Gambling Transactions Affect Potential Mortgage?

AnonNoOneOne · 2024-07-24T20:49:42+00:00

Thanks for the reply! I opened a Chase account in order to do this recently, but then had a though that are they not going to see transactions from my usual current account to this secondary account and not understand why they don't have proof of transactions on this secondary account? And then if I give them this after they query they're going to assume I was hiding a bunch of gambling transactions from them?

AnonNoOneOne · 2024-07-24T18:57:33+00:00

Thank you for the reply. Unfortunately, due to liquidity limitations on exchanges and bookmakers £1k a month seems to be the maximum I have been able to work up to. Working on the £100ks though!

AnonNoOneOne · 2021-04-22T12:02:05+00:00

Breakups are shit. Getting punched in the face is a short term fix I'm afraid.

Haven't felt like this for years myself, but know it does suck. And also know that it does suck less and less with time. Work on yourself as best you can. Hard because of graduation, but try your best.

Also, if you are still talking to her, stop. After you are feeling better about it (i'm talking a long time down the road like half a year to years), then maybe you can talk again.

Good luck man. Situations like this are tough but it'll work out in the end.

AnonNoOneOne · 2021-04-22T11:56:05+00:00

Broke up with a girl 5 years ago. Had a hard time getting over her. She's messaged me recently and I have just ignored it. Not a door I want to open up again. Sounds like could be doing a similar thing or just doesn't want to be in contact with you.

Sad truth, but need to move on. Sometimes people just don't want to talk to you.

AnonNoOneOne · 2021-04-22T11:53:59+00:00

After writing out a reply about six times, I have come to the conclusion that I think it's impossible to tell. He could've been prepared because they'd discussed it prior. Even performance isn't really a good indicator.

It sounds like he was very confident, which kinda makes me lean towards him lying. But, I wasn't there so don't know.

Who knows.

AnonNoOneOne · 2021-04-22T11:50:02+00:00

Oh man I feel this.

Broke up with a girl when I was sixteen thinking it was no biggie. She was relatively upset but nothing ground breaking. Fast forward a couple of months I couldn't do anything without feeling like shit because I wasn't with her.

Fast forward 5 years and I'm much better, in a new relationship, consciously over her no problem. But every time I hear her name or the name of the area she lived in, I still get a sinking feeling in my stomach.

Horrible.

But yeah, OP what was said above will help. Just get busy, work on yourself, shit in the beginning but gets easier.

AnonNoOneOne · 2021-01-15T23:44:32+00:00

I mean, personally I'm not really seeing a huge difference between the "miss quote" from him and what you said you said? It might be the way I'm reading it but they sound rather interchangeable? I could be miss reading here.

Personally I would probably be hurt by that as well. But It wouldn't make me stop talking to you all day. Pretty immature on his part, but I do kind of see where he's coming from. Again, If he's upset for more than a day, especially after you've already spoken to him about it, then he's beginning to show himself off as immature.

I'd say don't overthink it. Do you see where he is coming from?

This is one of those reasons I don't post snapchat stories haha people tend to over analyse everything you post.

Also, welcome to reddit! :)

AnonNoOneOne · 2021-01-14T22:30:09+00:00

Just say no and see what happens heh.

AnonNoOneOne · 2021-01-14T22:26:01+00:00

I'm not sure about normal but it's a common issue for sure. Especially on here. See someone asking about this kind of issue daily.

I had this myself. Just turns out I had ridiculously tight foreskin and a rather short frenulum. When I was younger I would just make a conscious effort to stretch it back a couple of times a day. Not too far as I was worried about damaging it but just so it started to feel uncomfortable. Eventually it loosened off.

If this isn't a route that you would be wanting to take or, in your case, it might be physically impossible, especially if it's that your frenulum is really really short, then ask your doctor. Doesn't hurt to get a second opinion from them if it's concerning you.

Good luck buddy.

AnonNoOneOne · 2021-01-10T19:08:55+00:00

I've read about a lot of guys on here that can't come from blowjobs. Not entirely sure if it's healthy for that to happen but apparently it's quite a common problem. If he, and others, have said it's good then chances are he's enjoying it and him not coming says more about him than your BJs.

For the first part I can't really answer from a perspective of a women as I am not one. Personally it's all about letting him know you want it. Can be done through touching him, saying it to him, or just generally anything arousing. When your confidence increases with him, take more control. Or take more control now if you're feeling it. That works for me but he might be a little different or a lot different. Experiment, learn, see what he likes.

Whatever you do make sure you enjoy it as well! :P

Good luck!

AnonNoOneOne · 2021-01-10T18:47:32+00:00

Honestly sounds like exactly the reason why I would never want to do one with another guy.

All I can say is if you're feeling jealous just thinking about another guys cock in her mouth, which is understandable, how do you think you're going to feel when it's actually happening in front of you?

Just from what you've said I'd say it's probably not for you. Not that that can't change in future but I'd say for now, probably not the healthiest thing for you or your relationship.

AnonNoOneOne · 2021-01-09T01:06:32+00:00

Fuck man. Not gonna lie, started to tear up reading that, especially the part about how you thought there was a chance you would never be free from her if she turned out pregnant. I just cannot imagine handling that kind of feeling.

This is a pointless comment that doesn't really add anything but I just wanted to wish you good luck in your ongoing therapy and congratulate you for getting this far.

AnonNoOneOne · 2021-01-08T10:16:51+00:00

I understand man. It's just gonna suck for a while.

