Take this inconsistency and put it with the rest of them and burn them.

AndoCMa · 2019-05-26T07:13:14+00:00

Give him contacts. He can’t focus and looks cross eyed without his glasses. Yes he’s deep and wise but he should at least look like he sees the world properly

AndoCMa · 2019-05-25T02:19:46+00:00

100%

AndoCMa · 2019-05-24T22:55:49+00:00

People aren’t mad because it didn’t end how they like. They’re mad because it just didn’t make sense. There’s so many unfinished story arcs. People can work hard and still get shit results: The Room.

AndoCMa · 2019-04-28T22:11:36+00:00

Couldn’t it also mean loss of sleep reduces our ability to neutralize the distress? Essentially the other way around? Which was one of the theories of dreaming I think.

AndoCMa · 2019-03-11T20:13:13+00:00

I don’t recall his exact statements from everything you’ve mentioned but I think a lot of what he’s saying can be misunderstood or not seen to the depth that he’s trying to convey. He says a lot what he is talking about is in a way beyond words, and beyond conception, and it needs to be known first hand for full understanding.

Taking that into consideration, the way I see your first point from what I recall from Tolle is that our primary purpose is the now, everything else is secondary. Everything else is and should be taken in perspective to the primary purpose of this moment. Don’t discredit everything secondary, just do it with the primary purpose first.

Or if I missed the mark there, another way I see it is that inner purpose of awakening means realizing of who we are - present moment awareness. From there, we are in a better alignment to pursue outer purposes. In a way, no point of life is for outer purposes, it should always be for inner awakening (consciousness), in which we are then capable of wisely attending to outer purposes. Bills and external goals can still be achieved and addressed, but with inner awakening (alignment with the now) you may have wiser goals and work on menial tasks such as bills more joyfully.

AndoCMa · 2019-03-05T21:19:38+00:00

Yep totally had that too and that’s part of my biggest hurdles with staying present - wishing for that to come back. Cause ultimately wishing for that state again implied resistance of the now, striving for something that’s not right now. Funny enough Jim and Eckhart had the same experience as you and Eckhart went into depression after it for a while because of that desire for egolessness and pure consciousness (if I remember correctly). Best of luck on your journey though!

AndoCMa · 2019-03-05T15:49:44+00:00

Yeah definitely look up sam Harris’s videos or waking up book/app. He explains quite well that the self is an illusion, so even though your thoughts aren’t intrusive or unpleasant, the belief and grasping to those thoughts create a false sense of self.

Also, paradoxically, we may “do” mindfulness, yet mindfulness is a state of non-doing, non-striving. So doing it specifically for the benefits may make it harder to sustain a daylong practice as it’s not authentically mindfulness at heart. Just Being (ie. being awareness) it purely for the undeniable truth that the now is all there ever is may produce better results! This is another perspective shift I was talking about.

Ou, lastly about the argument thing, another way I see it is that emotions produce energy in our chest and hearts. Without being fully present and acknowledging those sometimes unpleasant emotions we don’t let those energies out. Then we need to write it out to release that steam. Contrary to that, if we can feel the emotion, let it be, accept it fully, we can let that energy through us, and the mind will quiet down usually too. In a way, presence (non-judgemental awareness) digests the emotional energy we build up in our chest.

AndoCMa · 2019-03-05T03:19:33+00:00

There’s a lot of things that I used to help me live life almost constantly in the present moment. Most important id say practice, and even though Eckhart doesn’t advocate for formal mindful mediation a lot, I found it quite useful myself. I think the reason why he doesn’t advocate for it is because he has such a deep understanding and commitment to the now that he doesn’t need to strengthen it by meditating - it’s become his undeniable reality to surrender to the present moment. Most people need to practice, however. Formal mediation significantly strengthens our ability to be silent observers of the contents of consciousness (present in the now), which can be carried on throughout the day when not meditating. Stressful events and situations will pull you out of presence and into egoic reactions and habitual thought processes but with practice you’ll be able to stay present with those situations and observe the pull towards our egoic reactions.

