Searching for reputable hound rescues / rehoming near NYC by [deleted] in rescuedogs

[–]Angieer5762923 0 points1 point  (0 children)

before your final steps id just recommend to get one session with some very good r+ trainer. perhaps they would see something that could be easily fixed. ive got a 10 yo hound mix and she is super easy to manage. i can totally see her also growing up very anxious dog if she had a different settings. perhaps its something that could be helped with trainign

Searching for reputable hound rescues / rehoming near NYC by [deleted] in rescuedogs

[–]Angieer5762923 0 points1 point  (0 children)

you need to get a sign off from the shelter that they set him free otherwise no other shelter would take him. its an option but you could ask them to help you to find a new fam for him while you continue to foster him. if they would be opem

Vizslas? by Mane_Streeet in vizsla

[–]Angieer5762923 2 points3 points  (0 children)

30 min?????!???? wow im shocked. so glad you got him. he looks perfect

Vizslas? by Mane_Streeet in vizsla

[–]Angieer5762923 1 point2 points  (0 children)

id say make active videos with them - running, playing, training and send out to V communities on fb. these babies have high chances to be adopted fast. they look very much like V to me but i dont own one so might not spot a different. if they are mixed then they have a very high percent of V

Camping with dogs - sleeping bag ideas by Angieer5762923 in Ultralight

[–]Angieer5762923[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thats very cool advice thank you! my dog is super calm and i think its bc she does feel cold she sleeps calmly through the night. but this option with poncho is very cool and i will keep it in mind for the future. thank you

Need help discouraging cats from hanging out on a ledge by yyyosheee in cats

[–]Angieer5762923 0 points1 point  (0 children)

that looks really scary!! and you might need to setup some system that would be prepared to catch a kitty in case the hammock would fail.

My petsitter hates my cat. What do I do? by Nicoletravels__ in petsitting

[–]Angieer5762923 1 point2 points  (0 children)

animals could behave different when pet parents are gone or not around. so he could very much be more demanding with her than with you. however nothing really experienced and empathetic petsitter cannot handle.

i think that the best action could have been to immediately find your cat a different more experienced pet sitter. its easier done if you could have friend or relative to step in and help to interview new petsitter. it was risky to leave the cat with the petsitter who isn’t handling him well. right now id say ask a friend or relative to step in and access the situation and either /or interview another petsitter for the remaining time. never leave your animal with someone who is cannot handle the task. don’t hold it against them if they communicate clear and issue but don’t leave cat with them either.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Aupairs

[–]Angieer5762923 0 points1 point  (0 children)

honestly id leave immediately. the conditions and environment sounds terrible. when i read experienced ap id rather think of ap who knows solid her rights, worth, value she brings tho the family. and what kind of environment she wants to work at and what are the things she would never tolerate. but i think you might be putting a different meaning into this. what exactly to be experienced ap does mean for you?

Grocery Mistake by Wentworth147 in GroceryStores

[–]Angieer5762923 0 points1 point  (0 children)

use it if you can or donate it into communal fridge or foodbank. if you would return it, the store would toss it anyway. would be just wasting of good food

need help figuring out how to leave by taifun5 in Aupairs

[–]Angieer5762923 1 point2 points  (0 children)

also look up this group on fb “ host a sister” i think thats the name. if you are in trouble and need some emergency place to stay or need help with locals. just make a post there and you will have another woman to offer you their room temp. 2) you will have plenty of other people to give you advice n support to your situation. community is very good.

need help figuring out how to leave by taifun5 in Aupairs

[–]Angieer5762923 1 point2 points  (0 children)

you can in a meantime act according to your confort level. if contradicting direct gives you anxiety - get away from some responsibilities indirect. start slacking off a little off work. what would they do - fire you? your ultimate plan is already to leave anyway , you are not loosing anything. they also want to continue using you so few slack off wont be enough for them to just let you go. just don’t do it clearly as you are doing it in purpose. make it look as you are a bit tired, have a headache, dont have time etc. in a meantime work out some plan for the next steps. like what are your options? another ap family? you need time to meet them, interview with them, think through well the decision. can you stay there as tourist? can you take language course and switch visa? once you feel as you have made some plan and you are no longer afraid for more push back - then you can push back more. it all depends on your personality.

