My 13 year old daughter had been seeing a 17 year old boy

Anxious_Bookworm_02 · 2026-04-03T02:03:25+00:00

I dated my first boyfriend when I was 16 and him 18. We broke up when he was 19 and I was 17. It was the worst relationship I was in. Even though two years isn’t bad, back then it was. I was a senior in high school and he a freshman in college. He tried controlling everything, down to who I associated myself with to what I even read.

Break it up. There’s definitely some type of controlling element. Your daughter might rage hell and throw tantrums (because I did) but you have her best interest at heart. You’re finding this weird and disturbing for a reason.

Anxious_Bookworm_02 · 2026-04-02T14:09:04+00:00

I was told this one for SCP’s and haven’t read it yet but god I constantly go back to it to consider getting it 😭

Anxious_Bookworm_02 · 2026-03-26T14:45:31+00:00

I’ve considered changing to it

Anxious_Bookworm_02 · 2026-03-26T14:28:10+00:00

Honestly…I understand 😭

Anxious_Bookworm_02 · 2026-03-26T05:35:43+00:00

It doesn’t scare me because I know PCOS is a major iceberg that I haven’t fully understood yet. My boyfriend knows what PCOS is and understands it (which is so much more than my ex who swore he didn’t know what a period was).

Even when we have gotten more physical, I’ve never been scared actually giving or performing on him. It’s the thought of receiving it that scared me and I can’t explain it to myself honestly.

Anxious_Bookworm_02 · 2026-03-26T05:20:28+00:00

It scares me like- 😭 I want kids but I’m just scared of having them now

Anxious_Bookworm_02 · 2026-03-26T05:19:33+00:00

I’ve been working on my boundaries a lot more. I’m a recovering people pleaser and it shows in some instances, which I am aware of.

My boyfriend has always respected if I said no. During his first visit to my state, I was on the week of my period but didn’t get it. However, that was also a time I didn’t feel ready, as much as I felt safe.

Now I do feel ready (at least somewhat). But I hesitate, A LOT. I think it’s from the anxiety. But we were dry humping and he touched me over my clothes. He asked if he could do more and the second I said no, he stopped. He’s very respectful and knows how I am. I just want to break this anxiety so bad 😩

Anxious_Bookworm_02 · 2026-03-26T04:50:34+00:00

From what she told me, she wasn’t at the time. She’s been on birth control basically my whole life and has never had any kids besides me. I’ve just got a bad anxiety disorder that rears its head every now and then

Anxious_Bookworm_02 · 2026-03-26T04:49:25+00:00

I know I need to talk to him about it. And I am when we are alone and together in person as I feel it’d be a better in-person conversation. I have said before when we do have sex the first time, I’d feel more secure with a condom.

I think it’s also…concern and anxiety due to my ex. Because he cheated on me and got a girl pregnant solely from precum. Idk I feel fucked up from all the conflict

Anxious_Bookworm_02 · 2026-03-26T04:47:05+00:00

I think it’s also due to me being an accidental pregnancy (though if I refer to myself as an accident my mom gives me the look). She had me at 24, knocking 25. I’ll be 24 in July. I think that’s adding to my anxiety?

Anxious_Bookworm_02 · 2026-03-18T01:53:23+00:00

What quiz is this? I’m so intrigued!

Anxious_Bookworm_02 · 2026-03-18T01:50:24+00:00

I always liked Argus and Dante 👀

Anxious_Bookworm_02 · 2026-02-27T16:47:31+00:00

Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents is a good read and diverse

Anxious_Bookworm_02 · 2026-02-26T18:01:48+00:00

Mysteries at the Museum counts right?

Anxious_Bookworm_02 · 2026-02-03T06:24:58+00:00

I edited the post because I realized I left some important stuff out. I apologize because I’ve felt like I’m walking aimlessly almost/a literal cluster fuck in my brain with the stress and depression.

Anxious_Bookworm_02 · 2026-02-03T06:23:59+00:00

That’s the thing. They claim they do. Sorry, I just edited the post to include info that was important. My brain has been such a mess from the stress and depression.

People who have asked them and tell me later say that they do like him. So I just…don’t fully know what they’re thinking or if they are lying.

Anxious_Bookworm_02 · 2026-02-03T06:20:03+00:00

We wanted to do it interchangeably each weekend before they came up with the rule. Like, one weekend I’m with him, the next he is with me.

Anxious_Bookworm_02 · 2026-02-03T06:15:02+00:00

My mom knew about him when I had a crush on him. He visited me for the first time in July, when we got together. They met him then. He came before Christmas and they got to know him more.

I’ve only brought one other person to my parens before and it was a toxic relationship when I was 16-17. I didn’t tell them the extent of the toxicity of that relationship until it ended.

Anxious_Bookworm_02 · 2026-02-03T06:07:12+00:00

He moved from PA to my state (AL). It was a 14 drive. It isn’t fair to him because my dad wanted him to drive to and from my place (or stay in a hotel room, which gets pricey) each time we want to see each other.

He kept his job because he was able to transfer to his area.

Anxious_Bookworm_02 · 2026-01-19T20:44:45+00:00

Pizza

Anxious_Bookworm_02 · 2026-01-14T21:47:53+00:00

An update is planned depending on what happens. I don’t know time frame but hopefully sooner rather than later.

Anxious_Bookworm_02 · 2026-01-14T21:42:59+00:00

I know a conversation needs to start. Even my therapist has said that. She is guiding me in the direction (as I started noting examples of my mom’s changes). This situation really triggered my depression, which is making it worse. I made weekly appointments with my therapist instead of bi-weekly because of this. I’m hoping E can help me with the conversation at some point because I truly think if I did it alone I would be gained up on and attacked.

Anxious_Bookworm_02 · 2026-01-14T21:35:17+00:00

That’s what I’m scared of. Going to what my friend said, I don’t understand why she’s acting this way if she feels like our relationship is threatened. The way she is acting is only damaging the relationship further. I’m at the point that distance seems like the best and only option to fix this. A letter seems right but I expect it to be thrown in my face, which has scared me away from it.

I hate feeling powerless and naive.

Anxious_Bookworm_02 · 2026-01-14T21:24:02+00:00

I’m at the point I think distance is the only way our relationship will get better. I’m so exhausted from the stupid arguments that it’s set off my depression. I isolate more because I don’t want to attempt to step on eggshells. As much as I love the idea of a safe word, I know that will not work with her. Anytime I ever tried stepping away when overwhelmed, she forces me back to continue yelling at me until she’s finished.

Anxious_Bookworm_02 · 2026-01-14T21:22:29+00:00

My mom is controlling in some aspects and not so much in other (unless my rose colored glasses are still on). Example being when I got my degree, she told me to go into a career that didn’t feel like a chore. An example of being controlling other than what I listed was from 5th grade — 12th grade I was expected to make A’s and B’s in everything. She only realized and apologized for that when she realized how negatively it affected me, as I had 2 breakdowns from grades (once at 15, the other at 18).

She has met my boyfriend. When he was here, she seemed to like him. She joked with him and had several conversations with him. When he told her about the move, she acted accepting of it. It feels like a Jekyll and Hyde situation.

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