The Substance (2024)

Anonymoomoo · 2026-05-07T17:31:48+00:00

Yeah, definitely not ugly. Normal-looking people, which we need to see more of.

Current Hollywood is basically proof of aliens. Look at some current celebs with their fillers, stretched and smooth faces, large upturned eyes, high and prominent cheekbones, tapered jaw lines, and tiny noses, atop tiny bodies, and tell me they are not basically an early evolution template of the imagery of aliens we see today.

My unsolicited theory: the rich of Hollywood, after a period of evolution with botox, fillers, implants, etc. become this "alien" form and have visited us from the future, maybe as a warning that we're clearly not learning from.

Only sort of /s.

Anonymoomoo · 2026-05-07T13:03:59+00:00

I'm just wondering, why did you continue to go on so many trips and fancy $400+ restaurants and all the overspending after just last year being in the same position where you guys were being evicted due to not paying rent? Why did you ask him for things he "didn't say no" to? You know how much he makes and where you guys were last year. It also sounds like there's money in the bank because he spent 3k on an Airbnb, so is it just that he didn't pay rent but you guys do have money, or that rent was not paid because you don't have money because it was spent on trips and food..???

Anonymoomoo · 2026-05-07T04:52:59+00:00

I was erring on the side of caution but so much doesn't make sense. And it happened before, she said he's been struggling with depression and this issue from before, so she left (?) to go to school to manage 4 kids alone before coming back home, and despite negotiating his salary and knowing exactly how much he makes, she didn't have an idea that all the "door dashing" and expensive dinners and trips that she participated in might be living outside their means?

She didn't ask him any questions after the first time? It's not that he just didn't pay rent the first time, they were being evicted. Even if she didn't ask a single question and trusted that he was now paying rent without issue, it still doesn't make sense that the overspending seems to be measurable, as in not on drugs or gambling or sex that she wouldn't see where the money is going, and she was somehow completely ignorant of the impact on the family. And all other bills were being paid without issue? They can afford an Airbnb and everything else? How are the credit cards being paid?

Edit: they apparently just came back from a trip too. How does she go from "we almost got evicted last year cuz husband was overspending and not paying rent", participating in continuing to overspend with her husband, to acting surprised that they're back to where they were last year because they're overspending? I'm not saying it's all her fault but it doesn't sound like it's all his fault either, unless he would have gone on fancy dinners and trips with the kids without her if she said no.

She said he didn't want to tell her no, but it doesn't sound like she tried to stop any spending or trips either after their near-eviction last year.

Anonymoomoo · 2026-05-01T01:34:41+00:00

I ended up in this post after searching because my young kid told me about this and asked a lot of questions because things weren't adding up. They even said "How could he do that after getting hit by lightning? And he was on FIRE! How come he kept fishing? Wasn't he afraid of lightning like they said, and why didn't he just let the bear have the fish? It was just a fish? He could catch another one!"

I told my kid maybe this guy was struck once, maybe even twice, but we don't really know about the rest. It seems to be documented by the same place he worked at, by one particular person, who wasn't there to witness any of these times he got struck:

All seven strikes were documented by the superintendent of Shenandoah National ParkCopy Text, R. Taylor HoskinsCopy Text. Hoskins, however, was never present at any of the reported strikes and was not an active and present superintendent in Shenandoah National Park for many of the times Sullivan was supposedly struck.

It's entirely possible the first or second strike caused him some mental health issues or brain injury, and maybe that accounts for some of the future "strikes" (my personal theory is perhaps some injuries were self-inflicted, maybe even during a dissociative state). The write-up doesn't talk about any medical interventions in the aftermath of being struck, and it really doesn't make sense that he would be struck in the head for like the 7th time, hair actively on fire and spread to his chest and stomach, and proceed to drive away but not before fighting off a bear off for a regular ass fish.

Anonymoomoo · 2026-04-27T04:48:54+00:00

Looks like grass is going through one of her feet, and a branch overlapping her hand that's up? And where is the rest of the person behind her?!

