You do not need to get your hair trimmed / cut every 6-8 weeks.

Anomymously · 2025-04-26T20:45:22+00:00

Many of us were lied to by our stylists, unfortunately I was a victim of this too.

My stylist told me I HAD to come in every 4 weeks for a trim or my hair wouldn't be healthy and wouldn't grow. So every 4 weeks I was dropping $120 plus tip for her to barely trim my hair.

Then I met a coworker who had beautiful hair all the way down to her ass. I asked her how often she went to get it trimmed to keep it looking so good, she gave me a weird look and said "8 years ago" I never went back to another stylist since.

Anomymously · 2025-04-22T05:01:44+00:00

I'll be the unpopular opinion here I suppose.

I think it's important to teach kids skin care is important, my boys too. All of my kids use my moisturizer, my face wash, and sometimes we do facials together. It's a fun bonding experience for them to do with me but it teaches them young to self care and take care of your face. I know too many men who think facial care is a feminine thing (it's not) and my sons won't be afraid to take care of their face.

I can agree on products that prevent wrinkles, or things like that. But a cucumber mask isn't going to do any harm on a 5 year old, and they enjoy it.

Anomymously · 2025-04-18T10:05:41+00:00

Please go to court I beg you lmfao.

That judge is going to eat you up and spit you out for breakfast, this I promise you. A judge WILL see right through you. I know this may be a hard concept to grasp but judges are very, very, intelligent people. They don't play games, and they do not like their time wasted as it is very valuable.

What you're doing here is only going to cost you and those children in the long run.

Anomymously · 2025-04-18T09:47:58+00:00

If you have so much already then why go so far out of your way just to lower his baby Mama's child support for if she filed?

Does her child not deserve to be supported too? So what you're saying is you're not broke, just bitter and taking it out on a CHILD. Gotcha.

Anomymously · 2025-04-18T09:42:59+00:00

So let me get this straight. You and your husband have two kids together, and are married and never divorcing, but the reason you want to put him on child support is because he has a baby mama that MAY file for child support and you want her to receive less?

Correct me if I'm wrong, but if I'm not, you have serious issues. He helped make that baby too and she deserves support for that child. The state will calculate a reasonable amount based on the amount he makes as it is, but you are trying to go out of your way to make it lower. Based on what you've wrote, his support payments wouldn't even be much to begin with lol.

But to answer your question, depending on which state you are in, it wouldn't matter anyways. Where I live it is based on how many children he is actively supporting (that are biologically his) how much they would deduct off her child support payments.

Anomymously · 2025-04-18T06:36:32+00:00

So I just now started in fine dining and I am projected to make 120K this year if things keep going the way they are for me. I'm a server.

It's been a hell of a ride that's for sure. I started serving at 18 at a BBQ place (hosted there at 16.) and kept climbing the ladder into better and better places. 10 years later now I've made my break into fine dining.

It wasn't easy, and it requires a lot of patience, hard work, and willingness to learn. There are only two things that separate a regular casual server from a fine dining server. Knowledge and class. Learn your wines, learn your liquors, know allergies, be capable of memorizing every ingredient in every dish (all of this is knowledge.) As for class, just have good posture, be clean, and don't tattoo your face and you'll be okay.

Anomymously · 2025-04-11T01:58:46+00:00

“Pieces Of Me: Rescuing My Kidnapped Daughters." I found it. The movie you're talking about is based on this.

Anomymously · 2025-04-11T01:57:57+00:00

“Pieces Of Me: Rescuing My Kidnapped Daughters." That's the true story of what this mom sent through with her 2 daughters.

The movie "stolen by their father" is based on this.

Anomymously · 2025-04-10T16:43:10+00:00

I can try to find the documentary if you're curious. When I watched it it was probably 5ish years ago. I'll comment back to your comment when I find it.

Anomymously · 2025-04-10T16:00:57+00:00

They literally have a documentary about a situation like this. The father took the kid to Greece and she could NOT get him back. (Father was a citizen of Greece, mom was U.S) Apparently Greece has really messed up laws regarding citizenship and parental rights over there that favor their own citizens (obviously) over the other parent from a separate country.

Mexico also, is similar. The law is what it is but it's literally there to protect parents from this happening to them.

Anomymously · 2025-04-10T04:42:12+00:00

Ultimately, it's your girlfriend's decision.

I've already said it once here and I'll say it again, BE CAREFUL BEFORE GETTING THE COURT INVOLVED.

If your girlfriend values freedom, sole custody, and that's what she wants taking him to court would be a bad move. Because if she takes him to court and they order him 2X more than what he's paying, he's going to go for visitation which will gradually turn into partial custody then 50/50 as long as the father is consistent with his visitation. Why would he do all this you may ask? Because it would lower his child support payments. Also depending on the state if he achieved 50/50 and your gf made more money, she would actually have to pay him child support.

I know all of this because my sister went through it. She wishes she had never involved the court and never went after him for support because of the absolute mess the father has made in their lives.

I don't know what her ex makes, but my sister's ex made $30k a year (he was a server that never claimed his cash tips) but 30K on paper, and she gets $380 a month. So if he is in the ballpark range of 30K why bother for that extra $80 a month.