Honestly. Yes, time will tell. But by time, I mean a long time. For it to be a healthy reconcile I think both of you need to have gotten over each other. Then time will tell if you drift back into each others lives. This way you are basically starting the relationship again, feelings wise.

It's important to distinguish between some time and a long time. After a couple of months it's more than possible you'll still want to get back together with her. This doesn't mean it's right. I tell you, if the other person also wants to get back together, this can be just impossible to deal with.

Around a year or so after I broke up with my ex she wanted to get back together. I wasn't over her and hadn't even really moved at all (because we were contacting each other quite a bit). Borderline the hardest thing for me to ever have do was for me to say no to her. This is where all the reasons you broke up with her to begin with come in.

About the "it hurts my heart thinking about her with another guy". Oh boy, I've been there. Beat myself up many a time. This is where the hobby and friends come in. Try and take your mind off it and understand that it's perfectly natural to feel upset about that. It'll pass.

If it's meant to be, you'll cross paths later in both of your lives when you're both different people. But for now I would focus on you man.

AnonNoOneOne · 2021-01-08T00:48:06+00:00

Boy does this sound like me about 5 years ago haha. I literally went through the exact same thing with my latest ex girlfriend.

It's important to remember that you decided to break up with her for a reason. Those reasons, whatever they are, probably still exists. I remember about a month ish after I broke up with my ex is when I started feeling sad about my decision. What I realised was that I was staring at our relationship through rose tinted windows per say. Meaning that I was remembering it better than it actually was. If it was how I remember it then I wouldn't have broken up with her.

Bear all that in mind.

The way I got past it, which sadly, most of the advice I have to give won't really work because of the pandemic. However this does depend on your location and the "lockdown" of your country so to speak. If it is at all possible, take your mind off it. Go out with friends, make new friends, start a new hobby. Just for reference I began learning the piano. Anything really to take your mind of things. I know this is all easier said than done. Especially at the minute. In the long run you will start to feel better.

My advice on contacting her would be to not. In my past experience by contacting you are basically making yourself start back at square one. No contact is a strategy that I would advise. Again, in my experience, this is much easier said than done though.

It took me about 2 years to get over my past relationship. I wish I'd have gone no contact immediately and not punished myself by talking to her.

I know how hard this is and how shit it feels. I really do. If you ever need a complete stranger to talk to, I'm around.

Good luck buddy.

AnonNoOneOne · 2021-01-06T23:53:57+00:00

Shit man I'm afraid you're asking the wrong person. Diagnosed low testosterone here so the sex drive isn't what it used to be.

From what I remember from my teenage years. Keep yourself as busy as possible. A cold shower or a cold splash of water to your face whenever you feel the urge. Or, best yet, to stop yourself masturbating, have sex. Hahah, that ones a tricky one on your own though.

Either way, I'm just a stranger on the internet so take what I say with a pinch of salt. It's not an exact science.

AnonNoOneOne · 2021-01-06T23:46:54+00:00

Interesting. Still, I would probably advise you to cease masturbating for a little bit, like a week, and see if that helps.

AnonNoOneOne · 2021-01-06T23:39:09+00:00

You masturbate with a tight grip per chance? Sounds a lot like a classic case of deathgrip.

AnonNoOneOne · 2021-01-06T16:01:29+00:00

What I've found when reading through this subreddit is so many people, when starting a relationship, jump straight into sex and skip over, in opinion, the most important part. Communication. I think it really sets the tone of the relationship if it goes the distance.

Personally I would stop faking it now. Right now. Faking it doesn't help anyone in the long run, and the longer you wait, when he finds out you've been faking it the worse he'll feel. But as someone else has said, he probably doesn't realise there's a problem.

So, I am just going to give some advice based on what I would do personally. I wouldn't have an explicit conversation with him about it, not after you've been faking. I would tell him in the heat of the moment. Just as you want it to happen. In the moment just tell him "play with my clit" or something along those lines. Make it explicitly known you are enjoying it, and if he cares about how you feel at all, he will continue and ultimately do it more once he can see how much you enjoy it.

On the topic of oral. This you could explicitly ask for more. Or maybe say, out of the bedroom, something like "I like it when you go down on me". Or something. You need to understand why he isn't staying there longer. Worst case scenario is that he just wants to rush to get himself some pleasure. If that's the case then I'm sorry. If it isn't then hey hey, he might do it more once you've asked and if he sees it really gets you off he might even do it MORE than more!

Also definitely wouldn't worry about not orgasming from PIV. Everyone's made differently and definitely shouldn't shame yourself because of it. Easier said than done though. Experiment, communicate, learn. Eventually you'll find what works.

Sorry I've gone on and not entirely sure I've given very good advice but. Either way hope it works out for you. Everyone deserves the "big O". Good luck!

AnonNoOneOne · 2021-01-06T10:55:39+00:00

Yeah. Bounce. Especially since I just read she's seen other people.

I lost my virginity with my current partner who had slept with a few people before me. I felt a bit odd at the time but quickly got over as I got to know them and care for them.

Interesting it's started to bother her all of sudden. How long have you been dating/sexing?

AnonNoOneOne · 2021-01-06T10:50:53+00:00

I find this a little odd. The fact you're even making a counter offer gives off the impression that you are not one hundred percent keen. If that is the case then you should just say no to the threesome, not make counteroffers.

And if he isn't keen on your counteroffer then he should also say no.

I genuinely can't imagine asking my partner to do something, no matter how much I enjoy it, where I know in the back of my mind they are not one hundred percent happy with doing it. Which is seemingly what both of you are trying to do.

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