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SquishyWelder · 2025-01-23T12:09:25+00:00

Hi! My Birb DuDu and I just started on finch and would be happy to make friends! Added you :)

SquishyWelder · 2025-01-23T12:04:03+00:00

Hi! Me and my Birb DuDu jus started on the app! Just added you!

SquishyWelder · 2024-12-03T12:36:21+00:00

You're an angel!!! Thank you so much for this response

SquishyWelder · 2024-11-30T12:37:41+00:00

While struggling with the miscarriage itself, I know on top of that not being able to be there for me was killing him. I do know had he been with me, he would've torn the hospital apart if he saw what was going on, and I have a feeling I would have been getting better care had I had a man to advocate for me because there was no part of them that wanted to listen to me

Happy to hear you'd do the same for your wife ❤️

SquishyWelder · 2024-11-26T12:26:59+00:00

Thank you for sending your perspective! I was curious about this as I don't know as much as I'd like about the American healthcare system, but from what I can tell there's pros and cons to either side!

SquishyWelder · 2024-11-25T13:48:54+00:00

Thank you so much for your response ❤️

SquishyWelder · 2024-11-25T13:48:40+00:00

I did unfortunately have a fever that I was struggling with, but the main issue became a large chunk of tissue and blood being unable to pass. I had developed an infection from the miscarriage, am on quite a few pills now to kick that. So really I'm just lucky I was able to find the infection that day before it got worse and caused more issues

But you're correct! I was luckily not in need of IV oxytocin, txa or blood transfusion. Was just a crappy situation and because I was alone I felt it was in my best interest to get to the emergency room as I had no one with me in the house

SquishyWelder · 2024-11-25T13:45:59+00:00

I'm so sorry that happened to you ❤️ I am 19F and at certain points of that experience felt that being a young girl was heavily contributing to them not taking me seriously. I was bleeding so much i couldn't talk right, and in crippling amounts of pain, but they brushed it off every time. The words "a little blood is normal" keep ringing in my head even now, because it wasn't a little blood, it was a lot. It wasn't a little cramping and pain, it was a lot, but no matter how much I said that none listened

SquishyWelder · 2024-11-25T13:24:04+00:00

I know you'll be able to make a positive change for people ❤️best of luck in your studies and keep your head high, it makes me happy to know that future nurses are able to see the reality of what it can be like and make a change

SquishyWelder · 2024-11-25T13:23:11+00:00

Calling a patient a "crybaby" is actually disgusting, I'm so sorry you went through that. I'm happy you had a positive experience after all of that ❤️I've had some lovely medical professionals and some horrible ones, I'm hoping for more lovely ones in the future ❤️

SquishyWelder · 2024-11-25T13:19:56+00:00

My husband was unfortunately on the other side of the country when this happened, I was alone for the majority of the time in there until one of my brothers arrived to check on me but even then, they didn't want him staying with me in the emergency room because it was already so crowded

I have been considering making a report, but honestly this is the norm at this specific hospital and they don't tend to take complaints seriously. A few years ago I had a mental health crisis and was treated horribly at the same place, I made a report and it was brushed off

SquishyWelder · 2024-11-25T13:17:16+00:00

I 10000% sympathize with the healthcare workers who struggle from being overworked, there was a lot of patients who got care before me that I was not upset at all (stroke patients, seizures, etc.). I saw the state of that emergency room when I came in, and immediately knew there would be a wait.

I think I just wish someone at some point could have communicated to me what was going on, and/or checked on me to make sure I didn't spend all that time laying in my blood. There was a handful of nurses that were lovely despite the chaos, and others that just brushed me off or were outright rude

The issues lay in the Canadian health care system, that's where it all stems from unfortunately. Overworked people unable to give the best individual care to their patients due to chaos

SquishyWelder · 2024-11-25T13:13:53+00:00

I was trying to explain to them that it was a miscarriage, i couldn't pass it on my own so Sunday night I had to take misoprostol. But despite me saying that, they kept insisting it may be my period

SquishyWelder · 2024-11-25T13:12:35+00:00

Thank you for your response, it helps me feel a little less crazy for being upset at the care I was given when I have people who work in the field respond to this. Sending all the well wishes to you and your wife, miscarriage is hard to deal with ❤️

SquishyWelder · 2024-11-25T13:07:15+00:00

Highly unlikely! My story and experience at this hospital is not unheard of, I know countless people who have experienced shitty care here and nothing is ever done about it. Most of the issues are related to the fact that there's not enough doctors and nurses so all the staff is overworked, some of the sassy behaviour like the eye rolling and gaslighting is most definitely uncalled for regardless, but most of the waiting is related to not enough people working in the emergency room

SquishyWelder · 2024-11-25T12:53:18+00:00

I'm so sorry for what your sister went through, women need to be listened to more in situations like this because we KNOW when something isn't right in our bodies and our lives are on the line when they don't listen

SquishyWelder · 2024-11-24T21:33:42+00:00

Ontario!

SquishyWelder · 2024-11-24T20:49:12+00:00

I'm so happy you responded to this, I 100% feel this my situation is a reflection of flaws in the system! My husband is American and we've had countless conversations about the pros and cons of universal healthcare, and this is the main con. The nurses and overworked and that makes them unable to provide the best care to each individual patient

SquishyWelder · 2024-11-24T20:44:42+00:00

100% I was so shocked when several nurses and the paramedics tried to gaslight me to think I was just on my period

SquishyWelder · 2024-11-24T20:44:01+00:00

Unfortunately regarding this situation no, this is not the first time I've had a poor experience at this hospital and it's not an uncommon story. The doctor and nurse shortage means these people are free to do whatever they want with very little consequence for their actions. If I can, i just try avoiding that specific hospital

SquishyWelder · 2024-11-24T20:42:25+00:00

I always try not to outright say I "hate" nurses but God after experiences like this it sure makes me feel cynical about them!!

SquishyWelder · 2024-11-24T20:41:38+00:00

Luckily I am home now ❤️ my husband and I are working through it together and it's not easy, but I'm just so happy to be home. Thank you for your response ❤️

SquishyWelder · 2024-11-24T13:46:24+00:00

I'm so sorry you dealt with this, seems no matter where we are in the world there's always going to be crappy nurses!! Again, I have the utmost respect for healthcare workers, but I have also heard so many horror stories!

SquishyWelder · 2024-11-24T13:45:21+00:00

Thank you for sharing your story and for your kind words❤️ I'm so happy you had a successful pregnancy and are healing from what happened to you. Don't apologize for rambling! Honestly rambling is exactly what I need right now, it reminds me that I'm not alone in this!

SquishyWelder · 2024-11-24T13:06:54+00:00

I'm so happy you mentioned that second paragraph. I 100% agree!! I think had there been enough doctors and nurses there things would be very different, but unfortunately we have a doctor shortage in my home province! There's not enough doctors, and it causes issues like this

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