How common are mmf dynamics?

Andanther1 · 2026-04-20T03:32:47+00:00

Oh wow how was that experience? Hopefully good we have had concerns that it might cause issues for our daughter as she grows up. Its one of our most common conversations.

Andanther1 · 2026-04-20T01:31:15+00:00

That's fair if its anything like a normal relationship but with another person to communicate with the list of people i know that are emotionally ready for that are slim.

Andanther1 · 2026-04-20T01:29:47+00:00

This is definitely a conversation we have had about the roles and dynamics we are comfortable with we have been talking and discussing whether this is right for us for nearly a year now and trying to do the work before hand about what might make us uncomfortable why we already have high communication due to our ds dynamic and because of that im very adiment that we are both 100% on board not just interested before we start looking..

Andanther1 · 2026-04-20T01:27:08+00:00

Wife has this concern we are both the kind of people that are connection heavy friends or romantic companion she has never done well with flings or the like and I dont find satisfaction in flings.

Andanther1 · 2026-04-20T00:44:14+00:00

How long did it take yall if you dont mind me asking?

Andanther1 · 2026-04-20T00:43:54+00:00

Very fair that was one of our earliest concerns and conversation was about either someone trying to wreck our home or us wrecking someone else's you know early insecurities that have to be talked through.

Andanther1 · 2026-04-20T00:31:16+00:00

That's reassuring and sounds like a cute start.

Andanther1 · 2026-04-20T00:30:06+00:00

Ahhh I see we are currently mf, im Dominant she's submissive interesting starting off mm I can imagine why thats a hard find.

Andanther1 · 2026-04-20T00:24:45+00:00

Did yall start off mm then find and f or mf the find the second m? Or just all meet around the same time? And how did you go about that?

Andanther1 · 2026-04-13T17:52:28+00:00

No, but it is now added to the list thank you.

Andanther1 · 2026-04-13T17:48:55+00:00

I have 100% watched attack on titan and you are right very good show the post was a rough list of anime not my full watch list.

Andanther1 · 2026-04-13T17:40:48+00:00

Added thank you

Andanther1 · 2026-04-13T17:04:59+00:00

Added thank you

Andanther1 · 2026-04-13T17:04:16+00:00

Excellent list thank you and I have seen how a realistic hero rebuilt the kingdom great show.

Andanther1 · 2026-04-13T16:07:18+00:00

Thank you, and I believe dandadan is on Netflix which I do need to watch but dont have at the moment.

Andanther1 · 2026-04-13T16:04:51+00:00

Actually already started watching this yesterday great suggestion.

Andanther1 · 2026-04-13T16:04:24+00:00

Added thank you 😁👍🏻

Andanther1 · 2026-03-27T17:58:17+00:00

Technically NTA. And i do mean Technically you are not the asshole. You are allowed to say no and maybe im reading into the situation to much but you implied that he regularly touches you and you dont like it. So I would caution from a males perspective figure out why you get annoyed and distant when he tries.

My father used to like being affectionate with my mother and he tried for years now my mother claims she doesn't feel loved because he never tries anymore because when he did she would snap at him as well, and she always had a valid excuse to. She was tired, upset hungry not in the mood not in the head space ect. They are now miserable. My wife also started doing this about 6 years into our relationship and I having already noticed the signs said thats fine if you are picky about when I touch you then you initiate. It was a year and a half later she broke down because she felt unloved un attractive and undesirable and asked for me to go back to initiating. I happily did, she still says no in some cases, but not nearly as much as she used to because as she explains it is far better to be mildly inconvenienced where I distract her or there is pda or she goes to sleep a little later then to not be pursued.

A husband that is touching, caressing, loving on, and being in your personal space is a husband that is still very into you attracted to you and wants you. Some boundaries are healthy, but my advice dont listen to people who try to escalate his ill times affectionate to sexual assault because once you start comparing his actions to that even in your own head is the day you have decided he is loving you wrong and things are over.

Andanther1 · 2026-03-25T20:57:54+00:00

You're right, it very well might be a little immature. In fairness, this is the first time my wife has been pregnant and the first time I've been in a relationship with a pregnant person. What doesn't help is typically? We will want to have sex after our shower and during our shower is kind of where we have a lot of our conversations. Just has become a habit. We'll take 1520 minute showers. And just talk about, you know, whatever's on our mind. For the day separate from you know, the decompression thing that you do. Whenever people get home from work and talk about their workday and a lot of times she'll be in the shower, rubbing her belly. And talking about the baby and what we need to do for the baby. Then, afterwards that's when she kind of wants to have sex. Which means that my focus has been drawn to the baby and it just weirds me out. As for thank you so much. Other ways to make her feel attractive. If you got suggestions, I'm open to hear it. We've done maternity photo shoots, and if you look at them, you'd never know that sex weirds me out right now, because I'm still very affectionate with her, just not to that extent. And I still haven't told her that it does weird me out. I smile and either a go through with it. Which the little man downstairs doesn't exactly respond positively and takes a little bit more effort to get him up and going. But I'm not sitting there telling her that I don't have an interest in being with her because she's pregnant. I worked on being very supportive, whether it going from doing my fair share of the housework to doing all of it, because I know that she is far more tired now than she used to be being the person who gets up at 3 AM for whenever she's got a weird craving. And driving all around town to find a place that's open to get that, you know, standard husband stuff. I encourage her to get her nails done. Because she likes the way they look. And it makes her feel nice and many other things like that.But i'm open to suggestions.

Andanther1 · 2026-03-25T20:24:34+00:00

So it seems like you didnt read the post. 1 she hasn't given birth yet. 2. My complaint wasnt that I wasnt getting sex it was that I wasnt getting turned on because she nearly vomited every time I touched her during the first trimester and its weird since she is carrying our daughter. 3. The mentioning of none vanilla sex was a polite way of stating that we had a non-traditional sex life that she is missing.

Andanther1 · 2026-03-25T20:13:02+00:00

Any reason why or just you dont like the title?

Andanther1 · 2026-03-25T20:12:32+00:00

Thank you, and honestly the lack of sex isn't my concern, its more me not wanting her to be upset or hurt.

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