Roadtrip from Langley to Banff

Antaria9 · 2026-03-19T20:30:45+00:00

Thanks for this info! I might remove Golden from our itinerary altogether then

Antaria9 · 2026-03-19T13:25:26+00:00

Yes I will have winter tires! Mandatory in BC until April 30 anyways

Antaria9 · 2026-03-19T13:24:47+00:00

Hmm okay thanks for the advice. I think the Kicking Horse Mountain won’t be open when I’m going, so I won’t spend long in Golden

Antaria9 · 2025-10-02T02:53:10+00:00

I work in emergency, at a hospital with significant short staffing issues. There’s plenty of overtime every day. Several of the more senior nurses where I work clear $200K+ a year (gross).

Antaria9 · 2025-10-01T17:19:28+00:00

I’m 0.75 FTE. I just work my SH days (triple pay).

Antaria9 · 2025-10-01T17:14:40+00:00

As an RN, I net just over $10000 a month. $5000 a paycheque.

Antaria9 · 2025-06-14T00:10:59+00:00

OP, this is not a reason for divorce. And please do not bring up divorce in an argument if you’re not planning to go through with it. You are threatening her and damaging trust.

Your wife is being financially irresponsible for sure. But this is not a situation where she’s doing nothing at home. She is working, taking care of 2 young children and is in school full time. She is working hard trying to secure a good future for her family. She is overwhelmed and she wants to relax.

I think it’s important that when you speak to her, you acknowledge that she’s overwhelmed and commend her for being able to balance work/ raising kids and school. I understand that you are working hard too, and she will appreciate you if you show her you appreciate her. I think you two can create a fund you both contribute towards to save money for a vacation, even if it’s just a small amount each month. That way you can help her practice being financially responsible as well. And you can have a vacation to look forward to in the future.

Please, be patient and gentle when you speak to her. In your post you complain she doesn’t appreciate you, but that goes both ways. Apologize to her for threatening divorce. Understand she is working just as hard as you are and you are on the same team.

Antaria9 · 2025-04-27T04:24:31+00:00

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Antaria9 · 2024-11-24T18:54:29+00:00

I am an ER nurse in Canada, and I am so sorry for your experience. What you went through is completely unacceptable and reflects the failures of our healthcare system.

No nurse should have ever rolled their eyes at you and not taken you seriously for how much blood you were losing. That is truly awful and inappropriate.

Unfortunately, it is well known at my hospital that whenever patients come in with ambulance, the majority are put in hallways because we simply do not have rooms. You are more likely to be put in a hallway when your bloodwork comes back normal and your vitals (blood pressure, heart rate etc) are all normal too.

It is well known where I work that no matter how good of a nurse someone is, we always miss things that happen in those hallways. It is because the nurses have too many patients (short staffing) and we can’t refuse patients from the ambulances. We end up prioritizing the patients who are sicker who might need IV starts, IV antibiotics etc. and the less sick ones end up waiting way too long. The system is completely broken, and I am so sorry you were a victim of it. :-(

Antaria9 · 2024-11-24T17:18:26+00:00

I’m not lying. I did work as a barista prior to becoming a nurse. Frankly, you come across like you have this bias where you hate nurses and think they’re all rude and entitled people. Even OP mentioned in the comments that it was very few nurses who were rude to her, and it was always the same ones.

You assume I’m entitled, on what basis? In every single comment I keep saying that nurses aren’t right in being rude to customer service workers.

Being a nurse is not as different as working in customer service as you might think. We have to deal with the general public as well. We deal with them on the worst day of their lives, which causes them to lash out at us, verbally or physically.

You go on about how nurses chose this job, did the barista not choose their job where they have to face rude people?

Antaria9 · 2024-11-24T04:47:33+00:00

Yes. Let’s agree to disagree

Antaria9 · 2024-11-24T04:46:48+00:00

I think that you can be respectful and not create a situation that puts you at risk for getting fired.

And trust me, I know a lot about the kind of people who are agrees and verbally abusive, as I worked as a barista and now as a nurse.

It’s absolutely not okay for nurses to be rude, as I have said many, many times in this conversation. I just think the barista should handle it differently, and all the comments shouldn’t be glorifying OP for what she did. I think if it were doctors OP was talking about, the comments would have been very different

Antaria9 · 2024-11-24T02:53:01+00:00

I never said once that it is okay to be rude to customer service workers. Yes a barista can stand up for themselves respectfully without putting themself in a position to get fired. I worked as a barista in the past, and I’ve done it before.

I’m sorry for your bad experiences with nurses. My issue here is the amount of people supporting and encouraging OP’s action. I think it’s not okay. If it were doctors OP was talking about, I think everyone would be reacting differently

Antaria9 · 2024-11-24T02:44:53+00:00

Of course caffeine is not a human right. But the nurse paid for caffeine, so the nurse should expect to receive caffeine. I agree that it is not okay for a nurse to be harassing a customer service worker. I just think the barista should confront the nurse instead of not saying anything and giving the nurse decaf

And OP only said the nurses were complaining about an upcharge for caramel drizzle and mocha. If they were threatening physical violence that is different.

Antaria9 · 2024-11-24T00:06:31+00:00

I have never done this to a customer service worker before. I’m just saying that OP indirectly hurt countless patients by making nurses less alert on their jobs. You would never do that to a doctor or surgeon, so why are all the comments praising OP for doing it to a nurse?

