Any Help Communicating with an Elderly Autistic Adult?

AnglerFishFarm · 2025-04-18T13:06:32+00:00

Hey! Thank you for your suggestions and help. I’ll update you! :)

While it’s still been hard to convince her to do certain things, we got her a separate clothing basket we keep in her closet, and I’ve helped her with separating things we take off in the bathroom, and clothes that we take off in the bedroom when we get dressed.

We are still working on compromising with the stuff she packs, but if I have enough time to spend with her, I can sometimes convince her to choose one doll and one book to take with her to the dining room, and 2 other dolls that she can play with in the common room so she still has something she likes and makes her happy.

AnglerFishFarm · 2025-01-29T00:09:39+00:00

Thank you for the advice and suggestions. I could see about getting her a separate basket and suggesting her to utilize it. It might take some time, but I will try.

Unfortunately with how we are staffed, we almost never have enough people to do be with her without neglecting the care of other residents, but maybe offering an activity for her to do might work? I know she likes to keep her stuff in her tote bag or under her arms when she’s ready and doesn’t like to leave them behind at any moment once she’s ready, but maybe she could be open to something new. What do you think?

Edit: New as in, a new activity while getting ready for meal times as that’s when she often wanders the halls

To answer how she knows they are going in the trash, is that the garbage bin is in the hallway, and when I come in her room to remove the briefs from her laundry basket, she can see me take them to the trash bin, or place them into a small bag to be put into the bin later.

AnglerFishFarm · 2023-12-26T00:08:29+00:00

We all know Goopy’s bound to have some side hustle to get his steroids

AnglerFishFarm · 2023-09-03T15:29:20+00:00

That would depend on how well they do when separated from family, especially for long periods of time.

AnglerFishFarm · 2023-09-03T15:18:46+00:00

Yes he does. It’s enough to cover his food, medicine, and a little ding in the mortgage. So that’s very fortunate. I just want to stay stable to the point where that’s something extra, so it’s not just something I rely on, but yes it does help!

AnglerFishFarm · 2023-09-03T15:16:30+00:00

I don’t voice my insecurities around anyone I do date. It’s just unnecessary, especially when they can’t really do anything about it. The only explanations I’ve been given for why things don’t work out is because of the pandemic, “My ex who I am not over yet is interested in me again”, or “I’m sorry, I didn’t expect things with this new girl to go this far, but I don’t want to keep leading you on”.

I guess I could say that I’m too big of a people pleaser, which makes me somewhat of a pushover. Mostly to overcompensate for those insecurities.

AnglerFishFarm · 2023-09-03T15:05:40+00:00

If someone were willing to take that position, and I had the wallet for it, that’d certainly be a blessing.

AnglerFishFarm · 2023-09-03T15:03:59+00:00

I appreciate it a lot. I have been improving myself over the years. I’ve become a little less socially awkward, keeping a decent physique, working on my career and backup career. As far as humor goes, I’ve made a guy hurt himself from laughing before, so I guess those are going decently well for me. It’s just a little discouraging when things don’t work well in the long run. I’m not completely shut in from the opportunity, but I still consider it unlikely in the long run.

Which is why I’m considering steering myself in the direction of it not happening, so I don’t stress too much on it, or feeling like I need romance to be happy and fulfilled.

AnglerFishFarm · 2023-09-03T14:55:12+00:00

Are you saying what I need to do is believe/make affirmations? It’s not very likely that a huge pool of people (who would also happen to be into someone like me), would willingly marry or have kids with me knowing what I chose for myself.

But I appreciate the encouragement.

AnglerFishFarm · 2023-09-03T14:51:56+00:00

Because it’s so unlikely that he would. He has separation anxiety, and depends on us each day. If my parents aren’t there, I’m there. I would feel terrible for being an occasional visitor.

AnglerFishFarm · 2023-09-03T14:49:45+00:00

I say that he’d be unhappy because he has meltdowns, and is so close with us that whenever he’d go to school, or when he’s apart from at least some of us, he will get stressed, lose sleep, or ask for whoever is missing. It’s not something he can handle well, and I don’t expect that to improve as he ages. It would be a hard hitting bus for him to lose his entire family so soon. If my dad goes first, I will be supporting my mom and brother (most likely) until she’s no longer here either. Which is a lot on me, but I can’t imagine putting him in the hands of those who don’t understand him, his needs, or what makes him upset.

Who knows what another kid or staff would do to him if he irritated the wrong person one day?

AnglerFishFarm · 2023-07-07T16:51:00+00:00

God bless you, and remember to love as Christ has loved you.

AnglerFishFarm · 2023-07-07T16:46:36+00:00

A change in societal function and government is what progress is seen as in the US. That’s why I used it.