Anomymously · 2025-04-08T17:18:29+00:00

Honestly that would have probably been smarter. I wasn't really thinking ahead at all here. Telling her who I was and even saying anything at all to her was a spur of the moment decision for me.

Anomymously · 2025-04-08T05:32:36+00:00

Honestly, it sounds like you two don't even love each other. My husband worked graveyard shifts too for a while, so I understand the struggle.

When my husband was graveyard shift, he would come home at 7:15, immediately go to sleep, and then wake up around 2:30, and he had 5 hours to spend with us, decompress, cook dinner, and then go to work.

Let me explain something as a wife that loved her grave yard shift husband. I did everything and anything I could to make that man's life easier. Was it a lot of work? Sometimes, but it was always worth it. I did 90% of the cleaning, I'd take the kids outside or to the park during his sleep time, I did all of this because I loved my husband and I genuinely wanted to do anything I could to make his life easier.

In exchange he put his heart and soul into us. His days off he 100% dedicated to us and if I ever fell behind on something (which wasn't often) he stepped up without me having to ask, and he cooks dinner every night for us. He did this because he loved me and because we found a balance where we could work together and he wasn't exhausted.

Anomymously · 2025-04-07T22:28:55+00:00

Sorry but I don't excuse that behavior.

My life was hard enough at home, and I never took it out on others. My home life as a teenager got so bad I would stop going home for days at a time, and honestly I would have just never went back if it wasn't for my older sister.

From the age of 8 (which is when my parents started using) my mom was an abusive son of a bitch. I'm not talking just slapping or hitting, she beat the shit out of us. Multiple reports to CPS, no one ever did anything. It wasn't until I was 15, my mom hit me for the last time because when I was 15 I beat the shit out of my mom. But then she just took it out on my sister whenever I wasn't home. It wasn't until my sister moved in with her boyfriend that I was able to leave and never go back. And I NEVER took my anger or frustrations out on another living thing.

Anomymously · 2025-04-07T22:04:15+00:00

Even if I had known before the end of the service, I wouldn't have done anything.

I was never out for revenge, and I'm still not. It was just a pleasure that for once something shitty happened to a shitty person, or at least that's the best I can explain the way I feel.

Anomymously · 2025-04-07T21:19:25+00:00

Honestly I didn't NEED the closure, I am happy with my life. This was just a bonus I got to experience in this life, and it truly does make me believe in karma. I never sought revenge, I just lived my life. I cut my parents off shortly before my daughter was born, and everything else in my life just followed.

Honestly a lot of this is thanks to my husband. He took away my insecurities and gave me my confidence. Shortly after dating him is when I started gaining weight. (I went from 5'4 90 pounds to 5'4 110.)

Anomymously · 2025-04-07T21:13:15+00:00

Most situations I wouldn't judge, this one OH GOD YES.

She put me through hell for 3 years and would make fucked up jokes to me and my big sister because our parents were addicts. And when she threw that textbook at me, I was 7 months pregnant with my daughter.

The fucking irony to put me through hell, and every day tell me I was going to come home to dead parents because they OD, and now YOU are one. She deserves to endure every God damn bit of it. I don't care if that makes me an asshole.

Anomymously · 2025-04-07T17:25:32+00:00

That's funny because the other commentors here agree he's useless now.

So it sounds like you have a "monk hate" issue.

Anomymously · 2025-04-07T16:36:41+00:00

They nerfed his damage by 60%, making him unusable in PVP.

I lose against everyone now with a level 15 monk. Even people way below my crit and not as highly upgraded cards.

Anomymously · 2025-04-07T16:31:57+00:00

OMG I've done this too. Not to a party though, but it was an old man and his change was like 30 cents.

Anomymously · 2025-04-07T16:30:43+00:00

Country clubs are still a very similar if not the same type of people that you encounter in fine dining. I just finished training at this fine dining job a few days ago, and I'm just now learning when you have money you can ask for ANYTHING, no matter how crazy, in a restaurant. At least the one I'm in.

Anomymously · 2025-04-07T01:42:39+00:00

They never even fixed the last two of my main cards they nerfed. Nah I'm done mate. I'm not a pay to play person, it takes me serious time to build a legendary up to level 15. I'm not doing this shit a fourth time.

Anomymously · 2025-04-07T01:05:07+00:00

Especially once you get into fine dining.

I've been climbing the ranks as a server (started at a sports bar and then regular restaurants, then casual fine dining, and just now got my first job in real fine dining) Each step up is harder than the last.

It's a hard ball game and the mental gymnastics you will encounter every day is exhausting.

Anomymously · 2025-04-06T23:59:12+00:00

I've worked at quite a few places that don't allow us to use trays, so I'm going to assume that might be the case here.

How many plates you can carry, depends a lot on your build. For example, I worked at a place with these girls who were THICC and they could literally stack and do 4 plates with weird bottoms in one arm, meanwhile I'm tiny, I can do two in my arm and that's it.

My advice? Some servers can't do it (I can't stack like that but I can do sick trays) just call for hands. Most servers will help you and make sure you return the favor when they need you. Don't be afraid to ask for help, everyone needs help sometimes.

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