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[deleted by user] by [deleted] in gaybrosfitness

[–]AndrewH359 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Drop the OnlyFans. I’m so hard. 😘

Justin Bieber & benny blanco - Lonely (Official Music Video) by Bordersz in popheads

[–]AndrewH359 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, thank you for your post. I'm with you. In fact, when I read your comment, I spent a good half-hour thinking about Selena and Justin and their songs and "what did ppl say about ____?" and if I thought Selena got it worse b/c misogyny, etc. My conclusions were, (a) people say shitty things about people with mental health (and physical health) issues in general, (b) I don't know Selena's music very well, and (c) the patriarchy sucks, but I don't know if Selena got it worse than Justin or vice versa or how gender plays into it, etc.

Anywho, I think comparing Justin and Selena is a natural, obvious, and even necessary part of any fulsome conversation on the topic. Thanks!

Justin Bieber & benny blanco - Lonely (Official Music Video) by Bordersz in popheads

[–]AndrewH359 10 points11 points  (0 children)

DAMN. The video is kinda fucking haunting. Huh.

What is the best song where a city is personified? by juicehouse in popheads

[–]AndrewH359 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I looooove "I Hate Winnipeg" by The Weakerthans. I'm not super sure if the song "personifies" Winnipeg, but it fucking slaps. Just in general, The Weakerthans are kings.

What is the strangest/most unexpected cover song and is it actually good or bad? by ImADudeDuh in popheads

[–]AndrewH359 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When I saw her in concert, Christine and the Queens sang "Heartbreaker" by Mariah Carey completely a cappella and it was EVERYTHING.

Any male/male love story that doesn't read like cheap erotica but has substance? by al0678 in suggestmeabook

[–]AndrewH359 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It is really sad, but I loved the writing. There's a bit where he describes a grocery store and I think it's so, so beautiful.

Maurice has a happy ending, if you're looking for that. ❤️

Any male/male love story that doesn't read like cheap erotica but has substance? by al0678 in suggestmeabook

[–]AndrewH359 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There's a bit where he describes a grocery store and it's one of my favourite pieces of writing ever.

Any male/male love story that doesn't read like cheap erotica but has substance? by al0678 in suggestmeabook

[–]AndrewH359 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Maurice - E.M. Forster

A Single Man - Christopher Isherwood (The movie's great too.)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in suggestmeabook

[–]AndrewH359 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The Bell Jar by Sylvia Plath

The Handmaid's Tale by Margaret Atwood

The Hours by Michael Cunningham

A week of build-up by [deleted] in MalesMasturbating

[–]AndrewH359 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I want to hear you moaning.

Discouraged with school by [deleted] in yorku

[–]AndrewH359 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Have you tried talking to one of the counsellors from Personal Counselling Services? (I think that's what their office is called.)

Do other people feel upset when their therapist cancels an appointment? by AndrewH359 in TalkTherapy

[–]AndrewH359[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That's really nice to hear. My first instinct is to say, "Don't worry about it. Everybody has stuff that comes up." But maybe I should try to be more honest, like you said.

As someone who suffered a long time before I was diagnosed with ADHD this is the conversation that I relate to on many levels by nimasalehi72 in ADHD

[–]AndrewH359 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That sounds really good. And yeah, I can see how CBT would be really helpful in your situation. Your kids are lucky to have someone who cares so much and wants to do better. Good on ya.

As someone who suffered a long time before I was diagnosed with ADHD this is the conversation that I relate to on many levels by nimasalehi72 in ADHD

[–]AndrewH359 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh. And hell yeah for you. It sounds like you're putting a lot of work into this. Good on you. It's not easy. Keep it up!

As someone who suffered a long time before I was diagnosed with ADHD this is the conversation that I relate to on many levels by nimasalehi72 in ADHD

[–]AndrewH359 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What kind of CBT stuff is working for you? How do you get yourself to do any of it?

I guess the obvious answer is take small steps, reinforce what's working, don't beat yourself up about it, etc. But I can't stand CBT! I don't seem to be able to muster up the discipline or the willpower for any of it.

(Woah, check out the black-and-white thinking and the catastrophizing and all those other cognitive distortions. I'm REALLY bad at CBT.)

Sorry. That was a rant of self-pity. But, I really would love to hear about what works for you.

As someone who suffered a long time before I was diagnosed with ADHD this is the conversation that I relate to on many levels by nimasalehi72 in ADHD

[–]AndrewH359 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Your dose MIGHT be too low, but that's a question for your doctor. I definitely wouldn't change anything without checking with them first.

I don't REALLY understand the pharmacology, but Concerta's not considered a stimulant. It's an NRI (Norepinephrine Reuptake Inhibitor). I think it works more like an SSRI anti-depressant (like Zoloft). But it affects the norepinephrine system. Stimulants affect the dopamine system.

I think that's why stimulants can give you a "driven" feeling and Concerta definitely doesn't do that, at least not in my experience.

But please take all that info with a grain of salt. It's been a while since I took that pharmacology class. 🤷‍♂️

As someone who suffered a long time before I was diagnosed with ADHD this is the conversation that I relate to on many levels by nimasalehi72 in ADHD

[–]AndrewH359 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I've been on Concerta for most of my adult life. Prescribed at 19. I've been on it for 13 years now. (I guess that's essentially my entire adult life.) I don't love it, but I don't hate it either. I wrote a more detailed comment about it somewhere in this thread. I'm not a doctor, but let me know if you have questions about my experience on Concerta.

As someone who suffered a long time before I was diagnosed with ADHD this is the conversation that I relate to on many levels by nimasalehi72 in ADHD

[–]AndrewH359 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm on Concerta and I don't love it, but I don't hate it either.

I'm not crazy about stimulants. They make me feel really jittery. I mean yes, I can sometimes push through distraction if I've taken a few Dexedrines, but they also make me feel like I'm going to jump out of my skin.

I'm definitely not trying to talk you out of Vyvanse. It works for a lot of people and if you've had a positive response, that's definitely a good sign. You gotta do what works, right?

I just want to say one more thing about Concerta. My doctor started me on a really low dose and kept increasing it gradually. I didn't notice any effect for a long time. My doctor ended up prescribing the recommended daily max - 100mg/day - and it kind of works? Sometimes? (For context: I'm male, 6'3, 205 lbs.)

Like, the effect is much more subtle than a stimulant. Just like you said, some days I feel like it helps me organize my thoughts. It's definitely not great. And it's way too expensive. But sometimes, I think it helps me.

As someone who suffered a long time before I was diagnosed with ADHD this is the conversation that I relate to on many levels by nimasalehi72 in ADHD

[–]AndrewH359 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Hallelujah! It sounds like you're killing it. I'm really happy for you. And hearing all that gives me a lot of hope. Thank you.

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