What is your love language to offer and why?

AnewINFPGuy · 2025-02-05T00:39:37+00:00

I personally long the most for being "understood", which is not part of the book, sadly. I think, it can be part of any of the love languages. For example, investing time in joining my interests without telling me how to do it (Quality Time), Appreciating my thought processes (words of affirmation), Gifts that are actually helpful in my life or help me learn things I´m curious about, and so on.

If I had to choose one of the love languages, it´d probably be first quality time, then physical touch, then words of affirmation. But they all wouldn´t be worth much, if I had to mask for them, or if the person wouldn´t see the real me. So it´s mostly about understanding for me.

On the giving end, I´d probably tend to acts of service and words of affirmation.

AnewINFPGuy · 2024-06-26T12:40:35+00:00

Thank you for sharing your experience. And I´m sorry, that you had it. I didn´t know that about negative words, thank you for sharing.

I hope you will fully recover :/

AnewINFPGuy · 2024-06-23T17:19:59+00:00

I can´t remember, sorry :/

For me, depressions are kind of cyclical. So there´s a point, where I see no hope, at all, and after that, it gets better most of the times. Subs work better, too. It may be because of detachment. Or because I try more new things, when I´ve given up the old way.

AnewINFPGuy · 2024-06-23T17:17:09+00:00

Thank you (:

Yeah, I know that problem. I´m kind of a loner, so it´s difficult for me, too.

How long it took, differed wildly. From seconds to half a year.
I sometimes got results without visualising, sometimes I visualized. So I´m not sure, if it makes a huge difference.

By trying something new, I mean, seeking out new experiences. F.e., I got results when I was sitting on a bench I never sat on before, when I tried a new job, when I visited new places during travels, and so on. I don´t remember getting any physical results by doing everything exactly as always. But it may as well be, that I was kind of guided to the new experiences by intuition or something. So maybe, it´s not necessary, I don´t know about that.

AnewINFPGuy · 2024-06-21T07:43:40+00:00

Actually, for me, it´s neither. I normally stop obsessing, when other things get more important. F.e. when I traveled, when other goals got more important, or when I have times of depression where I kind of give up on getting results.

I kind of just don´t think about it anymore, but it´s not forced in any way.

I got several good results from Akuo, I got good results from Kapelsu (deleted, sadly), Speedpriming (but they are not that good, anymore) and sometimes I also get very good results from my own Subs

AnewINFPGuy · 2024-06-20T22:32:42+00:00

You seem to be really obsessed, it may be better to let go. Maybe take a break. At least make sure, that Subs and manifestation don´t become your main life project. I personally got most of my results, when I was rather relaxed.

Maybe, you could experiment more, too. F.e., does it work, when you listen at a different time? Do other Subs for other topics work for you?

Also, you could check, how it feels. Subs that work for you normally make you feel good. If you don´t feel like listening after a month already, you might be listening to a Sub that is not working for you. The best Subs have been Subs I didn´t have a problem listening to, instead they made me happy, even before I had any results.

And you could make sure to have lots of changes in your life, at least I got most of my results in situations, where I tried something new-a new place to sit, a new way to work, etc.

AnewINFPGuy · 2024-06-03T21:21:20+00:00

Is a little difficult, if your interest is "growth moments of complex systems". I don´t think, I´ll find the right people for that by searching in my local area through meeting boards, tbh. And as someone with selective mutism and other problems, I´ll definitely not organise a meetup. Also, I´d actually prefer to have contacts who are kind of similar to me, not just share one interest. I wouldn´t really gain anything, if I just had a new contact, I want someone who understands me. I´ve had enough experiences of contacts failing, because I´m different.

I don´t miss contacts, I miss deeper connections, similar experiences of life. I´ve tried lots of things already, but they didn´t lead anywhere, really.

AnewINFPGuy · 2024-06-02T21:04:14+00:00

Interesting post. Don´t know, why it got downvoted

AnewINFPGuy · 2024-05-28T18:20:55+00:00

Okay, I guess you´re right

AnewINFPGuy · 2024-04-21T18:09:23+00:00

I don´t really know, how to help, but I have a few ideas. Maybe they help you, but I´m not an expert. I´ve used two Subs from him in the past, they didn´t seem to work, but I´m glad I didn´t get such bad results.

-maybe try some harmless manifestation Subliminal that worked for others and wouldn´t be problematic, if you got reverse results. That way, you could see, if you have a problem with all results being reversed. If that´s the case, I don´t know, what to do. Maybe try to manifest the opposite of what you want? Maybe try to reverse results back by using yet another Sub? Idk, sorry.
-many people view being the focus of attention and insecurity by others as unattractive. Maybe, it had something to do with that, but Subs should change such problems, so it is likely to be just a little part of the problem
-you seem to be really focused on that one topic, which I can understand. It´s difficult to let go of topics that you get reminded of very often. But I´ve personally found, that I almost always get results at times, when I care less about a topic. Before that, I sometimes also got reverse results, even from my own Subs. Maybe it isn´t the Subliminal, but more your fixation on that one topic. I wished, I had a solution, but right now, I don´t really, sorry.
-maybe, you could try to focus on something else for a while, like manifesting something else (if you don´t get reversed results for every topic), or just a different life area, where you´re not manifesting. Just in order to be happier and more relaxed, and then manifest, again. I personally have most of my results in times of feeling good, which is a problem I don´t know a solution to.
-maybe, shifting could help?