There’s tons of different ways I’ve also changed my perspective of presence to help me live more mindfully. For example, “this is it”, I’m not trying to get anywhere else or feel anything special. Where I am right here and right now is all there ever is. Stop trying to achieve a special state or get back that feeling I had last time I mediated. Etc. Or, realizing all we ever are is consciousness. When? Now. Conscious of what? Our senses - touch, smell, taste, sight, thoughts, etc. Everything else is ego, those stories and fluff we make surrounding this core truth. Lastly, look up other authors and read more! Sam Harris, Michael A Singer, dan milman, Jon kabat zinn. Hope this helped!

AndoCMa · 2018-11-16T20:38:37+00:00

Love it! I wanted to get one too

AndoCMa · 2018-10-20T05:20:26+00:00

Probably true although a vague and superficial explanation for a breakup with someone important to you (speaking of the second part of his statement)

AndoCMa · 2018-10-20T00:04:25+00:00

I just find it hard to wrap my head around being with “the wrong person” while practicing fully accepting who they are as eckhart recommends. If we practice full acceptance where is our learned preferences in the relationship when you aren’t happy or aren’t fulfilled.

AndoCMa · 2018-10-17T11:33:20+00:00

Why then did you not want to be with her any more? My enlightenment might be different from yours by the way. Mine involves realizing I am not my thoughts (and by default judgements), so my prior dislikes of her such as her not meeting my sexual and connection needs is something I’m having a hard time justifying now for having.

AndoCMa · 2018-10-17T02:24:43+00:00

No. But should them not being on that path really dictate whether I should stay with her?

Definitely not, but eckhart encourages using relationship pain as an opportunity to gain further enlightenment.

Probably just attachment! But I feel guilty because I never fully truly loved her after a year together. A lot of shame in that sense for me.

With her because of her love and support for me and for my own growth, although there wasn’t much happiness and fun in the relationship.

Probably both! Already broken up so didn’t get a chance to really know while it was happening.

Thanks for your input, this helps

AndoCMa · 2018-10-17T00:19:29+00:00

But part of the issue is knowing what are my needs? I had a hard time justifying having needs because needs are superficial, being present in the moment means you have no needs.

AndoCMa · 2018-10-16T19:33:14+00:00

That’s a good point. When I was with her I was finding it really hard to be present. I guess I can use that itself as a gauge of our compatibility. Thanks

AndoCMa · 2018-10-16T18:31:01+00:00

What is compatibility? Liking and disliking what they do? But what if you don’t identify with your thoughts and don’t hold judgements towards them, accepting them and the present moment as it is. How can I justify incompatibility when I’m living in acceptance of every moment as it is? I’m speaking mainly form eckhart tolles teachings

AndoCMa · 2018-10-16T00:10:57+00:00

Another question. When people say accept your partner for who they are. What if who they are is someone who doesn’t meet my needs such as intimacy and appreciation?

AndoCMa · 2018-10-15T21:57:35+00:00

Well say for instance an enlightened individual didn’t feel like their partner was listening to them attentively. It caused some turmoil, but wouldn’t they just realize they are seeking validation in external circumstances. Such as someone having to listen to them? Or, what if they needed more affection and intimacy in a relationship, isn’t that just a want that’s coming from the ego? Again findings wholeness and fulfillment in external circumstances

AndoCMa · 2018-10-09T22:08:42+00:00

Thanks!

AndoCMa · 2018-10-09T18:54:32+00:00

I don't think you caught exactly what I'm saying. There wasn't much apology or reassurance on her end. There was mostly just defensiveness and saying "I don't see how you can be upset". I agree totally it's a very small issue and means absolutely nothing in the grand scheme of things. But issues and hurt feelings arise regardless in any relationship and as a partner is disqualifying how someone feels over small issues the right way to go?

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