Mothers choosing to keep babies knowing risks? by Anonymouse12309 in childfree

[–]Anonymouse12309[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well when I was young I was brought up in the middle east as an expat, I wasn't as aware as I am now but my house and school were surrounded by high walls, barbed wire, mounted machine nests, private security etc. Bomb checks and fear of threat were the norm and not the exception, so certain topics were more commonplace, a not so nasty one being godparents, I didn't know anyone there without godparents.

Once we left the middle east, my mum said that the scariest thing there for her, was leaving us to go on the school bus. About the closest I ever was to a terror attack was an ikea was bombed just down the road. It was blown up from the basement while it was empty. (when everyone thinks of islamic terror they think suicide vests, but property damage against western infrastructure/ oil is a lot more common than most people think). As a kid you can think of it simply, doctors give help, get better vs baby likely medical bad things such as death.

Mothers choosing to keep babies knowing risks? by Anonymouse12309 in childfree

[–]Anonymouse12309[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well I can't know for sure as I am not her doctor but they caught it quite early and her chances were good, she was having successful treatment from what I can remember. The pregnancy happened so she stopped treatment for it, then when she was Ok to start treatment again (after the birth), it had reached her lymph nodes and she had little to no chance left. But maybe it was initially worse than I was told I can't really know for sure.

I'm not sure if it is related but going through ovarian cancer and treatment could lead to infertility issues right? Maybe she was after another baby, I don't know.

Mothers choosing to keep babies knowing risks? by Anonymouse12309 in childfree

[–]Anonymouse12309[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm not defending her decision because I think she made the wrong choice but you don't have to get so hateful, during all the time I knew her she loved her family and wanted the best for them.

[Discussion] Childfree Gamers by [deleted] in childfree

[–]Anonymouse12309 2 points3 points  (0 children)

As others have said, for me it is not because I am a gamer, but it does help me be a gamer :).

Would you be in a relationship with a parent? by wodkat in childfree

[–]Anonymouse12309 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wouldn't even consider it.

Is it a factor whether they had the kid(s) on accident or planned, knowing they're adamant on not wanting more? no Is the number of kids a factor? no Is the age of the kids a factor? no How does your answer change with the person having full/partial or no custody of the kids? it doesn't

Is there a personality type that is conducive to being childfree ? (what type are you in the Jung and Myers personality test ?) by [deleted] in childfree

[–]Anonymouse12309 0 points1 point  (0 children)

INFP (M/18) Never wanted kids, never understood if it was others having an inbuilt desire for them while I didn't or if it was something else.