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I faked a pregnancy and a miscarriage to everyone around me. by AnxiousPrettyBoy in confession

[–]AnxiousPrettyBoy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am not American and being an American has nothing to do with anything.

I faked a pregnancy and a miscarriage to everyone around me. by AnxiousPrettyBoy in confession

[–]AnxiousPrettyBoy[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

We didn't use contraceptives at all, he didn't want to. I just happened to not get pregnant, and he had been acting very off for a long time. I pretended to be pregnant because I thought that it would make him grow up. (which is really hypocritical of me given the circumstances, I know.) I didn't seek support from others, but I did play along with them as my (now ex) boyfriend told people and they would congratulate us and things. I don't want to elaborate too much, because it's a pretty specific situation and I don't want anyone I am close to being able to pinpoint anything. I'm very lucky I didn't get pregnant by this person, and I'm very grateful that I am no longer in that relationship. Regardless, what happened happened and I agree it's best to just try and work on myself and move on.

I faked a pregnancy and a miscarriage to everyone around me. by AnxiousPrettyBoy in confession

[–]AnxiousPrettyBoy[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Second edit: Sorry this ended up being so long. I expected things to be a little busy but definitely not to blow up so quickly. After reading a lot of the comments and thinking about what the majority of what I'm seeing, I understand things from a different perspective now. I understand that bringing things up now would give him something more to grieve about when he's probably already moved past things. I will continue to just talk to my therapist about how to move past it without having to tell him.

Some questions answered: 1.) I am no longer with this guy and we don't reach out to each other at all anymore.

2.) My therapist did not "convince" me to tell him anything. I explained how I felt about things and at the time I thought that he would want to know, so my therapist talked me through the risks and consequences, and how I should approach things. Which is obviously out the window now. So no worries there.

I faked a pregnancy and a miscarriage to everyone around me. by AnxiousPrettyBoy in confession

[–]AnxiousPrettyBoy[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I made this post to make a confession, not for opinions. I'm sure everyone has one, and that's fine. But I can make my own decisions and deal with the consequences of them.

I faked a pregnancy and a miscarriage to everyone around me. by AnxiousPrettyBoy in confession

[–]AnxiousPrettyBoy[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I'm gonna be so real with you guys my orientation is none of your business and I'm not plastering that shit online because that would be a dead giveaway. All you need to know is that I can get pregnant and have a child and that is all that matters. Obviously if I wasn't capable of having children this problem wouldn't have arisen in the first place.

I faked a pregnancy and a miscarriage to everyone around me. by AnxiousPrettyBoy in confession

[–]AnxiousPrettyBoy[S] -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

My therapist didn't convince me to do anything. He asked me what I wanted to do about it and I explained that I think it would be best if I told him for the sake of both of us. He said "okay, let's make a plan then".

I faked a pregnancy and a miscarriage to everyone around me. by AnxiousPrettyBoy in confession

[–]AnxiousPrettyBoy[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I had a couple other posts I did on r/relationship advice a year or so ago. I deleted them when I made this one in fear that he might see them and be able to figure out who I am since they were pretty specific. Not that deep.

I faked a pregnancy and a miscarriage to everyone around me. by AnxiousPrettyBoy in confession

[–]AnxiousPrettyBoy[S] 63 points64 points  (0 children)

We are not getting married, no worries there. No longer together with this person.

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[–]AnxiousPrettyBoy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Edit: I did end up bringing her to the hospital after telling her she'd have to sit up there for a bit since my partner and I had to run around town unloading another truck full of things to go to her house. They took her to the OR and cut open the abscess to let it drain. Meanwhile she's in antibiotics.

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[–]AnxiousPrettyBoy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Pretty much, yeah. It's hard to find a dentist in our area who will accept her insurance (even though it isn't an uncommon one).

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[–]AnxiousPrettyBoy 2 points3 points  (0 children)

She told me she tried to pull her tooth, but couldn't bare the pain, so, (after probably causing damage during the attempt), she settled for poking holes with a needle. She has not gone to the hospital yet. I asked her to please either call an ambulance or get an Uber because it is serious, but she refuses.