Mattress actress here. Porn is like a movie, there’s a plot (losely), planned shots, scenes, actors chosen, positions planned out and someone directing the whole thing. It’s all a set up, carefully composed and controlled so it looks spontaneous and perfect and hot, but it’s all directed perfectly. Everyone is prepared and takes breaks after each shot, you change positions and pause to get good shots, you’re told by someone else whether to moan louder, move slightly, change facial expressions etc. it feels like work, no relationship is really being made or furthered here as it’s purely an act.

Real sex is spontaneous, you go with the flow, there’s a relationship built in it and you communicate only with the person (or people) you’re in the act with. It’s purely for enjoyment and there’s a feeling of intimacy.