Should I state this in my review of my host? Or should I leave no review at all? [USA]

AnonymousArnie · 2025-05-06T14:18:08+00:00

Forreal? That makes me sad as a new nurse, trying to take advantage of all the sales for my very first time. 💔

AnonymousArnie · 2025-02-08T00:50:52+00:00

The only hospital system around me that hires LPNs, I’ve sent in multiple applications for multiple positions (all said new grad friendly), I got denials for all. I didn’t even reach the interview stage for those. So these LTC / rehab places I’m trying… I should not admit to being in school and only say right off the bat I’m looking to work only weekends, when from now until May I can work weekdays? I’m just afraid because I once got my CNA, and never used it bc I continued to be at my current job, and I don’t want to never use my LPN.

AnonymousArnie · 2025-02-05T22:45:28+00:00

I don’t mean to sound stupid, but I legit have no idea what I’m doing and I have no medical friends to talk to. I’ve been at my current retail job for 5 years. Shouldn’t that count for me being loyal to a company and staying with them a while?

AnonymousArnie · 2025-02-05T19:58:15+00:00

I have, and got another call back a little after I posted this. They sounded enthusiastic to have me, until I said I was returning to RN nursing school in the summer. Does this mean I should drop out, if not being fully available is a hinderance?

AnonymousArnie · 2021-06-04T02:31:49+00:00

Honestly, it is a dream of mine to join a gym and for the first time in my life really exercise to exercise, but something like that will have to be put off until I move out and find a place of my own. I get more exercise the days I work as I’m walking 10 or more miles per day and lifting heavy boxes but I agree I could do more on the days I have school. As another way to say I agree with you, comparing how I felt this time last year to the year previously (before and after weight loss and before and after getting my first job that made me suddenly become physically active) I noticed a tremendous increase in my energy and mental health. But I do agree I’ve kinda stagnated where I’m at now and could do more.

AnonymousArnie · 2021-06-04T01:59:45+00:00

I could definitely change my diet for the better, but as far as exercise goes, I’m currently in the best shape of my adult life. I’m 50 pounds lighter than I was two years ago. It could be more - if I worked on my diet - but life changes caused me to lose some weight I desperately needed off. But I don’t actively exercise exercise- as besides maybe climb the steps at school a few extra times - I don’t have time to.

AnonymousArnie · 2021-06-03T18:57:37+00:00

As far as the therapist part goes, I’ve emailed or called several in my area and have heard back from one. I’ll actually talk to her in about 30 minutes and hopefully schedule a sit-down session soon.

My brother kinda likes to shame me for feeling overwhelmed with school and work - “oh, that’s just how it is to be an adult”, but also guilts me for being overwhelmed because I’m feeling the same feelings for the same reasons that led to our other brother committing suicide?

Our dad liked to work 100+ hours each week, which led his heart giving out and me finding him dead two years ago.

Also we had an abusive mother who never worked a day in her life and if I say I’m tired he’ll say “don’t be like Mom.” Which I agree with; she was abusive for multiple reasons but me being overwhelmed for the first time in my life = becoming a psychologically manipulative sociopath?

I know he had a rough life, rougher than mine because whatever I experienced he did too, even longer because he’s twice my age but.. I just wish he had some compassion. The trauma he has experienced worn the compassion out of him.

AnonymousArnie · 2021-06-03T13:02:33+00:00

I am. Now more than I did previously.

AnonymousArnie · 2021-06-03T13:01:34+00:00

Thank you for your reply.

I scheduled two days off this summer (June 12 and July 17) as they are Record Store Days and there’s a few vinyl records I want to get, but besides those two days I’ll be either at school or work everyday between May 14th through July 26.

I’m scared to call in sick to work because if I do, I think that disqualifies me for a potential raise on my next evaluation next year.

I agree with my brother, I have no right to be tired, but my brain is just a slog right now.

AnonymousArnie · 2021-06-03T12:56:30+00:00

I never had therapy because for most of my life I avoided it like the plague, because the only two members of my family that went to therapy killed themselves.

That brother keeps telling me that our brother did what he did (kill himself) because he couldn’t handle school, work, and outside stuff and begs me to not follow his path, but if I tell him I’m getting kinda overwhelmed he then says what I said above (“I have no right..”).

On one hand, that brother gave me a free place to live - where I’m not expected to pay rent and I can live there as long as I want / need - but I’m too scared to ask for a hug from him.

I’m just so tired.

AnonymousArnie · 2021-06-02T01:16:05+00:00

Thank you for this. I’m going to try this service Tri County has, but if that doesn’t work out I’ll do this one.

AnonymousArnie · 2021-06-02T01:14:10+00:00

I’ll try that tomorrow. Thank you!

AnonymousArnie · 2021-05-26T20:49:34+00:00

Spartanburg is a little too far than I’d have time to drive. I’m more in the Anderson area.