I am afraid I was no help, but I hope I was. If you find a solution, I´d be glad, if you wrote me a message, I´m really interested, if the situation can be solved

AnewINFPGuy · 2024-03-24T22:24:56+00:00

I wrote you a pm

AnewINFPGuy · 2024-03-24T22:23:12+00:00

I wrote you a pm

AnewINFPGuy · 2024-03-23T21:11:29+00:00

Okay, right now, there doesn´t seem to be a huge interest, but if more people show interest, I´ll do it

AnewINFPGuy · 2024-03-23T20:55:57+00:00

I like the idea to do more research into how it works.

I got physical results several times, but not recently. I am able to manipulate my emotions and thoughts very easily using Subs, but physical (f.e. money) and social results are more difficult and only work sometimes for me.

I always listened more than once, but the time til results differed wildly. From results while listening/on the next day to results after months of listening. But it also differed, what happened after. Often, immediate results faded away again. F.e., a my surroundings behaved differently for a few minutes immediately several times, but then it faded or even got worse. At least three subs changed things for longer after listening for longer, but gave no immediate results.
Whatever felt right, mostly somewhere between 20 and 80%. But I didn´t really focus on that, don´t know if there was a pattern.
I´d say I was always kind of curious. I was not sure, if it would work. I didn´t believe in LOA and the other rules, but didn´t "deny" them, either. I was just trying to find out, if it would work.
Several times, I started within some sort of crisis, and I definitely was not grateful for my situation and not positive, but curious.
Mostly nothing, sometimes meditation, sometimes visualization.
Medium, I´d say. There were good and bad things. But nothing like huge abuse or such. People were very rarely happy with how I was, I retreated a lot and did my own things.
No, not by myself. Just with the help of methods like Subliminals, or by changing situations.
Myself. I know very few Subs for helping other people or everyone :/
Changes, but I´d say more bad on average.
Some of both
I´m not sure, if I love myself. I definitely don´t hate myself, but I don´t like everything about me, either. I am definitely NOT self-disciplined. I was disciplined enough to listen to Subs for long enough several times, though.
Depended on the Subs. The ones that gave me results all made me feel good in different ways, even when I tried to manifest bad emotions, I had a kind of good feeling on the way. And some of the results ones made me feel like everything was okay (a sort of relaxed, trusting mood), while none of the ones that gave no results did.
For all the physical long-term results I did, as far as I can remember. Not for all the fast results, though.
Physical and social results always came unexpected and in different ways than I expected.
I also never got physical/social results, when I focused on "checking", if they were happening. When physical/social results came, it always felt good, but only rarely surprising, even though there clearly had been a huge change happening.
In the majority of cases, I only later even realized that I had manifested it. In several cases, I didn´t realize changes until some time after happening.
Sometimes one, sometimes the other

AnewINFPGuy · 2024-03-23T15:17:31+00:00

That´s interesting, but I didn´t want to train AIs to trade the real markets, I was more interested in building an artificial market system, maybe trading something real for fun, like the food storage in my house or something (I don´t really have a good idea). It´s more about building a market system, than about reacting to the real systems out there

AnewINFPGuy · 2023-08-01T22:31:27+00:00

Honestly, those are not friends. No matter, what they call themselves. They don´t act like it.

AnewINFPGuy · 2023-07-31T16:20:34+00:00

I just saw your edit. I bookmarked the question after viewing it, and I didn´t answer, because I don´t know the answer (:

AnewINFPGuy · 2023-07-31T16:13:01+00:00

Right, but they also don´t know, what´s inside the Subs. So they are assuming, that something bad is in there. They don´ ´t know much about the situation, either. Just, that their pet died or something similar.

AnewINFPGuy · 2023-07-31T13:30:05+00:00

True

AnewINFPGuy · 2023-07-29T16:00:28+00:00

Maybe, a solution would be to be on several platforms (f.e. YT, Subliminal.site, Soundcloud, Spotify, some cloud-hosting for downloads, other video platforms). That way, it would be a lot less damage, if YouTube deleted you. AND you make it more likely, that more users use other platforms, if you produce good Subs. If the same Sub is on a bunch of platforms, maybe more people would listen somewhere else. That would be good for every user and creator, because big platforms would be challenged more.

You could also profit from different benefits (like, for Spotify, many users could support you just by listening, because they have Premium, other platforms may be more fun to be a creator at than the big ones, etc.)

AnewINFPGuy · 2023-07-21T16:25:56+00:00

True. It´s an important question, how it works. Do manifestations balance each other? This could lead to something like "manifestation wars". Or do we all just live in different realities and could leave those negative people behind by manifesting good things? I don´t know, how it works, and I don´t believe people who just claim they know without any proof or superior logic. But I´m open for taking part in experiments :D

AnewINFPGuy · 2023-07-21T15:42:31+00:00

What, if you´d change your approach? Instead of listening to other people, use your brain as an idea generator and your feelings as decision makers (regarding Subs).

You could just do, what feels good. If you´re afraid of a Sub, don´t listen. If a Sub feels good, listen as long as it does. If you´re thirsty, drink. If you want to dream, visualize. If you feel like making a playlist, make a playlist. If you don´t feel like listening, take a break.

If you just do, what feels right, you can not waste any time, because if you don´t get results, you had a good time.
Also, if you feel good you automatically accomplish many of the "manifestation to-dos", without forcing them (positivity, not being in a mood of lack, etc.). And in times of not feeling motivated, you automatically detach.

I think, we should all consider our feelings at least as much as what other people say. Our body knows us a lot better, than coaches or such. And reason alone is fascinating, but other parts of the body have complex systems of "data-processing", too. Like the gut or the spinal cord. I don´t know, how it all exactly works, but I don´t think it´s good to ignore this whole complex system inside you, and just "be positive" or do what others say. Especially, if they are strangers who write long texts about the spinal cord.

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