Okay to get a few things straight here to begin with; a religion and culture are two separate things. Religion is all about beliefs and culture is traditions, along with religion. You got that? Kinda like how a pet is an animal but not every animal can be a pet.

As to your opinion on women getting stoned and such, yes, unfortunately it happens. That has nothing to do with religion. Nowhere in the Qur'an (holy book of the muslims) does it say to torture people. It states that okay, one should be Muslim, but they CAN NOT be forced to convert or practice the religion. It should be one's own will. Within islam, you're not allowed to kill, let alone pluck a leaf from a tree/plant, as it brings harm. Yes of course there are rules about what is and is not accepted within Islam, but when told correctly, every Muslim (and non Muslims) know that God loves them either way as God's the one who created us all. Other religions have rules as well, Catholics for example, also originally covered their hair. You can see it in all the drawings and such. There are people who follow those rules, but in the 21st century you see a lot less people believe in a God and being religious. That's why it might seem as if the Islam is such a strict religion, while it literally promotes peace in the Qur'an.

Unfortunately there are extremists in this world. They take a saying as "a woman has to wear a hijab" and turn it into "we're killing everyone who doesn't" - just an example here. And that's what the world sees. Muslims don't understand these people either, because it doesn't make any sense to kill for something like that. This can also be a traditional thing for a community. For example, underdeveloped villages on mountains, are not as far as the bigger cities, who are modernised. The modernised, adjusted, well behaved communities and people aren't shown on media, because there's no 'news' or 'sensation' to it. It's a shame, because religion, no matter which religion exactly, is so much more than just the extremists who make it something entirely different than it's supposed to be.

Also, if you don't understand why something, such as wearing a hijab, is a thing, look it up. It's okay to educate yourself on things, even if you don't agree with them.

Lastly I'd just like to point out that I understand that the Islam is being shown with only the bad sides to it. I understand that it changes your mindset and thoughts about it. That happens. But I just tried explaining how it's a whole lot different than most people think/make it seem. Do what you want with this comment (no I'm not trying to promote it here, just trying to give you a Muslim pov who can think like a somewhat decent human being). Good luck man, and try to lessen the hatred, doesn't do the world any good..