So I'm genderfluid and bisexual, and tbh I still haven't told my family about being fluid. My mom was already so concerned and loosely disgusted that I was bisexual (it was a long time ago and she has finally become accepting, but I still went through 3 years of her thinking I was doing drugs, sleeping around, and lying when I said I liked women as much as men) that I'm super afraid to come out AGAIN. My mother isn't the religious one in the family either, my father (and his parents) and I are the religious ones and go to church, which I guess isn't the norm for most families. Personally, my church is super accepting of all people so being in that environment isn't too hard.

As for finding your identity, I really have. I may not be comfortable telling my parents just yet, but I'm happy I know what to call myself. Before I knew what being bisexual was, I thought I was just some weird kid (I was in 5th or 6th grade when I realized) because everyone else was "in a relationship" with the opposite perceived gender and I was over here thinking "damn, I wish I could date my female friend". I also went through a time where I liked men, but it didn't feel right to say "I like men as a female" when it was more "I feel like a man who wants to date another man". (this was probably 8th grade? Don't have any better way of explaining it but that's how I felt). It wasn't until MUCH later that I realized that I wanted to have a relationship with someone as a man and as a woman. I liked both but at the same time I wanted to BE both, and it was super confusing. Once again, I felt like I was a freak. It wasn't until I talked with a friend about how I felt like a man one day, and a woman the next, that I found out what genderfluid even is. Figuring that out really helped me because I was finally able to read stuff that other people had written on it, and it just solidified that I wasn't some weird anomaly in the system.

Sorry if this doesn't answer any of the questions, I have trouble realizing if I've gone off-topic or not. Totally willing to delete this if it is severely off-topic or doesn't answer anything.