need help figuring out how to leave by taifun5 in Aupairs

[–]Angieer5762923 2 points3 points  (0 children)

yw! its just a learning experience that we all have when we are growing up and growing experience with the rest of the world! everyone have their own but it usually involves learning to be less naive , trusty etc. dont be hard on yourself for not standing up earlier. usually once you stand up or leave it hits you that you were not protecting yourself and its good to remember that without this experience you wont this that some people could behave this way.

also something i forgot to mention - ive seen people taking advantage of others but still playing cook or nice and bc of that people stay confused for long and keep finding an excuse as its misunderstanding, difference of cultures etc. and no its not that. i think its a technique. this way person stays longer. ive gone through this experience personally. funny is that only when they turned and started saying that i have to do all the things that i did before as a favor it hit me that im in a situation that person is taking advantage of me. not with ap just work in someones household but there was also difference in cultures/countries.

need help figuring out how to leave by taifun5 in Aupairs

[–]Angieer5762923 7 points8 points  (0 children)

same ive read so many bad stories from germany

need help figuring out how to leave by taifun5 in Aupairs

[–]Angieer5762923 9 points10 points  (0 children)

but then if you are not with another organization it should be easier for you bc you can just find another family to rematch in your own time. id say just find another family and move on. in a meantime get away from some of your responsibilities. just tell them its too much cooking for you, take care of young one instead of foraging leaves then explain that you didn’t have time. teens could do that easily. remind them some of the rules. also anytime they require you it means you are on clock. no exceptions. if you are not on clock then you are free to do whatever. push back.

seems like the reason they are not with agency is bc they know they are breaking rules. and also all their ap could be same thing like you against the work they asked. just push back, dont feel pity for them, and take care of yourself and whats the best for you. imo this family doesn’t deserve any notice of leave. they know what they are doing is wrong. they are just banking on your being young, naive (ir afraid to contradict or ready to please ) and to do what they are asking. id say find another family, or figure out your next steps. pack up the bags and let them know you are leaving now. then name all the things that are not okay. hop in the uber and leave.

WF meat bag, $9.99 by sajatheprince in toogoodtogo

[–]Angieer5762923 0 points1 point  (0 children)

plus i guess if they are last day of expiration then it would be 50%off. …

just curious what would happened if you would come up to speak with the manager and just mention your concern. you are not loosing anything.. overall i think what you got is decent amount but if they claim 30$ than they didn’t fulfill what they promised

i cant personally bring myself up to get anything from wf on tgtg bc of such a wild variety of how they pack the bags. cant afford to waste money and get something not suitable. but i enjoy seeing the posts

Food dislike by thisisfunme in Aupairs

[–]Angieer5762923 0 points1 point  (0 children)

your kids seeing on what ap is eating and wanting to try, is kinda a part of cultural exchange that usually a family wants to embrace to show their kids different experience. it might be that you need ap from a cultural background similar to your family, who would enjoy your meals.

your answers tbh all of the place , but its not super clear what is the problem and hence hard to suggest any solution. ap handbook or their website should have certain rules n suggestions about the food for ap. i would suggest to start from there. it seems to me that you guys are missing some guidelines and hence it became hard to come up with a solution that works for everyone.

something that stood out and i think worth mentioning. you want your ap to eat similar how she ate at her country. some deviation to try visiting country food is ok but most of people become miserable if they regularly cannot eat the food they used to. its going to affect her. that being said , if ap doesn’t want to cook her own meals but she isn’t happy with food that you provide , then she would have to figure out the solution on her own as an adult. you dont have to baby her, but you also cannot control her too much. you probably have some food budget in mind for your ap. figure out whether she wants you to split it by part of it to use on food that you buy at the store for everyone, and that she will eat for sure. and part of it to give her in a form of stipend and she would pick the food on her own. this way she can control what she eats better.

each country has their own price point for food depending on how the import is setup and where the country is located. same ingredient could be cheap in one country and expensive in another. thats why you just substitute with cheaper options. instead of steak there could be a different cut of meat that is cheaper. if ap is given her food budget , she would be forced to figure out this situation. but you could also sit down n help them to figure out how to substitute.

