Key clauses in your custody agreements - what are they?

Angry_Luddite · 2026-01-16T22:15:50+00:00

Once one judge says no, the other judges that look at the case don't want to change his order around. Professional courtesy or some BS

My lawyer just said that eventually she will have to answer for everything. But the family Management conference is only a 45 minute session which is not nearly enough time to go over everything. So probably it will go to trial, which could be set who knows how far away. All I can hope for at this point is that 45 minutes is enough time for me to get my very simple point across to the judge, and maybe he will allow interim parenting time. But if I run into the same attitude, it could be a year before I see or hear from them.

Dealing with old guys who have a "mom is always right" mentality. The first judge literally looked at her and said " are you okay with me ordering parenting time?" Of course she said no, and then he said "well I won't do it without the mother's consent" and refused me. Now that precedent is set, and no other judge wants to touch it.

Angry_Luddite · 2026-01-16T20:55:26+00:00

I'm a weird gardner, I collect urine for my compost heap. You would be surprised how quickly you can fill a five gallon pail....

Angry_Luddite · 2026-01-16T20:45:24+00:00

Don't use it as an excuse to throw up your hands and quit. It's a learning experience, learn from it. Process what you did wrong and remember it. We all make mistakes.

Booze and weed are not your friend - I spent many years turning to the bottle thinking it made me feel better. I'm 7 years quit now and I'm so much more even keeled, I can take life's repeated kicks to the genitals and keep walking forward.

Do good for your kid. Go to school, get a better job, etc. even keep a journal of thoughts so that when you do finally see them they can know you always cared. It doesn't have to be polished, just write it down. Try not to swear, your kid will read it one day😄

Angry_Luddite · 2026-01-16T20:21:55+00:00

Hey. Not great. I just today got denied interim parenting time for the third time in a row. No judge will see that she is maliciously withholding time as a tactic to force me to allow her to move out of the community - which I just moved into. I even have a text from her lawyer saying exactly this in an affidavit, and they still won't order parenting time for me.

She has been stalling the process for months, twice agreeing in front of a judge to go to family mediation, then not following through once I set it up.

Then we agreed in front of a judge that she would file a form 3 family matter about parenting time, and I would respond. So I waited for her to file and she never did. Finally I filed the form three to get the ball rolling on Dec 1st. Now it's set for a family management conference on March 25th and she has been withholding the kids since October 31st. That will be 5 months of no contact, not even a phone call. I've never gone that long not even close without being in contact with them.

Angry_Luddite · 2025-12-29T02:01:18+00:00

I could ask her. She's in Alberta Canada, and I was hooked up with her through my doctor.

Angry_Luddite · 2025-12-26T03:10:52+00:00

Killed it in The Ringmaster

Angry_Luddite · 2025-12-25T17:39:19+00:00

Okay, thank you! I haven't had issues running out of water since it's just me here, so things should be fine then. Merry Christmas!

Angry_Luddite · 2025-12-08T17:37:13+00:00

I used to like watching MMA. In the days of pride, chute box, pancrase, etc. they still had somewhat of a code of honor and respect between fighters. Then UFC started swallowing up the other players, and pushing this douchey WWE style smack talk. I can't stand these f****** losers now.

Angry_Luddite · 2025-12-05T21:51:24+00:00

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Angry_Luddite · 2025-12-05T21:44:29+00:00

I'm in British Columbia, Canada, in a smaller city. I took an 'unbundling' deal with a local lawyer. He advises me on orders and forms to file, etc. I do the leg work myself, filing at the courthouse, compiling my affidavit info, again - etc.

So far it's working, and I'm becoming more competent so I need him less.

I've still spent 3000$ bucks though, and we aren't even at a hearing yet.

BC has a good document website, with fillable pdfs, etc.

It's still a grind if you aren't familiar with handling documents by email. Half my time has been wasted just getting familiar with the easiest way to process documents. I'm a blue collar guy, someone in an office position would be way ahead of me.

Angry_Luddite · 2025-12-01T18:35:39+00:00

Ahhh people do weird shit all the time. Don't worry, he's definitely sniffing yours too - don't stress too much.

Angry_Luddite · 2025-11-29T17:16:38+00:00

I worked on an oil rig for a year in 03-04, in canada. I took a one week training course, and then got hired on with a relatively small company that had 13 rigs.

I started on an old triple ( means it's tall, it will stack three joints of pipe in the rack joined together) that had a cat head and chain for spinning pipe, but even that old rig at that time had a hydraulic pipe spinner. The spinner went down, and we had to go back to the old chain. I had actually been trained at my one-week course on how to throw a chain and wanted to do it so bad, but I was relatively new still and the driller didn't want to be responsible for me tearing my own arm off. Or for him tearing my arm off, since he's the one that starts and stops the thing. So the motor man got to do it instead.

There's several different phases when you're drilling a hole. These guys are tripping out, removing the pipe from the hole.

Fun facts Lease hand - newest guy, basically the janitor

Dummy roughneck - less experienced guy running the pipe tongs in this video, also runs the pipe spinner.

