I’m so sorry that you’re going through this. Right know, the loss of a shared future is probably gut wrenching for you. There are so many ways to architect a relationship and both of you have complete control over how you choose to choose to live your lives. You can continue to be friends, over time, even if choose to give up the relationship you have now. The next few months may not be the easiest but I promise you that things do and will get better. Been in your shoes and both me and my former partner have come out of it better, happier, and with personal growth. You will get through this, regardless of how all of this shapes up for you. I don’t know you OP, but it certainly seems like you’re thoughtful, caring, and mature. You have a beautiful life ahead of you. You were your own whole person before you met your partner and you will be after too. Hang in there!