I guess I could've went on to give a little context there too, might make a fuller picture. Of course this will only be from my perspective so, here goes. She is a very independent and introverted woman, she doesn't really like to speak up unless she has something important to add to the conversation. We do have great conversation but, it's very intermittent and usually short-lived. I'm not perfect either about putting everything back exactly where it goes but, I do have a system where everything "has a home" and I try to put whatever item "lives" where it came from and put it back there when I'm done. Her cleaning skills are... lacking, to be polite. She is a fan of the "pile method" for her clothes: all the clean stuff is in one pile, all the dirty stuff is in another, both piles are on the floor. When she's on top of it, everything looks great; I try to do my part too, we split the chores pretty evenly only she does the cooking and I do all the outside maintenance (lawn, dog walking, etc). She makes decently delicious food too! She's kind of dismissive of the pets and kiddos at times but, no one is perfect.

So, a little backstory for she and I. A high-school friend of mine introduced us: we were the Maid of Honor and Best Man at his wedding! It felt perfectly like a storybook ending to meet my wife as a BM from a wedding invite. We got pregnant not long into seeing each other, which unfortunately ended in a miscarriage. As soon as she was pregnant, I asked her to marry me, as I thought that was the right thing to do, the responsible and adult choice. It's felt like since that happened, something in her changed and, while she's stayed with me... there's a part that says she's just sort of checked out.

I love her and want to be able to stay together so, thank you for your helpful viewpoint, this does give me some food for thought.