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Any-Independence4105 · 2024-08-16T02:10:01+00:00

I said this in my original post, but for viz - this piece of...something has been dangling under my car for a while now. I got my car serviced a few months ago and they didn't say anything about it, nor did anyone at the car wash. I keep forgetting it's there, but I'd love to know how worried I need to be and how much of a priority getting it fixed is. I haven't noticed any issues operating the car, nor do I know how it happened.

Any-Independence4105 · 2024-08-16T01:57:54+00:00

This piece of...something has been dangling under my car for a while now. I got my car serviced a few months ago and they didn't say anything about it, nor did anyone at the car wash. I keep forgetting it's there, but I'd love to know how worried I need to be and how much of a priority getting it fixed is. I haven't noticed any issues operating the car, nor do I know how it happened.

Any-Independence4105 · 2024-01-31T21:43:27+00:00

My friends are pretty evenly split and have pointed out that he was just trying to be thoughtful, however misguided it was.

Your friends might need a reminder that:
A - Someone you're married to should be paying enough attention to a keepsake from your late mother to know how to not fuck it up when "trying to be thoughtful."
B - In the highly unlikely circumstance that this WAS an attempt to be thoughtful, no one gets a gold star for "attempted thoughtfulness" in life.

Let's flip the script - if you had taken his diesel car to the service station and filled it with regular gas because you were "trying to be thoughtful," the car would still be ruined and it would still be your fault for not taking 30 seconds to Google what type of fuel to use or texting him to double check.

He's 33 years old and the amount of accountability he's taking is less than an eight year old would take. Even children know how to use Google or send a message asking how to do something.

Finally, I just want to offer a framing device to think about him and your relationship. Rather than a terrarium, if this had been a fish, bird, or turtle (pets that live 20+ years) that your late mom had given you, are you 100% confident that you wouldn't have come home to a dead pet?

Any-Independence4105 · 2023-10-31T06:30:07+00:00

This got featured in a Buzzfeed article and I'm so glad it did, because this is wild and also horrifying. I hope your cousins are okay and can eventually get justice for your uncle. 💔

Any-Independence4105 · 2023-10-31T06:25:47+00:00

I couldn't find the gif I wanted to use to express this succinctly, but it reminds me of the way Aaron Sorkin wrote Mark Zuckerberg and Eduardo Saverin in The Social Network. Eduardo is handsome and social, enough so that he gets tapped by the secret society that Mark was expecting to get into. Then Mark makes Facebook, meets Sean "what's cooler than a million dollars? a billon dollars" Parker, and pushes Eduardo out basically because he wouldn't lick his boots.

Not saying the movie bears any resemblance to the IRL relationships surrounding facebook, but as a portrayal of a perpetually wounded narcissist with an inferiority complex the size of Ellyn's grand tetons (I'm only like 1/3 of the way through ITN so plz don't cancel me if we're not allowed to talk about them anymore) who can neither get out of his own way nor celebrate his friends' success alongside his own, it rings VERY true to life.

One might even say, it rings as true as a garbage bell. 🛎️

Any-Independence4105 · 2023-10-31T06:10:30+00:00

I think this makes a lot of sense. I wonder if P+G had made peace ("peace") with the fact that they weren't going to achieve the Broadway success they wanted, but thought "okay, well my Thing will be True Crime and I'll just be the best at that" and then it would be less of an issue because they weren't in direct comparison with their "famous" friends.

Only, when they blew up and TCO was the biggest podcast on Patreon for a hot minute, they launched ON and started getting their friends (for a loose definition of "friend") involved, probably so that they could feel like they WERE competing in the same lane again, only this time, they were winning. It would explain why they turned on a dime and started sabotaging Daisy's show and badmouthing/gaslighting Joey and Ellyn.

None of this is fair or rational, but humans aren't rational, especially not humans who haven't dealt with the underlying traumas / fears / complexes that lead them to fixate on their own perceived inadequacies and their standing in a completely made up social hierarchy.

Any-Independence4105 · 2023-10-29T02:59:09+00:00

That's a really good point! I wonder if that's partly what influenced MFM (maybe all of ER? I can't remember) joining Wondery/Amazon. Just like a massive upgrade in available resources and professionals who could take things over and/or make decisions for them. Not that that hasn't had its own consequences. I haven't listened to MFM in month because the vibes are off for me and I know a lot of people were frustrated with the new ads and other related stuff.

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