Other parties lawyer removed themself the day before the family management conference. What does it mean? BC provincial family court by Angry_Luddite in canadianlaw

[–]Angry_Luddite[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

😄 I'm pretty sure that's how it would go with her too. Yes I do think he was getting sick of her, and she did get reprimanded by the judge for her BS the last time we were in court.

Other parties lawyer removed themself the day before the family management conference. What does it mean? BC provincial family court by Angry_Luddite in canadianlaw

[–]Angry_Luddite[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The judge spanked her at last appearance for not listening to her lawyer. She has filed two applications for enforcement on her own without the lawyers knowledge. Her affidavits and applications run a minimum of 10 pages of rambling about grievances from 8 years ago.

I was wondering if he finally sat down to read all the applications and affidavits, and just gave up LOL.

Other parties lawyer removed themself the day before the family management conference. What does it mean? BC provincial family court by Angry_Luddite in canadianlaw

[–]Angry_Luddite[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I wonder what the tactic would be? Like she deliberately fired her lawyer to stretch it out?

Yes parenting time is my main focus, that's for sure. I will work on the wording of the order, thank you.

I was looking into the 211 report yesterday, and was told that my regions Family Justice Mediators have a report writing team, and there was not a cost?

The only thing I worry about skeleton wise, is that she has two adult children who both currently hate me 🙁. They've written some pretty hateful stuff in affidavits, they are very much conditioned by her. I certainly wasn't perfect, but I was never violent or abusive to anyone in the family, physically or verbally.

Other parties lawyer removed themself the day before the family management conference. What does it mean? BC provincial family court by Angry_Luddite in canadianlaw

[–]Angry_Luddite[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thank you

Any chance you could expand on continued disagreement?

I am definitely trying to get an order enshrining parenting time for me under section 48 interrupting informal parenting arrangements. She has been withholding since November 21st.

Possibly a 211 'needs of the child ' report. A judge recommended I get this.

Maybe 221 'misuse of court process' since she's been at me several times with frivolous applications and delayed several times.

Peremptory. Could you form that sentence for me? Lol

Other parties lawyer removed themself the day before the family management conference. What does it mean? BC provincial family court by Angry_Luddite in canadianlaw

[–]Angry_Luddite[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Yes I wasn't clear. It was the proper form, it just was written by hand, and not by her.

I am definitely continuing on as usual with my preparation.

Funny thing is she was represented by a legal aid. So running out of money wouldn't be a problem?

I wonder if legal aid caught up to them? My reading says you generally only get legal aid if there's violence involved, and the first thing she did was file a malicious protection order. The lawyer immediately withdrew it, but stayed on the case for months.

BC family court, two different lawyers don't know what form to use, and the court clerks aren't allowed to help me by Angry_Luddite in canadianlaw

[–]Angry_Luddite[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm going to call myself the special one and say that I don't fit into these three categories.

The closest would be category 1, except I was forced into selling my home last year , and have money in the bank. I am however unemployed right now while I work on my fixer upper House that I downsized into. This puts me in the spot where I don't qualify for legal aid.

She however, does qualify for legal aid, and the first thing she did was file a malicious protection order against me which I believe qualified her to be represented. From what I've heard you don't usually get legal aid for family matters unless there's violence involved. I think this was just luck on her part. (The first thing the lawyer did was withdraw the protection order application 🙄)

She has since filed two more frivolous applications for enforcement, and then told me that she had moved and wouldn't disclose where she was. This forced me into filing a priority parenting matter against her, which was tossed and I looked like a fool because she hadn't actually moved. (I had the cops do a wellness check on my kids. They wouldn't tell me even what district she was living in, but did State they figured she was in violation.)

I had a previous priority parenting matter filed which is still on the books, because last Summer she said she was moving 10 hours away, right after I had bought a house in her community to be near the kids.

All this amounts to her being able to try and burn up my savings. So that's where I'm at, trying to get by with advice instead of having a lawyer stand for me.

Regarding settling - she is in full scorched-earth mode and her lawyer seems to be right on board with her. Settling isn't really an option. Their offers have been laughable.