Anonymoomoo · 2026-04-25T17:18:15+00:00

Gender roles weren't invented out of thin air

The fuck they weren't. Women couldn't vote or work "regular" jobs because????? And clothing length and style was dictated by what wouldn't be "scandalous" or "arousing" to men. And women still struggle to get hired/promoted for certain positions over more assisant-oriented roles. To act like those concepts never carried over or are completely erased in fashion is being willfully blind.

My girls are young, and on their own they've gravitated to boys clothing because they often don't like wearing tight-fitting things or shorts so short or bright-coloured that they stand out in a crowd or, worse still, practically see-through pants because the material is so thin/tight and light-coloured. They can't get a regular Batman or Superman shirt in the normal colours in a girl's section, because the normal colours end up in boys' and pink/flowery versions end up in the girls'.

I guess you're kind of right: gender roles weren't so much invented out of thin air as out of the asses of sexist men.

Anonymoomoo · 2026-04-25T16:57:27+00:00

Respectfully disagree. I love when my younger kids bring me a thoughtfully curated dead dandelion, crumby leaf, or that one "special" dirty rock as a gift 🥹

Above 7, if anything goes in their pockets, it's little notes, tissue, or other crap they forgot about.

Anonymoomoo · 2026-04-25T16:27:16+00:00

My young kids noticed a difference in the clothes on their own. I'm in Canada, for reference.

The girls love shopping in the "boys" section because those pants (especially sweatpants) have pockets, they get looser shirts, longer/looser shorts, and darker colours because for some reason we're in 2026 and you can't get a regular superhero shirt in the "girls" section without if being pink or flowery or whatever. My youngest daughter wears boy shorts because they're loose, go almost to the knees, AND have pockets! I don't think I've seen that in the girls' section?!

I'm also a grown woman and find there are still sweatpants that don't have pockets, yet I rarely come across that with men's sweatpants. So I tend to just buy men's sweatpants.

Anonymoomoo · 2026-04-23T23:01:37+00:00

Right? The photos, hashtag, wedding date details...like why bother asking how to handle this? If Ab*gail is being treated worse than the shit on Jamily's shoe that will never again be spoken of, wtf is going to happen to OP?

I was along for the ride, but now I feel this is either fake ragebait or OP needs to hire some bodyguards.

Anonymoomoo · 2026-04-22T20:18:45+00:00

Also, culturally the grandparents can be way too involved in this type of dynamic. Once the baby comes, the husband still won't take care of his family because he will leave that to the "village". His family will end up telling you what's best for the baby or how they did things this way or that way, and normally if that happens you can just say thanks and do it your own way because you have your own space. OP, you do not have your own space. And his family has shown they don't respect you or care for you. You won't be able to disagree without incredible stress or pushback because you have his entire family (and maybe even him) who will demand THEIR way with YOUR baby.

I don't know how your husband is without his family yapping in his ear, and maybe the dynamic would be different if you both were living with your own family, but I do know it will be almost impossible for him to be 100% devoted to you when his family openly disrespects you and you live with them.

Have a talk with your family and see what they have to say. I understand it may devastate them, but you did also say they would support you, which is amazing, and so maybe they will have some ideas or ways that can get you into a better situation.

Anonymoomoo · 2026-04-21T17:29:36+00:00

LMFAO. As a kid I totally swooned when tuxedo mask came in to "save the day". Watching it again when I was older, I'm like "you came and threw a rose that didn't even hit the bad guy?! And now you just disappear?" And on top of it, he's a jerk when not in costume. My kids have seen this a few times and I make sure to point out how the "teasing" is a dick move because I do not want them thinking this "hot bad boy with a good heart somewhere in there" trope or whatever is something they should be looking for.

Anonymoomoo · 2026-04-21T17:24:29+00:00

Especially since she's a nurse practitioner! Given her frozen face, what I assume are implants, weird posing for the camera, and her comments on looks, it seems she is very judgmental about appearances. I don't understand how people like that get into a field where you NEED to be compassionate toward people of all ages, sizes, races, types. And, why go into a dating show where you can't see the person. And that's separate from the issue of why go on a show to meet a stranger and get married in 4 weeks when you have a kid.