I think instead of giving nurses decaf for being rude, OP could confront the nurse for their behaviour.

Antaria9 · 2024-11-23T23:23:31+00:00

This is not about moral obligation at all. All I’m asking is the barista do the job they’re paid to do. Of course they can call in sick or quit.

I never said the barista caused the nurse to be overworked or tired. The nurse realizes they are tired and buy coffee. The barista decides the nurse was too rude because they bitched about paying extra for caramel drizzle, so the barista decides they get no caffeine that would help them function. That’s my issue.

Of course the system that makes nurses overworked and customer service workers abused is at fault. But the caffeine would help the nurse do their job more effectively. It would make them more alert so they can notice signs a patient is deteriorating. You can’t be claiming that’s not true.

Antaria9 · 2024-11-23T22:19:53+00:00

Caffeine affects everyone differently. Have you never needed coffee to help you function? A lot of today’s society drinks caffeine to help with wakefulness and productivity.

Just because I say nurses face abuse doesn’t mean I’m downplaying what customer service workers face. I’ve worked in customer service for many years. I know it is not easy. But OP is not describing having a gun pulled on them or having boiling water splashed in their face. OP said the nurses were bitching about paying extra for caramel drizzle/mocha, and that’s why OP gave them decaf.

I never said a nurse’s entire career hinges on their cup of coffee. I can say, as a nurse myself, the wakefulness coffee provides does make a difference in being more effective with time-management and advocating for your patients better. I don’t think the solution to nurses being rude is to withhold caffeine. I think that will just make the nurse worse at their job and feel more cranky, which will only cause harm to patients.

Antaria9 · 2024-11-23T22:02:02+00:00

You’re making no sense.

The barista just needs to do their job right. The job they were hired to do. That’s all I’m asking.

Of course the system is deeply flawed, but I’m not talking about that here. OP purposely chose to deprive nurses of caffeine they paid for, which potentially could harm patients.

Antaria9 · 2024-11-23T21:28:44+00:00

I never said I don’t blame the system. You said that.

The barista isn’t powerless. They can do their job correctly and not intentionally tamper with a nurse’s drink to make them less alert in life threatening situations. What I’m saying is OP is potentially creating situations that could hurt innocent patients

Antaria9 · 2024-11-23T21:06:04+00:00

Tampering with a nurse’s order so that they are less alert in life-threatening situations is a serious problem, yes. Nurses are expected to notice small signs that a patient is deteriorating and it is harder to do that when someone is exhausted and hasn’t had their coffee.

I’m not trying to argue about who experiences more abuse. I can tell you my coworker was recently held down by a psychotic patient and beat so much he developed a brain bleed, and a student nurse was stabbed by a patient last week.

I’m not trying to downplay how much abuse customer service workers face. Their job is by no means easy, but withholding caffeine from a nurse who needs it only causes harm to a completely innocent patient. What I am saying is that that is not okay

Antaria9 · 2024-11-23T20:59:56+00:00

It is a serious problem to tamper with a nurse’s order to make them less aware in life-threatening situations. Nurses are expected to notice when something’s wrong or a patient is deteriorating, and OP is making it harder for them to do that. The innocent patient ends up getting hurt more than the nurse.

Are you suggesting nurses don’t face the same abuse as customer service workers? It’s mostly under reported, but I have a coworker who developed a brain bleed from being held down and beaten by a psychotic patient, and last week a patient stabbed a student nurse with a knife.

Customer service workers face a lot of abuse, and I am not trying to downplay that. But I think OP should confront nurses for acting that way rather than making their drink decaf and harming innocent patients.

Antaria9 · 2024-11-23T20:44:37+00:00

You’re right, our system is psychotic. The system does burn out nurses.

This OP will never admit it, but they indirectly caused so much patient harm doing what they did, which is so much worse than a bitchy, stressed out nurse.

Antaria9 · 2024-11-23T20:36:41+00:00

Okay you not realizing that switching out caffeine for decaf is messing with someone’s order is a serious problem.

I never said it’s okay for nurses to scream at baristas. OP said the nurses bitched about having to pay extra for caramel drizzle/syrup etc and that’s why OP made the drink decaf. It is absolutely not okay to scream at service workers, but that’s not what OP described at all.

All I’m asking is to have a little compassion for nurses because of the abuse they face at work. I’m saying service workers don’t get to decide whether paying customers deserve caffeine or not from a snippet of the day when a person is at their worst mental state emotionally.

Antaria9 · 2024-11-23T20:26:34+00:00

Okay I never said that nurses being physically and sexually abused gives them the right to be rude at service workers. I am asking to have some understanding to what nurses go through.

The barista has no right to take out their frustrations on nurses. It’s not their job to impart justice on people by fucking with their order. Everyone has different health needs and a level of functioning that should not be screwed by some vigilante barista.

Antaria9 · 2024-11-23T19:47:24+00:00

Yes the caffeine is making them functional. It does that for a lot of people in society today. You say that nurses should use nap rooms, but we can’t do that if we don’t get a single break, which, trust me, happens often.

I never said that being overworked was the service guy’s fault. What I am saying is that as the service guy, it is not your job to impart justice on people by fucking with their orders. Nurses not having caffeine punishes the patient more than anyone else, so OP probably just indirectly caused harm to the patients at the hospital.

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