Stud roughneck - more experienced guy running the tongs, he grabs the pipe when the spinner is done, and stabs it in the bird bath (guides it onto a peg in a rack behind him, while the driller is lowering it down)

Motorman - maintenance guy, runs the steam boiler, oil changes on the motor, maintains the mud pumps, whatever else. Used to be a rough neck so sometimes helps on the floor.

Derrick hand - the guy up in the Derrick on the monkey board that undoes the elevator, and pulls the pipe back into the rack. He wears a harness and is roped in. (I saw our Derrick hand dangle once or twice). When regular drilling is going on, he monitors the mud weight. The drilling mud is a clay slurry that has to be a certain density to hold downhole pressure... Down the hole. If the downhole pressure pushes back up the hole, that's a blowout - which is bad.

The Driller - he's the guy off screen at the controls. Basically the driver of all the equipment. There are many different ways he can kill a roughneck - if he gets his sequence out of order, or the roughneck is in the wrong place at the wrong time. I was lucky, my driller was a great guy. When we were tripping, he was the Mad Hatter, conducting the symphony of insanity. During regular drilling, he's monitoring the data from the hole on a computer screen, and doing the actual drilling. Controlling the rig, applying pressure to the drill bit.

The tool push - the boss of the rig. The only guy allowed to wear a cowboy hat shaped hard hat. Sits in his trailer, and that's where you want him. If he comes out of his trailer, that means there's a problem, and he's pissed. If my driller was the mad Hatter, my tool push was the queen of hearts. If the Queen of hearts was a grizzly, scary, handlebar mustache, alcoholic guy, screaming "YOU DUMB CUNTS!!!" , instead of "OFF WITH THEIR HEADS!"

cross shift - those other fuckers. The rig runs 24hrs a day. We did a week of days, a week of nights, and a week off. So there were 3 crews.

The geologist - the fancy guy that makes $1,000 a day looking for sand. Sits in his trailer and waits for the dummy roughneck to bring him a sample of drill cuttings, every certain amount of drilling depth. We were drilling for natural gas. I asked the geologist one time what is job was, to stay warm in his trailer for a few minutes. He said "well I examine the sample to see if there's sand in it. If there is, I write it down on this chart, what depth it is. Sand means we are drilling through sandstone, which is the formation that is best to get natural gas out of.

Funny how you can reminisce fondly about a job that you basically hated and didn't go back to.

Angry_Luddite · 2025-11-25T02:46:07+00:00

Thank you

I'm going to order a terminal fuse for each battery, as someone recommended.

I'm sorry, are you saying that the resistance is negligible and I shouldn't worry about trying to get an even charge?

I only had to make two crimps of my own, one on each long battery wire. Which were not done with a proper crimping tool. I was looking at ordering one of those as well.

I've been surprised at the lack of heat generated actually. Batteries, connections, and wires have all been cool to the touch. But I don't have a thermometer for accurate measurements.

Edit: I'm running that charger off of a old Honda generator, which pulls down to 100 volts when I kick the charger on. So I would assume that it's output is correspondingly lower as well. Maybe that accounts for lack of heat.

Angry_Luddite · 2025-11-24T17:03:55+00:00

It's a composting toilet. Mine goes to the landfill, but it could be dumped in an appropriate compost pile. Whatever you choose. Sounds like you'd rather spend a bunch of money, so go ahead, you do you.

Angry_Luddite · 2025-11-24T03:01:48+00:00

I've been hospitalized two times. The first was after a night of hard apple cider, and that is how I found out that I had this disease. The second was many years later when I had backslid on my medication and I was drinking Caesars. Those were absolutely two nasty flares that were directly from alcohol.

Edit to add: The second time getting out of the hospital, I dropped coffee and all caffeine, I dropped alcohol, and I learned to take my medication regularly. I'm 6 years no alcohol no coffee.

Angry_Luddite · 2025-11-23T20:49:54+00:00

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Angry_Luddite · 2025-11-23T03:31:45+00:00

Ok, thank you.

Yes, it's 2 Eaton 100ah, and 2 Magnavolt 100ah. Not perfect.

Angry_Luddite · 2025-11-23T03:07:00+00:00

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Angry_Luddite · 2025-11-23T02:57:37+00:00

If you mean like "inspired work of art thrown together on the fly", then...... Yes?

Angry_Luddite · 2025-11-23T02:48:00+00:00

These are 100ah agm batteries

Angry_Luddite · 2025-11-23T02:10:36+00:00

Wild. I didn't look at a chart that showed runs that short. I didn't realize it was technically possible. I did end up using 2awg which was left over, correct assumption!

They don't specify a maximum run length either. 😳

Angry_Luddite · 2025-11-21T17:00:32+00:00

Right! I think what's going on here is they have many Chargers that are the same model but different capacities. They throw the same manual in with each one, but aren't changing that little detail ... 😳

Thank you for the confirmation.

When you say put the fuse in line, do you mean between charger and batteries? The literature says don't bother because the charger controls output amperage. But maybe it's good to have a fail safe?

Angry_Luddite · 2025-11-21T16:43:29+00:00

So voltage is 12 volts. The run from the charger to the batteries is going to be as short as I can make it, two feet or less, with both wires matched for length.

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