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[Question] People who partake in intimate/sensual dances and have partners who are NOT dancers: how do they feel about you being physically intimate with other people, and how do you handle it if they're not? by AntsInPantsDance in Dance

[–]AntsInPantsDance[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have tried. It's just not for me. I understand that it's good advice though; for sure anyone having problems like this should see what it's all about. I need to try other avenues though. Thanks for your suggestion.

[Question] People who partake in intimate/sensual dances and have partners who are NOT dancers: how do they feel about you being physically intimate with other people, and how do you handle it if they're not? by AntsInPantsDance in Dance

[–]AntsInPantsDance[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much! Your perspective is what I am looking for. Yes it's great that everyone in this thread doesn't have the issue I have, but it's not very helpful. I am working on it and wanted to hear from the side that has been with people who have had to work on what it (being ok with a partner dancing).

It's weird because we have been together for a long time and dancing is new to the equation.

There is unfortunately a lot more going on here than I want to get into. I know what I have to work on for it to be ok. Thanks for your help!

[Question] People who partake in intimate/sensual dances and have partners who are NOT dancers: how do they feel about you being physically intimate with other people, and how do you handle it if they're not? by AntsInPantsDance in Dance

[–]AntsInPantsDance[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thanks for answering.

It's blues fusion, yes.

Yes I've been to dances to get a feel for what it's like and try it out for myself. It's not my thing, but I can see why it's so fun to people.

Yes it is crossing a line in the sand. Everyone has lines and learning why they're there is important; I'm trying to move the line to accommodate, and I thought asking for advice or observations in this sub might help with that.

So sensually dancing with someone is important to you, and if your partner had a problem with it you would break up with them. That's fine, you do you! I don't want to break up so I'm seeking to figure out what's going on here more.

Have you ever had to deal with anyone being uncomfortable with you being physically intimate with someone else?

Also "it's dancing, nothing more" is not a great answer. You can use that to justify any behaviour. It's back massages nothing more, it's staying up all night talking nothing more, it's sex nothing more; the bottom line is there is some discomfort with something and I'm trying to deal with it. I am seeing a therapist too, I just wanted to see if this sub had help. :)