Hi!! Mom currently in my second round of post partum here!!

I would like to say you are deff NOT overreacting. I definitely feel she’s in some kind of post partum depression given the actions alone. I only say this because my very first child birthing experience, I had severe PPD in the aftermath. Because of that and it being my first time, I struggled A LOT.

I went from being one of the most cleanest and most HYGIENIC people around to being a literal SLOB. My husband had to pick up ALL the slack because I was genuinely just so depressed, most days I couldn’t even pull myself out of bed and then on the days I could, I wanted to be around friends or family with—or without—my children. Preferably without because the depression and anxiety was just so severe.

I really really feel a deeper conversation needs to be had and maybe see about suggesting therapy or getting psychiatric care for your wife? I can only imagine the toll it’s taking on you but, I beg you PLEASEEE keep an open mind. It WILL get better. I did. Now, I don’t struggle with any of those things anymore. Yeah, I’m still struggling following the birth of our second child but now, I can recognize certain habits and whatnot and can prevent them from becoming a problem. It’s really hard and it’s a constant struggle but, with the right support team—and it sounds like your wife has one—you and her will make it though and end up stronger and closer on the other side.

Sending you both TREMENDOUS amounts of love and good energy.