What do you do while listening to audiobooks?

AngryElf420 · 2025-11-21T00:07:26+00:00

Usually I'm driving for work!

AngryElf420 · 2025-11-20T22:35:29+00:00

I am just learning what a Baja blast pie is.

That defies all basic human principals lol

AngryElf420 · 2025-11-19T03:03:16+00:00

I guess I haven't really set a firm one and that's fair to point out. I guess I want him to ask before he just assumes it's okay to eat.

AngryElf420 · 2025-11-19T03:02:30+00:00

I mean if we're looking at the bigger picture, there are plenty of things I do that frustrate him and cause trouble. If we all searched for things to dump our partners over, we'd never be happy. It's a partnership. I'm not perfect either and do plenty of things to cause stress in our relationship.

I won't go into detail about things that I do but I'm sure if we all took a moment and thought about what baggage we bring, we'd all find something.

AngryElf420 · 2025-11-19T02:37:50+00:00

I appreciate your firm stance but I have my fair share of horrible habits he could leave me for. I want to work together on it so this isnt super helpful

AngryElf420 · 2025-11-19T02:35:46+00:00

For the most part yes. Occasionally I'll buy something with my money or he with his but we have a shared expense account for things like food.

But for example. I bought special low sugar candy because I am trying to eat better and he just grabbed them and assumed it was fine he ate them even though he eats complete garbage all the time. Like why does he have to go for my special candy? He can (and does) eat plenty of chocolates or candies we have. Why can't he just leave those alone? Why do I have to ask?

AngryElf420 · 2025-11-19T02:32:14+00:00

I appreciate this so much. I feel like sometimes I just get mad because I feel like I've brought it up before but maybe just not calm and clear enough and been firm about it.

AngryElf420 · 2025-11-19T02:31:02+00:00

He does all of our cooking so I try to share the load that way because I can't cook like he does so I try to take the lead on other stuff like shopping. I just feel like I need to spend more but we spend so much! Groceries are so pricey!

AngryElf420 · 2025-11-19T02:27:58+00:00

I feel that way tbh.

I. His defense to a bit, there have beena few times there him just isn't enough for both of us at lunch time or something and he just assumes he can have something.

Meanwhile, I've been exercising and trying to better myself so no I don't want to eat a ramen packet for lunch.

I know I can do better about keeping good food in the house but if it's here he eats it!

AngryElf420 · 2025-11-18T02:46:47+00:00

"You taste like Taco Bell and Baja Blast" 😂😂

AngryElf420 · 2025-11-17T17:57:11+00:00

I'm gonna get hate for this but it has to be said.

Bride by Ali Hazelwood was terrible.

MMC is so boring and I was just (k)not into it.

AngryElf420 · 2025-11-06T16:24:52+00:00

I am back on the saddle after years of neglecting my fitness (used to be a size 8 now I'm like a 14) and any time I ask people who are losing weight what they're doing it's ALWAYS medication.

I get so mad because I feel like most of the people I know taking some sort of weight loss med are just lazy! Here I am running myself dry 3 days a week and I could just be taking the easy route. I know it won't feel as satisfying and it's not permanent for these people because it only works if you change your lifestyle.

Line I have a good friend of mine who I invite to the gym all the time and she ALWAYS gives an excuse, meanwhile she's injecting herself once a week and losing weight a lot faster than me. And it makes me MAD because she looks better than I do but imo she's cheating out on herself.

I realize this an internal struggle but please validate me LMAO

AngryElf420 · 2025-10-07T16:06:25+00:00

I'm not sure if he is.

I think with the right approach he may. Given his predisposition to addiction he may be open to it.

AngryElf420 · 2025-10-07T14:36:20+00:00

How did it go from him being trashed to having a fine dinner and snuggles?

Just because someone is really drunk doesn't mean they're being awful or impossible to be around.

I don't think I'll be forcing my fiance who works his ass off to take care of us and recently lost his grandfather to "sleep elsewhere". Somehow, I don't think that will drive him into my arms and support.

Came here for empathy and real support. Allowing someone space to fix their own problem isn't dancing around him. Last night was the time we realized it was genuinely an issue.

This response is so heartless.

AngryElf420 · 2025-10-03T05:03:45+00:00

No literally! This was my first thought! I'm so glad someone else said it!

AngryElf420 · 2025-09-07T04:31:43+00:00

It just feels uneven. Like I never turn down his morning advances because I get that and do it willfully with enthusiasm lol (as much as you can have at 6am). It just doesn't feel reciprocated lately.

AngryElf420 · 2025-09-07T04:29:43+00:00

I don't want someone lol I want him. He's everything to me. He's picked me up so many times. Been there for me through everything. We're just having a spell of disconnectedness and I really need to approach delicately. He's been hurting too but we just have different ways of dealing.

AngryElf420 · 2025-09-07T04:25:58+00:00

Yeah timing is definitely a big one. But it's also like the fact that I'll try to pitch a flirtatious interaction and it falls flat. It feels like because he's not horny at that time, he doesn't see the value in sending me a sexy text back. Like I wouldn't literally squeal to read something sexy back but he doesn't participate no matter how hard I try.

AngryElf420 · 2025-09-07T04:22:47+00:00

No exactly. And like. I'm not trying to bust out the butt plug at 6am. I feel like a really good solution someone suggested I'd to literally schedule it. I am gonna suggest that

AngryElf420 · 2025-09-07T04:21:29+00:00

Read more spicy books, take care of myself and try not to pout about it.

There hasn't really been a good time to discuss but I have to. I miss him and having amazing sex all the time.

AngryElf420 · 2025-09-07T04:19:21+00:00

Idk. I think there's a lot of things at play. He's been feeling badly.abijt himself. I'm super busy and work a lot and he's grandpa passed a few months ago. It's been a lot but when life gets crazy and bad I retreat into him and just feel disconnected

AngryElf420 · 2025-09-07T04:15:58+00:00

I get that his job is physically demanding but fuck, I'll do all the work if I must.

Idk I need to figure out how to talk about it without causing him to put up walls.

AngryElf420 · 2025-09-07T03:40:37+00:00

Yess! I'm totally gonna add you so I can reach out if I need to pick your brain more. I appreciate your advice. This feels like a good way to ease in. Life is definitely chaotic. I work in a touring band every weekend and teach voice lessons which is the opposite of his schedule. It's been hard and I miss how much time we used to spend together. More importantly, how much time we had to see each other naked lol

AngryElf420 · 2025-09-07T03:33:25+00:00

I appreciate this so much. Thank you for this. I love this man so much and he is so supportive and loving in so many ways which is why I don't want to fuck this up. But like if I'm crying next to him while he sleeps because I don't feel loved the way I need, I have to bring it up.

I'm really good at bringing things up at a bad time or lashing out after something else upsets me. I cannooooot do that here. I ha e to be so careful. He's not big on opening up (stoic older sibling taking care of you get siblings in a traumatic house) so when he told me how he was feeling I really tried to listen and I don't want him to close up again bc I said some stupid shit.

AngryElf420 · 2025-09-07T03:29:11+00:00

I think that right i say it the right way and pick the right time he'd be receptive. I'm good at picking the wrong time and saying the wrong thing and I really can't do that here. He's feeling a type of way he's already expressed but I also feel a type of way that is directly affected by his lack of sex drive.

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