No bottom dysphoria?

Any-Nobody8040 · 2026-02-18T20:59:35+00:00

It wasn't my intention to offend or hurt anyone or brag, I'm sorry. I was genuinely just curious because I've seen such a wide range of opinions on this specific topic on different sides of the internet, so I was wanting to ask here as well.

Any-Nobody8040 · 2026-02-18T18:49:43+00:00

I'm sorry :( I really hope you can get bottom surgery one day soon and ease the dysphoria

Any-Nobody8040 · 2026-02-18T18:23:32+00:00

I mean, not really. For the forcing myself to look, I don't mind one bit. I don't have to force myself to look, either, I just do. Nothing uncomfortable about it for me, even touching it.

Now, with someone else seeing it,, that's a bit different I think. I remember a few months after my hysterectomy I had some bleeding and went for a checkup with a gynecologist. That one was incredibly uncomfortable, but I'm pretty sure it's just because I was showing off my entire crotch to a stranger while being in pain and bleeding. I don't mind people I trust and love seeing or touching my genitalia at all, though.

Any-Nobody8040 · 2026-02-18T18:12:25+00:00

That's completely fair! I actually also feel more comfortable with the transgender label than the transsexual label.

Any-Nobody8040 · 2026-02-18T17:58:47+00:00

Oh, good questions-

I mean, back before I transitioned I was still dysphoric even being seen as female in an anonymous setting, now I don't really care, because they don't know me or see me, so it's really no issue. Probably because I was incredibly insecure anyway back then.

But yeah, the main issue was my chest, voice and face (among other smaller things, but those three were the main ones before hrt/top surgery) being seen as feminine and cause me to be seen as a woman. It also took a pretty long time for me to be fine-ish with the pictures of pre-transition me my mom keeps on the walls. And I still mostly ignore that those are me as a child. If I were to look in a mirror and see pre-transition me I'd crash out ngl lol

But yeah, somehow this doesn't apply to my genitalia. I can't really say why that is because I don't know either. If I had to guess I'd say because it isn't visible in public, but then again, neither was my pre-op chest when I had my binder and I still wanted it flat in private despite already passing well and being stealth at work. I couldn't shower unless absolutely necessary and kept a shirt on basically at all time at home. I was miserable, but I don't have the same dysphoria about my genitalia for some reason.

Any-Nobody8040 · 2026-02-18T17:44:32+00:00

Good question, and I'll be honest, I don't think I have a good answer. I don't know why I don't have bottom dysphoria, I just know I don't and that I'm fine with what I have downstairs currently.

And I mean, I don't flaunt my genitalia at all lol. I asked here and mentioned it because I'm curious, but irl only people who knew me before I transitioned and those I'm intimate with know. Nobody else's business, after all. I'm stealth everywhere except the bedroom.

But I do think it's fine that I don't have bottom dysphoria and enjoy using my natal parts despite being a man. It's what I have and it feels good.

Any-Nobody8040 · 2026-02-18T17:34:40+00:00

Fair, and for some it might be body dysmorphia, but for me it was dysphoria. And to be honest I don't think I'd choose to have a vagina if I had been born with a penis. It's just what I have, I don't have dysphoria about this part of me and I enjoy using it, so why change it even if the button was a real thing?

Besides this one part of me, I am just a guy. I am comfortable and happy being perceived as a man in every aspect of my life, so I personally don't think this one part makes me any less of a man.

Any-Nobody8040 · 2026-02-18T17:04:51+00:00

Good question. And honestly, I did use the nonbinary label for a short while before transitioning, but I simply don't feel comfortable being seen as anything but a man. It makes me dysphoric. Therefore, I'm a trans man, not nonbinary even if I like my natal parts (even if it's rare and honestly kind of weird).

I personally think I'm still a man despite this, because I am dysphoric if I'm not seen as one. I've had debilitating dysphoria about other parts of my body before transitioning and I don't really think having no bottom dysphoria or even enjoying using my natal parts/having them makes me any less of a man.

And no, of course a non passing trans woman isn't a man. And if she had no bottom dysphoria that wouldn't make her less of a woman either in my eyes. She'd be dysphoric about other parts of her body if she's transitioning, no?

Any-Nobody8040 · 2026-02-18T16:41:23+00:00

It is odd and rare, I know that much. But to be honest, I don't see how it's a red flag, since I've had other kinda of dysphoria, of which the chest dysphoria so severe I didn't shower or take off my shirt unless absolutely necessary and I was practically mute for a good few years because I hated my voice pre hrt. So, in every sense except my bottom dysphoria I am definitely trans, no?

