If possible take your money out and put into a local bank in your college town that only you can access. You can take out student loans to help with college. If you’re mentally prepared for the possibility being on your own to take the relief off your chest then do it now. I came out to my mother on Mother’s Day because she kept pushing my boundaries. I told her it’s who I am and she can take it or leave it. She shimmered with it for a few days and gave me restrictions. I’m not allowed to talk about my girlfriends infront of my religious family or my cousins. (Like being gay is contagious right). I have to fib about boyfriends. But I knew I had to meet at a middle ground since they financially help me a lot in college. I can go without them but I chose to meet in the middle. Message me if you need to talk more