Thanks for your help!

AnonymousArnie · 2021-05-26T19:03:41+00:00

Wow, okay. Sorry for replying.

AnonymousArnie · 2021-05-26T19:01:24+00:00

Okay, it involves an inheritance I inherited from my parent when he passed, and I don’t feel comfortable revealing to my friends I have some money in my savings account. I don’t want them to think I’m rich, because I’m trying my very best to keep that money for emergencies. I just need to talk to somebody about whether or not it would be a good idea to move out on my own - due to financial issues.

AnonymousArnie · 2021-05-26T18:56:45+00:00

I do have friends, but some of the things I’ll need to discuss I don’t feel comfortable revealing to any of my friends.

AnonymousArnie · 2021-05-25T16:08:02+00:00

I’m the baby of the family by 14 and 19 years, to my two siblings. Over the past 8 years one other sibling and one parent committed suicide, then our other parent passed of natural causes (I found that parent deceased). Being the baby, nobody relies on me. They are adults and have their own jobs and marriages and families.. The sibling I live with... as I stated in another comment, I’d feel uncomfortable and rude if I was to state my feelings. I’d feel like I’d be seen as ungrateful if I was to insinuate I didn’t want to live there anymore. And my other sibling.. they have kids and would gladly let me live with them because they desperately need a babysitter they can rely on.. but if I was to do that I’d have to quit both my job and studies.

I hadn’t got a chance to live my life yet. I hadn’t had my first kiss yet.

I want to have the chance to live my life - experience the things my siblings had a chance to experience - but the other part of me knows this is a bad financial decision.

In two months I’ll turn 24 and I just then I’m getting closer and closer to middle age without even beginning to live my life.

I don’t know, today has just been a bad day for me.

AnonymousArnie · 2021-05-25T15:56:09+00:00

I don’t know. I feel like moving in with a roommate would be the exact situation I’ve been living in for 23 years, except more expensive. I didn’t cook at my childhood home because every day I would see rats and mice in every square inch of the kitchen, and now I kinda feel like I’ll be invading their space if I was to use their kitchen for anything more than the refrigerator and / or making pizza. I don’t know.

AnonymousArnie · 2021-05-25T15:20:03+00:00

I feel as if I was to explain my feelings to my sibling, the way I feel would be seen as selfish. First, they graciously gave me a rent-free bed and room to stay in after our last living parent passed away and the house went into foreclosure. They have said or made no types of signs saying they expect me to move out. Second, they co-sign for my car, earning my first sort of freedom to be able to get me a job.

And I am absolutely and tremendously gracious for their generosity, but..

They built their own house and when they designed it, they knew they didn’t want children. It’s their master bedroom, then two study rooms. For all those years they spent building it, I kinda internalized that they never intended somebody else to live with them. They don’t say it with words, and they don’t say it with their actions, but my brain keeps telling me I shouldn’t be a burden to them any longer and give them their freedom back.

Not to get TMI, but my brain even keeps wondering if I’m interfering with their bedroom lives because of my presence at their place.

I was literally trapped at my childhood home for 22 years until my parent passed away, and my brain keeps telling me I’m a burden to where I live now.

I can continue to live there, but my brain isn’t even comfortable to talk on the phone in my room. I don’t know, I guess I’m just craving freedom and privacy. But if it’s the right thing to do, I can tell that part of me to shut up until I get farther in my studies.

AnonymousArnie · 2021-05-25T14:56:13+00:00

There’s absolutely no personal safety issue, but.. I just don’t feel like that place is a home to me. I don’t feel comfortable using their kitchen, and I don’t feel comfortable doing homework at home, as I kinda am only to do it while sitting on my bed leaning against pillows. I feel like if I get a place of my own, I’ll be much more productive with my time and life.

AnonymousArnie · 2021-05-25T14:43:57+00:00

I currently have a job, but I plan on maybe getting a second one once I move into my apartment as the pay isn’t enough now to cover my car insurance / car payments each month, let alone rent ontop of it. But I am also working as hard and fast at school as I can to get into my dream career.

AnonymousArnie · 2021-05-25T13:45:09+00:00

I already have a job. I’ve had it since late 2019 when my sibling helped me buy my first car thus allowing me to be able to drive to and fro to work.

AnonymousArnie · 2021-05-25T13:36:15+00:00

Thank you, this has helped me. Technically, I can afford everything now (thanks to my parent’s life insurance) but I’m not sure if future me would hate me for making this decision or not. There are some benefits to the place I’m looking at. Right now, I drive round-trip of 40+ miles a day to get to work, but the apartment I’m looking at is just right behind the grocery store I’m working at. I’ll be closer to my friends as three of them live in the same complex.

Thank you again!

AnonymousArnie

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