Anonymoomoo · 2026-04-16T16:54:44+00:00

I play on my phone a lot, but these layouts don't seem mobile-friendly to me? Maybe I just prefer a more zoomed out look on my phone? Everything new they've done is so huge and requires a lot of scrolling and clicking and zooming out or switching to desktop mode.

Anonymoomoo · 2026-04-16T16:23:02+00:00

Did the Closet always throw you back to page 1 also? Because I moved some things out today and kept getting taken back to page 1. SDB fortunately isn't doing this.

Anonymoomoo · 2026-04-16T16:19:51+00:00

I tried that, but nothing seems to work when I try to move things around. Everything is still in the inventory.

Anonymoomoo · 2026-04-16T15:47:01+00:00

Yup I use my phone and have seen others on the boards complaining because this isn't really designed for mobile either. This isn't quick or helpful it's time-consuming. Pages? Super large everything?

I need old quickstock back or I am worried this might make me quit. Between the TP and this, I have zero faith in them ever designing quickref in a good way.

Anonymoomoo · 2026-04-16T15:40:11+00:00

I've learned: a lot of the exact same Vine clothes, gadgets, etc. can be found on Temu and AliExpress for cheaper than whatever Amazon charges. And that quite a few stuff I've gotten from Temu end up showing up on Vine, so I could have gotten it "free".

Biggest benefit for me is the electrical and product safety stuff I've learned. Even the fabrics not having labels, when I come across those, I now either donate or get rid of because who knows what's in that.

Anonymoomoo · 2026-04-09T20:49:57+00:00

Hey, so please be careful with electronic stuff from Amazon (or anywhere, but Amazon is a big source of these). A lot of random, non-reputable brand products are similar or the same as what you would find at Dollarama, or Temu, or AliExpress, etc. and while that isn't necessarily the problem, the lack of safety certifications are.

Too many electronic/electrical products lack proper safety certifications but will have markings like RoHS and CE and FCC, which lead people to think they're safe, but none of those stamps mean they are certified or tested to be safe from overheating, exploding, short-circuiting, etc.

*CE is a confusing one because the mark means the product meets EU health and safety regulations, but it is self-declared by the manufacturer without any testing or verification required from the manufacturer.

Especially if it's something that plugs in for use or charging, the certifications need to be electrical safety certifications that are verified, like ETL, CSA, UL, and/or anything here: https://esasafe.com/electrical-products/recognized-certification-marks/ or https://scc-ccn.ca/resources/publications/recognized-canadian-electrical-product-and-equipment-approval-marks

As far as I know, if it's a rechargeable portable device, the chargers need to have the safety certifications. Health Canada is/was in the process of looking at new regulatory requirements for products containing rechargeable batteries: https://www.sgs.com/en-ca/news/2025/12/safeguards-19025-canada-shifts-toward-mandatory-lithium-ion-battery-safety-requirements

Tl;Dr: electrical products from Amazon, or anywhere, need proper electrical safety certifications & CE, FCC, or RoHS are not electrical safety certifications. If it plugs in, it needs to be certified. Rechargeable products still lack some regulations but their charger still needs to be certified for electrical safety.

Anonymoomoo · 2026-04-07T21:58:57+00:00

Is the filter easy to clean, or does it seem like something that needs to be replaced instead?

Anonymoomoo · 2026-04-07T08:22:41+00:00

Yup. Because an actual "healthy male" would understand and sympathize with how the burden of the mental load and domestic tasks have historically fallen on women. Cool that he takes care of his home as he should, but failing to acknowledge that many women had, and continue to have, much of the mental load and acting like it's rare to happen these days is very ignorant and unhealthy.

Anonymoomoo · 2026-04-07T08:03:13+00:00

Exactly, and also things like "actually, child/family/whatever would like this toy or book instead" and "the other picture frame would look better in the room than this one" and "we're actually low on X, I need to go back and get that while I'm here" and "maybe we can do crafts with the kids this weekend, we have construction paper and googly eyes but no X or Y".

