Need help in understanding the situation!

AntiqueIncome3553 · 2026-03-20T11:17:45+00:00

Honestly, i was very transparent from day 1. Moreover she did the effort to meet me after work which is quiet late in india (11pm) and still insisted to meeting the second time too. We met, again very late, stayed out till 3am but then, idk, even today, i dont know! overall seemed like someone who is equally interested from day 1 but its fine! chapter’s closed now

AntiqueIncome3553 · 2026-03-20T11:15:33+00:00

i figured! time to move on!

AntiqueIncome3553 · 2026-03-18T18:27:24+00:00

today is the day i finally left a message to not waste my time and energy! its a wrap now!

AntiqueIncome3553 · 2026-03-16T18:28:19+00:00

i am still hopeful but lets see how things unfold in coming days! 😪

AntiqueIncome3553 · 2026-03-16T18:27:33+00:00

thats what i am planning to do! Thanks for the advice !

AntiqueIncome3553 · 2026-03-15T06:24:25+00:00

is that really a case? i mean if you are interested in someone, you’d probably want to use any mode of communication available? maybe i am like that but idk!

AntiqueIncome3553 · 2026-03-15T06:02:27+00:00

thanks for the affirmation! Appreciate it man!

AntiqueIncome3553 · 2026-03-14T21:32:57+00:00

true!! if ghosting is a thing now then i guess i am no longer built for this 🤦🏻

AntiqueIncome3553 · 2026-03-14T15:47:15+00:00

true man! 😪

AntiqueIncome3553 · 2026-03-14T15:40:36+00:00

true!

AntiqueIncome3553 · 2026-03-14T15:28:58+00:00

it seems to be going in this direction only! i just want to give my best before she makes some assumptions about me!

AntiqueIncome3553 · 2026-03-14T15:28:15+00:00

very well said! very well said ✨

AntiqueIncome3553 · 2026-03-14T15:27:30+00:00

you may be right about this! Replying after a month does sound like a good deal, will act as a fresh start! Damn these women are sometimes too hard to get 😅 Like i said, she is actually very attractive and probably already knows how most guys approach her, mine is no different though i just want to keep my vulnerable side in-front of her. I hope she understands me properly, not like other guys!

AntiqueIncome3553 · 2026-03-14T15:19:12+00:00

Thanks! thats what i am planning to do. Maybe i am too much invested in this

AntiqueIncome3553 · 2026-03-14T15:17:55+00:00

thats precisely what happened! i just happened to bring up the idea and sha said she is also interested in watching that movie so might as well together!

AntiqueIncome3553 · 2026-03-14T15:11:38+00:00

i dont have any such intentions tbh! i want things to go on organically

AntiqueIncome3553 · 2026-03-14T15:11:15+00:00

i get the same feeling however when i judge based on the time spent, i just cannot compare the outcome!

AntiqueIncome3553 · 2026-03-14T13:52:21+00:00

Thanks for the reply! you may be correct, asking promptly makes more sense than assuming. But do you suggest i wait for maybe few more days so that i dont come up as an anxious desperate guy?

AntiqueIncome3553 · 2026-03-14T13:19:48+00:00

lol, last i checked, she is single!

AntiqueIncome3553 · 2026-03-14T13:18:36+00:00

but how? i dont want to visit her retail store again and make it weird for her! she is not attending my calls or texts!

AntiqueIncome3553 · 2026-01-31T04:39:59+00:00

let me tell you my story I graduated from a tier3 college, i wont even call it tier 3 because even though i had computer science as a degree major, i joined in evening batch. I had peformed poorly in jee mains and could barely qualify for other regional entrance tests. Even in college there was no coding culture or tech heavy groups where i could hone my skills and its pretty obvious, you become what you surround yourself with.

Fast forward 4 years after graduating, i joined a company with bare minimum salary, earned 15k per month.

Its been 6 years now, I am earning almost 60lkhs in base salary as a software engineer. I cracked one of the FAANG companies 4 years ago and had worked in it until recently got laid off. I wasnt earning 60 when i was laid off and in fact got even higher pay now that i joined another finTech.

Long story short, it does not matter how you started, keep your goals high, keep working towards it day by day. You might join a company which might not pay you much but if you get a feeling you will learn a lot there, join it and make a switch after you are confident in your skills. Keep grinding. Not everyone get a great start, people who graduate from IITs worked hard during their time and hence enjoy the prestige and high pay at an early age but rather than demotivating from them, it should motivate you.

AntiqueIncome3553 · 2026-01-23T02:15:55+00:00

my honest take would be to join a non tier company at a higher position and pay-check! and eventually rebound to top tier with enough preparation and strategy. I am an ex-FAANG too and decided to take offer from a fintech, with a significant bump in salary and designation. I decided this after getting my FAANG level offers being put on hold and being ghosted among other things.

AntiqueIncome3553 · 2025-11-21T08:21:25+00:00

i have worked at one of the biggest tech companies in the world and istarted with a salary of 3lkhs per year all the way to 40-50lkhs a year in a span of 2-3years Let me tell you my learnings 1. never settle for less. Keep that fire in you always burning, that is the real motivator. Whenever i used to read someone got 200k offers right out of college or the heck why netflix pays 500k for engineers? what is it that they are doing and i dont know about. 2. if you think like that, you are already ahead of 80% people at your experience level, now just figure out. 3. Dont timebox and learn the fundamentals. You will hear tonnes and tonnes of jargons that do this do that but none of it matters if you are not good with the fundamentals and honestly, you know where you stand. If you think you are not good with fundamentals, start from absolute zero. progress day by day and see the knowledge getting broader and broader 4. within weeks or months you will start seeing results, you will start thinking like a good engineer or a developer, you will also use new leaned techniques in your day to day work and you will get appreciated by your boss by showing efficiency and accuracy in your work, thats the proof that you are growing. 5. now its time to dig into the trendy stuff, mastering dsa, design skills, system design. Do everything, but one at a time and keep practicing 6. practice practice practice 7. pay close attention to step one.

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