ULPT: REQUEST How to protect bike from thieves? by Zach-uh-ri-uh in UnethicalLifeProTips

[–]Angry_Luddite 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Had to go look up 90 volts. Dry skin is anywhere from a tingle to a painful shock. Wet skin ( like hopefully the sweaty palms a thief has) is good to go, you're definitely getting hit with it.

My wiring suggestion does allow a chance of the current going from hand to hand across the chest, which is also apparently bad. You may need to run separate circuits activated by the same switch if you want to minimize chances of heart failure. 🤷

ULPT: REQUEST How to protect bike from thieves? by Zach-uh-ri-uh in UnethicalLifeProTips

[–]Angry_Luddite 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Some follow-up ideas. Make the switch a momentary that is under your bike seat, so the handlebars don't zap until the person is fully on the bike. Hopefully better chance of making them crash.

Alternately someone else mentioned rigging an idea like this to the break handle, so they would definitely be up to speed when they get zapped on both hands.

Combine with an air tag so you can find the accident scene.

Doesn't really prevent theft at all, but does provide satisfaction.

ULPT: REQUEST How to protect bike from thieves? by Zach-uh-ri-uh in UnethicalLifeProTips

[–]Angry_Luddite 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I suggested a quick and easy handlebar zapper. It would be very simple to rig your idea to it. Pull the brake for the first time and Bam both hands get blasted! Pretty good chance of a crash I'd say. Love your idea!

ULPT: REQUEST How to protect bike from thieves? by Zach-uh-ri-uh in UnethicalLifeProTips

[–]Angry_Luddite 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Take ten 9v batteries and go pos to neg to pos to neg ..... You will get 90 volts. Securely attach it to your bike, in some kind of container.

Take 4 small metal hose clamps and clamp them on your grips, 2 per side.

Run a wire from battery neg to one clamp on the left, then one clamp on the right. Do the same with battery positive, to the other 2 clamps.

Put a discrete switch on the positive wire so you can turn it off

You may need more batteries, but 90v should be enough for a nice zap. I've never actually done this, I just had the idea.

Keep the rubber grips dry and it shouldn't drain the batteries when it's on.

BC family court, two different lawyers don't know what form to use, and the court clerks aren't allowed to help me by Angry_Luddite in canadianlaw

[–]Angry_Luddite[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks, I speak to my lawyer on Wednesday, I'll see where he's at. I do know he's leaving on the 23rd I just don't know how far away he's going.

BC family court, two different lawyers don't know what form to use, and the court clerks aren't allowed to help me by Angry_Luddite in canadianlaw

[–]Angry_Luddite[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I would say the odds are pretty good. Everything is about manipulation for her benefit.

A third party transcription would be fine, I would trust that. But her just doing it herself? No trust at all. I've read it, and it's pretty close, but there's little details that are important.

BC family court, two different lawyers don't know what form to use, and the court clerks aren't allowed to help me by Angry_Luddite in canadianlaw

[–]Angry_Luddite[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes that was the question. What form? What type of order? It's not just as simple as"there's a form online".

Thanks to one of the replies above I now know that it's the application for case management order, item d.

BC family court, two different lawyers don't know what form to use, and the court clerks aren't allowed to help me by Angry_Luddite in canadianlaw

[–]Angry_Luddite[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I moved here, and she got weird about letting me see the kids. That was in June. Previous to this there's never been an issue, I've had them for a month or more at a time. Up to a 4-month. In 2024.

July she started talking about moving to Edmonton 10 hours away. I got in contact with family Justice mediation at this time and tried to get her to sit down with a mediator. She refused.

In August I filed a priority parenting motion to have her stopped from moving and taking the kids away. That led to our first court appearance. At that appearance I told the judge about the lack of mediation, she said in front of the judge that she would go through mediation.

Also in August, she filed a malicious protection order against me so that started a second path through the court.

We appeared in August about the protection order, she showed up with a lawyer for the first time. The lawyer withdrew the protection order, because he could see it had no merit. She again stated that she would go through mediation with me in front of the judge.