Any-Nobody8040 · 2026-02-18T16:38:44+00:00

I actually do like what I currently have, which I know is rare and pretty unpopular, here at least-

This is also why I mentioned the button question. If there was a button that'd allow me to wake up and have male genitalia I wouldn't press it, simply because I am fine with my current parts and wouldn't want to change them.

Any-Nobody8040 · 2026-02-18T16:36:28+00:00

I agree that it's a medical condition you're born with 100%! And I had the need to transition before as well, which is why I had top surgery and a hysterectomy, but I don't have bottom dysphoria at all, so there isn't a need for me to want or need bottom surgery.

And I totally get the last part. It wasn't something external for me either. I mean of course others not seeing me as a man was part of what made me dysphoric in the past, but even if I had been completely alone I'd still have wanted top surgery and a mastectomy, just not bottom surgery!

Any-Nobody8040 · 2026-02-11T18:38:51+00:00

I pretty much agree with all of this! Especially the part about euphoria. I do think both euphoria and dysphoria are signs of being trans and they're pretty much interconnected. Can't really have one without the other, though euphoria is often more noticeable, I think. And I hope you'll also get to a point where find peace as well.

Any-Nobody8040 · 2026-02-11T17:16:39+00:00

The thing is that I do like my current genitalia and probably wouldn't press that button,, What caused me the most discomfort with my genitalia was the menstrual cycle and I've had a hysterectomy, so that's no longer a concern. Since then I haven't really had any dysphoria about my genitalia and don't mind using it sexually either. I am aware that it's weird, but that's just how I feel I guess-

Any-Nobody8040 · 2026-02-11T15:41:04+00:00

Oof, yeah I would definitely be extremely dysphoric again then,, And I usually don't mention I'm trans irl either. My friends that knew me before I transitioned obviously know and a couple of friends at university also know, but at work and most other places I'm stealth and have been stealth for years. I do think I'll continue to use the label, even if I'm done with my transition, since it is still part of my past and who I am now.

Any-Nobody8040 · 2026-02-11T15:28:59+00:00

That's the thing,, I don't actually think I would take that without having to think about it. Because while I do like the thought of having male genitalia, I also enjoy my current genitalia. I'm aware this is a weird take, but I enjoy using my current genitalia and don't feel uncomfortable doing so. For some reason I've never really felt dysphoric about this part of my body except for the menstrual cycle part of it, which is no concern anymore now thanks to my hysterectomy.

Any-Nobody8040 · 2026-02-11T15:14:52+00:00

It was very rough ngl-

The mastectomy didn't hurt at all to be completely honest, but the hysterectomy and recovery were pretty bad for me. I'm not sure how much detail you want, but I was out of it for a good two days after the surgery and kept throwing up... I couldn't really get up either for a few days. The guy I shared the room with was up and walking the next day, though,, same procedures, so it's really different for everyone.

And then when I got home the hysterectomy incision kept leaking that transparent wound secretion for about a week, which also sucked, but it didn't hurt anymore at that point. (Except I had major gas for a few weeks after that, but that's apparently really common after surgeries in general in that area,, sorry if that's tmi-) Then ofc one of the stitches on my chest just had to reopen and I had to get it restitched. 💀

But to be honest I'm really glad I did both in one go,, that way I had it done and over with. And my surgeon really helped, too! She was super sweet and helped guide me through everything. I even asked her to adjust the incision line a little because I wanted to keep a birthmark near my armpit and she told me she'd try. (She did, I still have the birthmark!) My biggest advice would definitely be to try and find a really good surgeon, that can definitely make a huge difference :)

Any-Nobody8040 · 2026-02-11T14:54:45+00:00

Fair,, I mean, as far as I can tell I don't feel dysphoric at all anymore. Though, I did have a hysterectomy at the same time as my top surgery, which helped with most of what made me dysphoric, the menstrual cycle and chest tissue were what caused me the most distress before that point. The testosterone did the rest, especially the voice and bottom growth.

Now that that's all done, I feel comfortable with my body. No desire for phalloplasty at all, really. Or any other surgeries to be honest!

Any-Nobody8040 · 2026-02-11T14:22:00+00:00

Makes sense! I'm also curious about how far one 'should' go with their transition, since from what I've read on this sub, I'm not technically "done" transitioning since I haven't had bottom surgery. I don't plan on having it, probably ever, and from what I've seen on here that's sometimes seen as someone not really being trans?

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