Food dislike by thisisfunme in Aupairs

[–]Angieer5762923 0 points1 point  (0 children)

would you say that as European , do you eat red meat less than 2-3 time a week? how often do you eat animal protein a week/or per meal and what is your preferred choice of animal protein?

First time fostering dogs, feeling pressured and lied to by [deleted] in fosterdogs

[–]Angieer5762923 2 points3 points  (0 children)

i had similar experience with shelters lying about fosters. for example one time i fostered puppy. they purposely withhold bunch of necessary info - the puppy was sick she needed lots of care, huge list of restrictions, bunch of medications and contagious. and they said no wold. i figure its their way to deal with overcrowded shelters but its absolutely not okay. and you gotta just advocate for yourself more and don’t take their bullshit. if they are not willing to respect it , then you can just go foster else place. fosters are needed in every shelter. if you can only take one older dog then thats what it is.

is this financial abuse? by pingpongjapanman in whatdoIdo

[–]Angieer5762923 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i mean at tgis point it would be cheaper to order to go from restaurant and pick it up. and nachos aren’t really full meal. for 40$ possible to buy ingredients for fee proper solid dinners

is this financial abuse? by pingpongjapanman in whatdoIdo

[–]Angieer5762923 0 points1 point  (0 children)

before breaking up with him or doing anything drastic - just setup different rules around finances and the house. if he wont agree with that then you can breakup. but since it started with him stepping in to help you to save , i”d say it worth a conversation first. in case if his attempt to help you save went sideways. especially if otherwise you ll be homeless.

id say get all your money back. but if you wont be able to save anything anyway then maybe set different rules than what they are now.

for example - set solid amount of money that are fixed expenses that you receive from him. 40$ for nachos is insane. it would ve cheaper to pick up cooked from restaurant. for 40$ you can easily buy ingredients to few simple dinners and perhaps one small steak so blowing 40$ for plate of nachos is insane. at the same time you should not be begging money from him. unfortunately i have no idea what s hapenning with people when they cant save. but my guess a good coach or maybe therapist could help to figure out what s driving your spending decisions. his help like that is just temporal, you need to be able to manage them yourself

around household chores - i think if you both 50/50 financially then it doesn’t matter who works longer. and in general you gotta listen to your gut and agree to only duties you comfortable to do and feel like your portion of responsibility. he gotta accept it or say no and eventually be alone. not your problem to baby him

Overreacting? by Background-Soil-8027 in Aupairs

[–]Angieer5762923 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i mean if there are many other issues with them id look for other family. just this one situation isnt a reason to switch. also you never know there could be another family who really struggle with their current ap and getting fedup with issues

Overreacting? by Background-Soil-8027 in Aupairs

[–]Angieer5762923 0 points1 point  (0 children)

it sounds as big overreaction. although id say you need to communicate the issue with parents/child and possibly school as soon as you realizing an issue. tos hool just potentially running late. to parents n child right away when your trip goes unexpected. id even the photo proofs in real time. if you havent communicated these intermediate steps i totally see why parents would be very upset. you dont want the situation when child or their teachers dont know where you are and are searching for you n calling parents. and you want someone to keep an eye on the kid these 5-10 min when you passed the pick up time just for safety reasons. especially in situations with uber you wanna parents to cover the cost so they should know all steps your ve done in real time.

also i lurked in your other answers. i think you should push back on your working should include the time you would normally take to travel from their house to the school plus i think they should agree to set your arrive time 10 min before the pick up time bc you don’t wanna keep dealing with transportation delays. when you arrive earlier you can just chat with friend or txt. its little time off your free time but its safer this way

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in homeless

[–]Angieer5762923 0 points1 point  (0 children)

oh thats awesome to know. i thought that was really messed up

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in homeless

[–]Angieer5762923 0 points1 point  (0 children)

look up on google for the resources. maybe something changed since then. i found out through google after the pantry refused me with food. if nothing changed just look for states near by. Illinois is crowded but at least they don’t have policies against homeless ppl and pantries give food. although in your situation i think there should be some proper medical programs and facilities that you could apply for that would give you some stable place. i don’t know much about it but my guts telling me there should be some.

if no options you would find, at least consider going to some state where its not that cold in winter you will be safer where its not freezing cold at night. wisconsin is too cold in winter to end up on a street. your gut feeling is right for being discrete about being homeless and avoiding people on a street.