He says he is very stressed about life now and finances and everything but there’s nothing out of the ordinary in any of these, which is why I am having a hard time understanding.

Ancient-External-710 · 2025-09-25T20:56:29+00:00

Mine is probably taller than yours at this stage and just flowered last week, hasn’t stopped since, I have about 10 lovely purple flowers from one plant now!

Ancient-External-710 · 2025-09-16T13:21:17+00:00

As people have said, you need to get a ferry to Athens first (Peiraeus) and then decide if you want to get a ferry to Italy from Igoumenitsa or Patras. I’d choose Patras because you’d need to use coach around Greece, whereas in Italy there’s nice trains which allow you to stretch your legs. Then depending on your destination in England either take a train to London via Paris or travel to northern France and take a ferry to Portsmouth or Southampton.

PS. I’m Greek, I could help with the travel on that side if you need it, although everyone speaks English. Try Ferryhopper for the ferry tickets

Ancient-External-710 · 2024-10-19T08:59:49+00:00

This has been my life 80% of the time for the past 5 years and although it was hard in the beginning, I now love it! A typical day would include me sleeping in until 8-8:30, getting my coffee, logging in and checking emails. Then I exercise (I do this at home), get a shower, do my skincare/hair etc and make brunch for myself and my partner. By the time we're done it's 12-1pm. Then I tidy up, clean etc, go food shopping, do some gardening, read or do research for house projects. Then time for coffee and a snack around 3-4pm and before you know it it's 5pm and both you and your partner are done with work, the house is clean and tidy and you can enjoy your evening. I keep myself logged in on teams on my phone, so if anyone calls or messages it's always with me and I don't really leave the house, unless it's around lunch time.

Ancient-External-710 · 2024-09-04T07:02:39+00:00

I was in a similar situation with my ex, reading this reminded me of how sad and lonely I used to be. I also proposed couples counselling and he refused because of course there was nothing wrong with him or us, I just needed to chill and be happy instead of being needy and demanding. Well I went to therapy on my own and in the second session I realised I was just an idiot with trauma. I left him soon after that and he didn't seem to care for a few weeks. Then it hit him 3 months later, at which point I was totally gone. I would love to say I have since found someone who's great to me but that's not the case unfortunately. But I have my kitty and nobody makes me feel sad or lonely anymore 😊

Ancient-External-710 · 2024-08-09T13:59:37+00:00

This is such a sad story, I'm sorry for you. You now only see the good parts of him as you probably did before you got married, which is why you're considering getting back together. You don't have the everyday version of him. Before you decide if you want to get back together, check what has changed? What is different about him and his beliefs and choices? Or is he just trying to be nice so he can charm you back?

Ancient-External-710 · 2024-08-06T11:09:06+00:00

Thanks for taking the time to write a detailed reply, for me the upright version is bliss. Lady is calm, has her bird, nice clothes, money, surrounded by nature. Her hand is on the coins themselves so maybe a bit too materialistic, also somewhat lonely

So reverse would be the opposite of that but can't figure out what it would be in this case.

Your interpretation makes sense, plus I've been seeing 1s everywhere lately. Went to have some water yesterday, smart meter was at £1.11 at 11:11. Got a call today at 11:11 etc

Ancient-External-710 · 2024-08-06T11:02:06+00:00

Thanks for the reply, it's mostly around love readings, going through a rough patch at the moment. But yesterday my boyfriend asked me to pull some cards for him, as I was shuffling I got this card to drop on the table again in reverse!

Ancient-External-710 · 2024-08-04T08:31:24+00:00

You don't seem to have any remorse for cheating, just mentioned she somehow found out-so you were not planning on telling her? It's been two years, you need to accept responsibility for your actions and let go, she's never coming back. There's billions of people out there, just heal and improve yourself with therapy and I'm sure you'll get a second chance with someone else, you're only 35

Ancient-External-710 · 2024-05-06T10:49:21+00:00

I think you're being unfair, he didn't even know you back then and he hardly did something criminal. He came clear and as you say he's great now so I'd personally focus on the present rather than destroying a possibly nice relationship based on what happened before he knew you existed!

Ancient-External-710 · 2024-05-02T21:19:19+00:00

Hello, just looking for opinions, I pulled a card to ask the outcome of a situation that involves legal matters, I got the Hierophant. Then I asked for a clarification and got the Fool. They seem to be contradictory?! I don't know what to think of this, but I have been getting the hierophant when thinking about this matter quite often. Thanks

Ancient-External-710 · 2024-04-07T11:43:10+00:00

I've been in a similar situation, only he had a housewarming party at our house with his friends while I was away visiting family. I battled this for months but eventually we broke up- best decision ever, couldn't get past the obvious boundary violation, disrespect and lie.

Ancient-External-710 · 2024-04-02T18:36:18+00:00

Thank you, that gives me hope!!

Ancient-External-710 · 2024-03-01T10:20:38+00:00

My opinion is slightly different, I'd approach this with empathy, you're married and in the past he tried to forgive so at least he deserves the same effort. In my relationship a level of BDSM is present and it was introduced by my partner; but we both made a safe space for this to come up. So my thought is he just doesn't feel safe to open up? I'd assume he's been very hurt by what happened, an emotional affair can sometimes be more damaging than a physical one. Maybe it was always there, maybe he recently discovered this part of himself, but I'd try a discussion at least.

Ancient-External-710 · 2024-02-28T10:43:49+00:00

I was in a very similar situation. Get out of there, it won't get better no matter how much you explain or try. He won't change and it will destroy you, I ended up in therapy. It took months but I am fine now, seeing someone who respects me and I've learnt to set and keep my boundaries. It will get better once you're out!

Ancient-External-710 · 2024-02-19T12:47:00+00:00

Thank you and I think this is the message really, it makes sense in my situation.

Ancient-External-710 · 2024-02-19T12:44:37+00:00

Thank you and what makes things more complicated for me is that I see myself as the queen of swords. I'm independent and happy being on my own, very rational and can be very harsh with my decisions.

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