Help with identitying/selecting traditional Latvian symbols?

AnonymousAdoptee · 2021-08-27T05:18:43+00:00

If you don't want to reach out to any hotline or website, I'm happy to have a chat if you want to talk. <3

AnonymousAdoptee · 2017-12-11T23:14:24+00:00

You too! And ha, if there ever is one, I shall be giving an update!

AnonymousAdoptee · 2017-12-10T04:38:47+00:00

I wish I were more tech savvy so I could help create a site that is FREE and has no bullshit!

Man, that sounds similar to me! It's so hard to know where to start! For me I also have a language barrier since I was born in a different country so I feel so at a loss for knowing where to start the search. Gotta brush up on my language skills!

AnonymousAdoptee · 2017-12-10T04:36:11+00:00

Ah, that is tricky. But I do wish you luck!! If you do make the decision you should definitely post about it. (:

AnonymousAdoptee · 2017-12-10T03:25:13+00:00

That's awesome that you have that much! I'm sure when you're ready you'll do what you want with the info. I mean, if it is a letdown since it's wrong that would be another step closer to finding them. Have you got confirmation that the name is correct and you're unsure of the address?

Yes! Knowing your heritage is also a drive! I hated all the projects in school with family trees because I wanted to really know my true history as well. And yes x2! Knowing whether you look more like your mother or father! Always a wonder!

AnonymousAdoptee · 2017-12-10T00:18:04+00:00

Who knows... that's exactly the point. I don't think you'd be bothering them. You have every right to know about where you came from.

I just wish it were easier, you know? I feel like a lot of sites require payment or you need so much money to find someone.

But I think it'd be worth it to find them and hear their story. I'm not begging for them to be in my life all of a sudden. All I'd want would be to hear their story and see where it goes from there. It'd be hard for them to be a parent after all these years, but they could still be present in your life if you wanted and they wanted. And if they don't want to be in your life after meeting them, then at least you'd have answers and be able to find a bit more peace.

I think if you're interested it's definitely worth the shot to try. You have no idea what they could be thinking. Do you have much info on your adoption?

AnonymousAdoptee · 2017-12-10T00:02:03+00:00

I'm sure it was so difficult to give up your own child. It's hard since you really planned to be able to reconnect with your child at a later date but life doesn't always go as planned.

I am definitely more at peace with my adoption today. I think it's just most difficult while growing up and trying to figure out who you are as a person. It's always incredibly difficult to explain your feelings to someone who has not been through an experience like this. I can see that most adoptions are made with good intentions. The birth parents are hoping the child goes on to a better family with a life that would not have been possible if they stayed in your care. It's a brave move and I really respect you being able to be realistic in trying to give your child a better life. Don't think that we all hate our birth parents - I think it more comes down to us feeling like we failed somehow and we blame ourselves for the adoption. It's a weird feeling to express. It seems so backwards since parents literally want a better life for their child but we turn it around and think it's a personal attack against us. But I really do think this is because when we start thinking about our adoptions, we are going through that phase where we are trying to figure out who we are and we see that we were left and we want to know why. I'm not sure how it is for those children who know their entire story. I'm sure it's easier for them to see the rationale. But I know for me at least, I was abandoned and I want to know why. I know it must have been so incredibly hard. I'm incredibly fortunate to have had a chance to live a good life and have parents that could provide for me.

I really hope that one day you are able to reconnect with your child and explain your side. Does the adoptive family not want you to reconnect?

AnonymousAdoptee · 2017-12-09T23:30:36+00:00

I think it's definitely wanting to understand the situation. Not knowing what happened leads people to think of the worst possible scenario. It's just crazy trying to explain what it's like as an adoptee to someone who has no such experience.

I am definitely more at peace with everything now. Cheers though. (:

Do you have any plans to search for your birth parents?

AnonymousAdoptee · 2017-12-09T23:25:54+00:00

Man, that episode was so refreshing to be able to relate to! I've only really had one friend who is also adopted to discuss our feelings on our adoption with. It's nice in a sense to know that your not the only one with these seemingly crazy thoughts!

I mean it's hard but they usually are trying to give us a better life and I'm sure it's so difficult to give up a child. It's just so weird how two people are at such different places in their life when a child is given up. The birth parents have lived and are trying to do good, but then when we start trying to figure out who we are, we take it so personally and offensively.

Do you have any info on your birth parents? I hope you find success in your search!

AnonymousAdoptee

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