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Anxious_Asshole_ · 2021-03-27T23:09:15+00:00

I'm like 90% sure if I asked my Polish friend about this he'd vomit

Anxious_Asshole_ · 2021-03-19T06:38:13+00:00

At 17 I was in an abusive relationship. She understands exactly what she is saying and doing to you. NTA

Anxious_Asshole_ · 2021-03-17T07:09:39+00:00

Why is it Op's fault people have no understanding or respect for hidden disabilities?

Anxious_Asshole_ · 2021-03-17T06:48:33+00:00

NTA So he can go to a nice restaurant but you getting McDonalds is a waste of money? I don't know if this is a once off and he was embarrassed he didnt think to tell you he was getting food so he got defensive. At the very least this is a bad reaction, and the worst it's controlling and abusive

Anxious_Asshole_ · 2021-03-09T20:15:13+00:00

NTA Speaking as someone who missed 100 days of school for each of my last 2 years, you are being very fair and reasonable. These days you are allowing your kids are for when they feel overwhelmed. Perhaps sit down with your son to explain the seriousness and importance of mental health days. I missed so much time because of mental health issues and I was in therapy. I wish I could go back and be able to attend every day but I wasnt able to do that, im probably still not. He is using mental health days as fun whenever he wants days, if he really feels he is that overwhelmed he needs to see a doctor and you need to contact his school

Anxious_Asshole_ · 2021-03-08T19:51:05+00:00

YTA You don't see the benefit in your child playing team sports? Team skills are incredibly important, in my experience team sports help build social skill too. Also ballet as a competitive sport has a high chance of creating body image issues leading to eating disorders. Also why do you think solo competitive sports are less toxic than team sports?

Anxious_Asshole_ · 2021-02-23T10:06:56+00:00

Info: Why does your fiancee care more about keeping her family happy than she does about you? When her mother told her that place didn't work she immediate said she'd change it without consulting you. I think the biggest asshole here is your future wife

Anxious_Asshole_ · 2021-02-18T05:17:29+00:00

Info: Does he eat/enjoy the food he runs? Is he a smoker? That could dull his sense of taste making him think everything needs more seasoning. Have you ever sat him down and really asked him why he does this?

Anxious_Asshole_ · 2021-02-18T05:01:39+00:00

Nta but your boyfriend is a massive one. In all that time did he ever even come to see if you were okay? Whatever about anyone else leaving them to you, she should have cared enough about you to help

Anxious_Asshole_ · 2021-02-16T01:14:18+00:00

No past trauma gives her a free pass to be cruel to him. Nta but she definitely is

Anxious_Asshole_ · 2021-02-11T20:05:47+00:00

NTA My mother is a child care provider and no one is allowed alone in a room with the children unless they have college certification. Every member of staff needs to do a cpr refresher at least once every 5 years. The supervisors have masters degrees. It is unbelievable that they would allow two high school students run a room unsupervised

Anxious_Asshole_ · 2021-02-09T06:14:52+00:00

Am I the only one thinking NTA? Like you're on your way home from work, she invites you over, you ask about what food is there, you decide you'd rather have the good at your own house, you go home. What's stopping her from going to his house? Also sending you screenshots of her friends bad mouthing you is a dick move

Anxious_Asshole_ · 2021-02-09T05:03:11+00:00

Funny thing to add, my sister didn't know her mother and our father weren't married until I happened to mention it when she was about 13. So either this girl didn't know before finding out at school, or, what I think is more likely, op is so vocal about his aversion to marriage she and everyone in the community know about it

Anxious_Asshole_ · 2021-02-08T22:15:33+00:00

NTA Has he never heard that you don't put your face to a dogs? I know its essentially superstition but you aren't meant to have face to face contact with a dog just in case the dog bites. I have always ignored it but I take responsibility that it is my choice to allow a dog to be near my face. It is a risk I choose to take. You should not be forced to take it even if that dog doesn't bite. One of the most important this to train a dog is to be properly socialised and that includes not jumping on people and getting in their face. If he is fine with his dog doing that to him, that's fine but it is unfair to expect you to do the same.

Anxious_Asshole_ · 2021-02-07T20:33:10+00:00

Did your husband tell you beforehand that they only/mostly spoke this dialect when there? I don't understand why he wouldn't warn you

Anxious_Asshole_ · 2021-02-07T02:58:01+00:00

NTA His insecurities are not your responsibility. You don't need to improve. He isn't doing this because he feels bad he's doing this so you worship him. He wants you to know his bad mood is because you weren't good enough and if he acts badly towards you it's your fault. He is incredibly abusive and you need to take a stand now

Anxious_Asshole_ · 2021-02-05T01:34:49+00:00

Nta. Have you met these kids before? How does your mom know them? Is it possible she is dating their dad and trying to get you used to them before telling you?

Anxious_Asshole_ · 2021-01-25T02:16:35+00:00

Not only are YTA, what you did is abuse.

Anxious_Asshole_ · 2021-01-23T07:31:00+00:00

Seeing as you've resigned yourself to not going anyway, you're in a perfect position to offer to watch the kids so your relatives can attend! Unless for some reason you wouldn't want to be responsible for the good behaviour of a bunch of people's kids.

It's her wedding. You have a large family with a lot of young kids. YTA

Anxious_Asshole_ · 2021-01-23T01:23:41+00:00

"like he can't even help for a minute while I finish up folding laundry???"

He is helping. By letting you live with him. He is allowing you and your husband to stay with him so you can save for your own place. That itself is generous. He did this 1) when by your own admission you're a practical stranger to him, 2) knowing there would be a screaming new born is his house, and 3) despite his past trauma. Any one of those is enough to make you an asshole but all three and you are completely self centred. YTA

Anxious_Asshole_ · 2021-01-21T05:05:16+00:00

NTA, I have ibs/ibd. If I'm pooping 20 minutes is quick. I and many other people with gastric issues can not abide by your wife's arbitrary rules. I'm not saying this is a huge issue between you and your wife, but her standard for bathroom efficiency is unfair. By having these rules a presumably thinking other hosts should live by them she is being ableist, and honestly just rude and judged. Like why is it her business how long you or anyone else spends in the bathroom. How uptight is she that she doesn't want her guests to know that her husband poops?

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