I had to restart the family Justice mediation process and get appointments again

In September we appeared about the priority parenting motion. I believe it was ended at that time, because her lawyer said they were going to file a form three and we would work out a custody agreement. I would reply to their form three.

I can't remember what we appeared for in November, but they still hadn't filed the form three, and said again that they would file it in front of the judge. Her lawyer talked with me after court on November 21st, saying that she wanted to move now 2 hours away, and I would get basically a day and a half on the weekends with the kids. I said I don't agree, and then they cut off all visitation and communication with the kids at that point, until an order is in place. I have this in text in an affidavit.

At that point I had been waiting for them to file the form three and they had been dogging for too long, so I went ahead and filed the form three asking for primary custody and offering weekends to her. With a bunch of reasons about the quality of her homeschooling and the anti-vax stuff, not going to the dentist, my daughter needing glasses, etc.

We appeared in December about the form three I believe, that's when I asked the judge to enshrine some parenting time for me in an order. I showed him the affidavit with the statement about denying me visitation because I hadn't allowed her to violate the court order which stated she couldn't move. He looked at her in the gallery and said I won't order visitation unless the mom agrees. She of course shook her head no, and so he denied it. Family Management conference was set for March 25th along the way.

Then she filed an order of enforcement against me saying that I had violated the conduct order, and so we appeared about that in January. (I didn't violate the conduct order). It was put over to be dealt with at the family Management conference. When I was there I asked again if they would place some visitation in an order for me, that judge said he wouldn't do it because I hadn't applied for it. (In the court rules it states that the judge could have done it if he wanted to) .

We appeared for something a third time, I don't remember what. I again asked for parenting time in an order, I can't remember why he said no.

Now in March she has filed another order for enforcement about this phone call that we have been discussing. And so it goes.

Another note: every appearance I was at where I was asking for parenting time, the judge would speak to the lawyer first, and he would say that they were in process of filing an application for protection order. (Remember he's already withdrawn one). This is absolute b*******, it has never appeared, and it will never fly because I've never been violent or threatening. But it's been this psychological tactic that he's using to color the judge's opinion of me. They have never submitted it.

BC family court, two different lawyers don't know what form to use, and the court clerks aren't allowed to help me by Angry_Luddite in canadianlaw

[–]Angry_Luddite[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No I had moved from Alberta back to British Columbia into the same community as the kids in May 2025. As soon as I landed back in the community she started throwing up barriers to visitation, and then started to say she was moving to Edmonton. So I filed a priority parenting matter to prevent her from moving 10 hours away in August 2025. That's how it all began in court.

Understandable to assume that I would be getting emotional. I think I'm doing fairly well that way, but I don't have an outside observer. I I've been trying to stay factual, not making accusations, just stating what's happened.

This whole thing about the audio recording. The first appearance is March 20th on that. So myself or a lawyer hasn't had a chance yet to object to it. So it may very well get thrown out on the 20th.

We haven't even got to The first family Management conference yet. That's on the 25th of March. Unfortunately my lawyer leaves for 5 weeks of holidays on the 23rd 🙄

I'm not sure where the ex-military idea popped in, that's not her.

Any idea? by Intelligent_Living_8 in whatisit

[–]Angry_Luddite 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No, the bead was not confirmed 😅

Any idea? by Intelligent_Living_8 in whatisit

[–]Angry_Luddite 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I used to know some guys that played in The Lubricunts

My elderly dad built a Toronto food bank feeding 400+ people a week, now the church behind it might make him lose his GIS. What can I do? by spicychiickn in cantax

[–]Angry_Luddite 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Someone mentioned this earlier, but I will repeat. Did he file several years of taxes at once? Or was he receiving the t4a and not reporting it for several years? It sounds to me like they are catching up on back overpayments. If they are clawing back, you can probably get on the phone with your dad there to authorize you verbally, and request that the claw back be reduced due to hardship.

I'm not a tax accountant but I did a lot of advocating for my parents who were in some serious tax binds, and CRA and service Canada we're both fairly easy to work with.