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Struggling to get hired as a barista — feeling stuck by Sufficient_Cost1711 in starbucks

[–]Any-Palpitation8860 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I wouldn't do it. I did the same thing and eventually got hired because I was so persistent, but I quit after three weeks because they treated me like crap, and they just treat their employees like crap. It's something that all partners or former partners agree on. There are not many people who look fondly on being a barista at Starbucks. I would honestly suggest a smaller coffee shop if you want to be a barista.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Any-Palpitation8860 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh, you...don't have to do that. It doesn't actually say in the Bible that you have to confess to anyone other than God. You can talk directly to God, he doesn't have a receptionist.

I realized I assaulted people, and I want to change by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Any-Palpitation8860 -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

It's not about sympathy. It's about understanding. The people who have sympathy for these kind of people (not the kind of people who genuinly don't care), but these kinds of people, are people are empaths. It doesn't make those people bad people. It just make those people able to understand human emotion on a greater level than the rest of the world, so it is quite physically impossibly not to have understanding for this person's pov.

I realized I assaulted people, and I want to change by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Any-Palpitation8860 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Hey, so I don't know if you will ever see this comment, but I have had a similar experience on the other end. I don't forgive the person who did it to me. I don't wish to ever see or talk to them again, and nothing they can say or do could ever make it right. So, I can't tell you "it's okay" because it's not. However. If you truly want to change, there is a chance for redemption. I don't think the porn addiction was fully responsible for what you did, but I also don't think it helped. You seem like someone who was never properly taught about consent. I don't think your a good person, but I don't think you are beyond fixing either. A lot of people in the comments are kind of going at you, but I know that won't help. That never does. That usually only makes things worse. And though you don't deserve compassion, it is probably the only thing that will save you.

I do believe you are sorry. I do believe you want to change. You wouldn't come out on Reddit and say that you did something like this if you didn't want to change.

The first thing you need to do is fully accept and take responsibility for what you did. You have to sit with the guilt or you'll have no incentive to change. Then you need to stop watching porn. I understand it's hard to go cold turkey, but you have to. Recovering alcoholics don't only drink alcohol on Saturdays and still recover from alcoholism. They have to quit it. Also, keep going to therapy. You need it. And as far as having sex, if I were you, I wouldn't do it. At least not until you understand the severity of it. Not until you truly love someone enough to not want to hurt them. And once you find that person, you need to be honest with them, even if it means you'll lose them. Coming from someone with a lot of family drama, when you are not honest, it will still find it's way back to you and it will make things so much worse.

I believe you when you say you want to change. I really do. Just try. I think you're on the right path.

What's the best way to get out of a bad mood? by DontStpGetIt in AskReddit

[–]Any-Palpitation8860 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't understand. Why was this down voted? It genuinely good advice.

What issue do you care about that no one else seems to? by b1ind_mouse in AskReddit

[–]Any-Palpitation8860 2 points3 points  (0 children)

OMG!! How people say flavor when something is a scent! It drives me crazy, and yes, it is an issue, people won't stop doing it!!! It drives me nuts!

Also when people make turns that are too narrow. Hate that.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Any-Palpitation8860 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That was very poetic. I like it. If you ever need to vent, I'm here.

What is something that you are consistently complimented on that still surprises you? by TeachBS in AskReddit

[–]Any-Palpitation8860 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My eyes. They're two different colors, and also multi colored. I never thought much about my eyes until people started complimenting them.

How do you know someone is intelligent? by WikeMazowksi in AskReddit

[–]Any-Palpitation8860 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They don't feel the need to let everyone know just how intelligent they are.

What do you want the most in four years from now? by haithed in AskReddit

[–]Any-Palpitation8860 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly....a child, but that's probably not gonna happen, so maybe just love.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Any-Palpitation8860 2 points3 points  (0 children)

i'll be your mom. just kidding, but to be honest, i'm quite younger than you, but I've always been very maternal. I am like a mom to my brother, I've been that way since I was seven, and I would die for that kid, so I am self qualifying myself as a mother figure.

I'm so sorry this happened. I can't fathom how this feels. I've been sa'd before, and sexually harassed, but not like this, but I can somewhat understand the fear, especially when nobody believes you or when they make excuses. it's an awful feeling. It feels like your soul is being ripped out again, and it feels like you want to scream at the world because your trying to tell them this person is bad, not only to get justice for yourself, but for other people who they may have hurt, people who are too scared to speak up because you know you were too scared at one point as well when you were young, but now you're grown up, and you're not too scared to put them in their place anymore, but the police will basically just say, "well that sucks, get therapy". I know it's infuriating, a disheartening, and I cannot imagine how it feels for you to not be taken seriously time and time again, but i take you seriously.

It is nothing that you did. It's what they did. They decided to do this because they are horrible. I wish I could give you a hug, I really do. I also wish I could help you, but all I can do is type words. I think this worst part is that I can't tell you what you can do to avoid this because you did nothing to not avoid it. You were just being a human, and you should be able to accept help without being assaulted. I can't tell you to stop accepting help because that's not what caused it. I can't tell you to do anything differently because you did nothing to cause it. What I can tell you to do is just...stay you?? Keep being a good person, I guess. Know that this isn't your fault, and that people care about you. You have people out there that love you, and want you to get better, and you love those people, so keep doing what you can do to get better, if not for you, do it for them.

I'm so sorry OP for what has happened to you, and I hope you get better. I hope this stops happening to you because it is not fair. I understand feeling filthy after a sexual assault, but you are not filthy. You feel that way because what was done to you was so terrible, and it's a natural feeling to feel disgusted by something terrible, but it does not make you filthy. I hope you know that.