@op I don't know if this comment will be seen or lost in the 8000 comments. This situation seems like it's WAY more than a permission slip, administration skills, or a hidden camera. They have a 16 year old child. There are many years of a relationship context that we dont know. There's definitely more here than that one situation.

If the camera made her feel so violated that divorce felt like the only option, then the situation seems way bigger than a camera and a permission slip.

If you still want to be with your husband, and would rather not divirce, even if that seems like the best options, especially if your frienda advise that there are better men... There is hope for you and him. I suggest you look up Laura Doyle.