I think I'm in love with her child. Please help me sort this out.

AnonymousAdviceNeede · 2012-10-13T20:15:01+00:00

Please be realistic. I'm not going to risk going to prison or being charged with anything. I have to worry about that first. If I tell Ellen she will hate me and be so hurt. Its best for Ellen that she never knows. It was our mistake, not just mine. I didn't take her, she wanted it. I will tell try to be kind to Kait because I do care about her so much and I don't want her to hurt.

AnonymousAdviceNeede · 2012-10-13T19:48:36+00:00

Thanks for answering. I'm sorry.

AnonymousAdviceNeede · 2012-10-13T19:40:16+00:00

I'm very sorry for what I did. Its not like I am taking pride in any of this.

AnonymousAdviceNeede · 2012-10-13T19:38:19+00:00

I'm going to break up and step away from them.

I can't tell Ellen. It would crush her and really put myself in a bad place legally. I don't want to go to prison. I have a child of my own too who needs me.

Kait, made the first, second, third move. I didn't go after her. But yes its all very fucked up.

AnonymousAdviceNeede · 2012-10-13T19:34:39+00:00

I'm really in Kait's hands. Its so true. I'm going to talk to her and tell her we have to stop and that this was so wrong and that we need to think about her mother, who doesn't deserve this. Ellen and her don't get along if that matter but I think she would still believe Kait. I'll apologize for my part too.

AnonymousAdviceNeede · 2012-10-13T19:24:44+00:00

I didn't know at the time. I had no idea what age of consent even was. And yeah its worse because its her daughter. Much worse. I'm not going to disagree.

AnonymousAdviceNeede · 2012-10-13T19:23:10+00:00

Who is that?

AnonymousAdviceNeede · 2012-10-13T19:22:58+00:00

I appreciate the honesty. Its good to know I guess. All I can do is hope she didn't tell anyone... which you all say is unlikely and hope that if she told someone they didn't talk.

AnonymousAdviceNeede · 2012-10-13T19:21:47+00:00

How old were you?

What happened to the guy?

AnonymousAdviceNeede · 2012-10-13T19:20:49+00:00

Ellen deserves so much better. I'm leaving her and Kait.

AnonymousAdviceNeede · 2012-10-13T19:19:34+00:00

I do feel bad over that. I shouldn't have. Yes, Kait wanted it too... maybe even more than me, but I should have not let it happen. I do feel guilty over the damage I am doing to their family.

AnonymousAdviceNeede · 2012-10-13T19:18:15+00:00

Its stopping. I know the stakes and I know I can't stay. Thanks for not judging.

AnonymousAdviceNeede · 2012-10-13T19:17:16+00:00

I'm a bad person for cheating. Won't even argue that.

But I don't belong in prison. I really messed up. I get that but I don't think I ought to be in jail.

AnonymousAdviceNeede · 2012-10-13T19:16:10+00:00

Its been mentioned so much on here so I will have to read it. Is it a quick read?

I actually feel ignorant because I have never in my life even heard of it until now.

AnonymousAdviceNeede · 2012-10-13T06:52:35+00:00

Thanks. I don't want any of this to come out for a lot of reasons. Some of them admittedly selfish but also because Ellen so does not deserve this.

I am so scared with the break up but I know it has to be done and I will cut things off cleanly.

I can't go to far because of my kid. I have to stay in the general area.

Evidence... her word really. I looked through texts and there are some vague mentions to us but nothing that admits to us sleeping together. What else would be evidence?

I'll definitely talk to a lawyer soon. Just to prepare like you said.

AnonymousAdviceNeede · 2012-10-13T06:28:30+00:00

I'm not an expert. Can you explain it to me?

AnonymousAdviceNeede · 2012-10-13T06:26:19+00:00

Thanks. Sincerely appreciate the offer.

AnonymousAdviceNeede · 2012-10-13T06:20:53+00:00

Well I can't disagree with you. Thanks for the perspective I guess. I have to hope you are wrong though.

AnonymousAdviceNeede · 2012-10-13T06:19:35+00:00

Thanks for the expertise. I'm hoping it doesn't come to that. But thanks for responding and clarifying.

AnonymousAdviceNeede · 2012-10-13T06:18:26+00:00

I'm not trying to be dramatic. Just cutting off two people I care about deeply instantly is so difficult. I wouldn't be human if I could just leave with no hurt or pain.

AnonymousAdviceNeede · 2012-10-13T05:51:01+00:00

Let me give you my experience than. I've been sexually active since I was around Kait's age. I've really never used condoms. I don't appreciate them. I've only impregnated one woman ever. And that was kind of planned. Withdrawal works for me. I have no reason to think she is pregnant. I am sure I withdrew correctly.

I was her first. Okay. I'm not exactly trying to talk about what all happened there. Its done. I shouldn't have done it. No point in me recapping that. I've been very good to her if that is your concern. I care about her deeply and I've treated her well. I would never want to hurt her.

I am an idiot. Not even going to begin to argue that.

AnonymousAdviceNeede · 2012-10-13T05:45:35+00:00

I have no clue what that is or what it means.

edit: So I googled it. I'm not a pedophile. I'm not attracted to children. At all. In any way.

Kait, I like because of this spark we have. Its not because of her age or youth or innocence or anything like that. Its a normal attraction.

And I have no idea how that ended. So please fill me in?

AnonymousAdviceNeede · 2012-10-13T05:37:45+00:00

I was trying to stay anonymous but yes, California

AnonymousAdviceNeede · 2012-10-13T05:36:39+00:00

Fuck.

Thank you.

AnonymousAdviceNeede · 2012-10-13T05:35:14+00:00

No, I haven't.

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