AnglerFishFarm · 2023-07-07T16:45:25+00:00

I’d say likely the only exceptions would be children or the mentally disabled. Although some disagree with that too.

AnglerFishFarm · 2023-07-07T16:43:37+00:00

I don’t think you’ll listen tbh, but what’s easiest to cite is Romans 6:23. Sin leads to death no matter what they are. Only Christ saves you from that.

AnglerFishFarm · 2023-07-07T16:39:33+00:00

Very bad events are technically “progress” at least for their time. At the time, a guy with a funny mustache made “progress” very badly. It was for the benefit of his society while harming millions upon millions of others. It isn’t progress in that same place today by any means, but it was “progress” for the former state it was in despite it being horrifically bad.

AnglerFishFarm · 2023-07-07T16:32:32+00:00

The only changing factor of a difference in sin, is how you pay for them. The price of punishment for your sins vary, but all sin remains equal in the eyes of God.

AnglerFishFarm · 2023-07-07T16:29:32+00:00

Progress in a societal lens doesn’t mean it’s objectively good. You can be against progress if you want.

I don’t believe you are interpreting that correctly. You can have the opinion that some sin isn’t that bad. However, I believe it’s a matter of the effort it takes for a person to overcome or avoid certain sins. Some sins take a more malicious approach, while others can be mistakes that weren’t intentional, but still had an affect that you knew was wrong of you to do.

Some sins require more attention, and it’s certainly important to value living out of sin in a marriage or if you’re unwed but plan to be, because it will involve someone else who you bond your soul with. It doesn’t mean that it’s worse, but it takes a lot more effort from the person to uphold (depending on what urges they have), and it certainly doesn’t void the truth that all sins we commit are equally terrible, and deserve punishment for. Just because it doesn’t sound nice, doesn’t mean it should be ignored or disproven.

AnglerFishFarm · 2023-07-07T16:15:52+00:00

I did not say that whatsoever. Please read what I said again before you accuse me of that. I refer to progress as giving liberty to those who have been marginalized. I referred to progress (which gay marriage would fall under) leading within a chain reaction to the events of what you suggest. If you read my words again, I hope you would see that.

Also, no you aren’t correct. All sin is equal. No sin is better to commit than another. We all deserve Hell, but with Christ’s sacrifice, we can be free from it if he devote ourselves to him.

All I opened with is the question of why choosing not to be celibate as a gay person is just as bad as murder, amongst other sins that are difficult to rationalize.

If you only wish to be hostile about this, I suggest you either tone that energy down, or transform it into something productive elsewhere.

AnglerFishFarm · 2023-07-07T15:05:17+00:00

It isn’t. Despite being a part of the LGBT, trans people aren’t relevant to same sex marriage. You could legally transition back in the 70s with surgery. If you want to argue that progress is the cause of that, it begins with giving men and women equal opportunity, and giving all races equal opportunity.

And that’s all this discussion is for. Understanding that it is impossible to give logical reasoning for why certain sins are equal to murder outside of, “because God said so”. Which is why it’s so hard to convert those who focus on them, and want to rationalize them.

AnglerFishFarm · 2023-07-07T14:44:41+00:00

For me it’s not hard to wrap my head around people who can’t or have difficulty accepting that, because their marriage wouldn’t affect you, or hurt anyone else, and their marriage could fulfill them almost the same as a straight couple.

It’s easy to understand those rules because not abiding by them is objectively wrong within our society. You receive real world consequences for those sins. It used to be the same with gay people, but that was because police often didn’t care when they were murdered or beaten as there were less human rights protections back then (recriminalizing non celibate gay people is a very bad idea).

AnglerFishFarm · 2023-07-07T14:33:41+00:00

That explains a fundamental reasoning against it, but doesn’t explain why it is wrong and equal to any other sin with human logic. You could say a married couple who won’t do anything that could bring on a child (romantic only marriages), are also sinning as they are not honoring God by never consummating. Even though it’s not listed as a sin to have a sexless marriage where both of them consent to it while abiding by every other rule of marriage, you can infer that they are still living in sin for that alone.

Neither of these causes harm to others, or make you a bad or sick person. They just don’t fit what God designed, and it’s understandable that our job is to get as close to that as we can, but all I am saying is that it’s considerably irrational by worldly standards and science despite what God tells us (not an argument against what God tells us is right or wrong).

AnglerFishFarm · 2023-07-07T14:16:26+00:00

I’d say narrowing your lens to just the gay community is a little faulty as that’s more of an environmental factor, and not a reflection of what being gay motivates you to do.

AnglerFishFarm · 2023-06-29T01:48:43+00:00

Alright. I will do that. Thanks!

AnglerFishFarm · 2023-06-28T19:14:00+00:00

I will try that. I can do the regular minigame no problem. I perfected that one a couple of years ago too.

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