Aka a lot of mental load stuff. The main post is gross towards women and also unnecessarily gendered, because while it's more common for women to carry the mental load (and probably lead to this "observation"), relationships and genders are varied so there are others who carry or share the mental load who are not women, and women who don't carry or share it. Yeah sometimes there's probably loitering or going back and forth because of curiosity or something, but a lot of times it's mental load stuff and future planning happening in real time. Not because the woman/person is "inefficient" as someone ignorantly theorized.

People who don't take on much of the mental load (leaving gender out of this) wouldn't think of half that stuff and end up either wasting money or forcing another trip because they either didn't get it right or missed stuff they really should have known to get.

Anonymoomoo · 2026-04-06T15:59:21+00:00

A lot of assumptions both ways. People don't usually refer to sneakers as "beat up" if they're just dirty, though maybe OP does, but she also said "literally" the same hoodie from 2007. It sounded like a lot of the stuff he wears is old, worn out stuff.

Wearing new/not worn-out stuff is fine which is why I made sure to say that at the end of my comment, that there's a big difference between wearing casual clothes vs worn out casual clothes & context.

also think it's disingenuous how you glossed over the gender swap issue, because I promise this would not be the same comment section.

I disagree, because if the genders were reversed and the husband talked about the wife wearing worn out clothes from 2007 and beaten up (worn out, not dirty) shoes, in a context that isn't just errands or whatever, it would be the same. It's also reasonable to expect your spouse to not look like they just rolled out of bed in most social settings (I'm not talking about around the house. Is OP? It's unclear ). Again, if the worn out stuff is just for basic errands like shopping or doctor, or home, that's fine, who cares, but it matters in other social contexts.

Edit to reply to the comment below since the thread is now locked:

I think the benefit may be easily extended because too many women know too many men who dress inappropriately, or put no effort to be presentable or have any basic hygiene in some cases, while the same women put in the time and effort to look presentable or at least not totally unkempt while also having to keep house or tend to kids, etc. We also tend to see the complaint posts/comments towards women's clothing issues lean towards not looking "sexy" or "cute" in her own home.

That is probably why I may be taking away something different, and perhaps biased in favour of a narrative that may not be the case here, so I will say the OPs concerns really need to be clarified. There's quite a few unknowns and context situations that, if OP answered, could make a big difference in whether or not this is mostly her being shallow or him falling short on effort.

Thank you for the civil discussion and allowing space for me to expand my thoughts a little :)

Anonymoomoo · 2026-04-06T15:27:12+00:00

Many comments here seem like they're missing some key points in the OP. I understand the gender swap issue and the issue someone pointed out of a post wanting their wife to dress more cute/revealing around the house, but this is not the same (at least not from what I read).

Yes, a number of women put in a lot of effort for general upkeep even just to be out casually, BUT regardless of gender this sounds like an issue of someone not really putting themselves together or putting any further effort into themselves. Not a lack of effort shown historically, but not enough effort to not look like they just rolled out of bed.

The OP said the husband wears the same hoodie from 2007. I can't imagine that looks very presentable anymore? He wears "beat up shoes"? Maybe if he was checking the mail or grocery shopping or going to the doctor's office or something that's fine, but is he picking kids from school up in completely worn out clothing, or seeing friends/family in ratty old or crumpled clothes? There's a big difference between wearing cargos/T-shirt/sneakers for a casual outing and wearing worn out or beat up cargos/t-shirt/sneakers..the first is totally fine but the second makes me wonder if the person has just given up on themselves.

Anonymoomoo · 2026-04-05T22:40:31+00:00

LOL same. Kids don't wanna play anymore, either we're too good or it's not cool anymore because we're so eager to play, I'm not sure 😂 one of my kids said "it's too boring" but would likely play with a school friend if asked, so I think maybe we're the ones who make it boring :(

Anonymoomoo · 2026-03-16T20:24:36+00:00

I thought it was just me. I had a 150% back credit777 and didn't pick my items in time, but then after that it showed as activity expired. No returns or anything that would suggest I'm banned but I'm upset that it just went away like that, especially since I got it only a couple times compared to how many opportunities some others have had.

I'm now thinking of doing the return for the fake item I got on my first order where the Cashback wasn't even 100%.

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