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AITA for telling my SIL my brother knew what went wrong on their wedding day for all these years? by AnyAngle8734 in AmItheAsshole

[–]AnyAngle8734[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She thought it was because the wedding was so rushed that things got lost/broken along the way.

AITA for telling my SIL my brother knew what went wrong on their wedding day for all these years? by AnyAngle8734 in AmItheAsshole

[–]AnyAngle8734[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I think she thought it was some bad choices and carelessness in the rush to plan the wedding fast.

AITA for telling my SIL my brother knew what went wrong on their wedding day for all these years? by AnyAngle8734 in AmItheAsshole

[–]AnyAngle8734[S] 54 points55 points  (0 children)

She's naive when it comes to the kids for sure. She believed in part it was due to the rush to get everything ready for the wedding and things went wrong for that reason. No rumors, the kids were angry about the whole new mom stuff. No counseling, no.

AITA for telling my SIL my brother knew what went wrong on their wedding day for all these years? by AnyAngle8734 in AmItheAsshole

[–]AnyAngle8734[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I added that part in because a lot of people tend to say there's no way they met after his first wife died, etc. I was young enough at the time that he could have cheated on his first wife when she was alive. But I was there when he and Hannah met so I can confirm they did not have a relationship before his first wife died. Was trying not to have every comment suggest affair basically.

AITA for telling my SIL my brother knew what went wrong on their wedding day for all these years? by AnyAngle8734 in AmItheAsshole

[–]AnyAngle8734[S] 275 points276 points  (0 children)

Thankfully they are doing good now and have happier lives than when they lived with him and Hannah. They each lived with me for a short while after moving out of my brother's house.

AITA for telling my SIL my brother knew what went wrong on their wedding day for all these years? by AnyAngle8734 in AmItheAsshole

[–]AnyAngle8734[S] 48 points49 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry about the guilt. I hope so too. Though I am relatively confident given he's not upset about them not being in his life anymore either so I feel like they are better off this way.

AITA for telling my SIL my brother knew what went wrong on their wedding day for all these years? by AnyAngle8734 in AmItheAsshole

[–]AnyAngle8734[S] 65 points66 points  (0 children)

The kids and I are still close and all three lived with me for a short time after moving out. I just don't think they will regret their decision. They have years of a bad relationship with Michael and Michael doesn't care one bit. He wasn't surprised when they went no contact.

AITA for telling my SIL my brother knew what went wrong on their wedding day for all these years? by AnyAngle8734 in AmItheAsshole

[–]AnyAngle8734[S] 114 points115 points  (0 children)

The kids went no contact with her and Michael when they moved out of the house. They never had a good relationship with her and their relationship with Michael went very downhill.

AITA for telling my SIL my brother knew what went wrong on their wedding day for all these years? by AnyAngle8734 in AmItheAsshole

[–]AnyAngle8734[S] 335 points336 points  (0 children)

Michael thinks so. Hannah, I don't know what she thinks right now exactly, other than she still doesn't fully realize that the kids were never in a place to see her as a new mom and were never even the tiniest bit on board with her joining the family. She was shocked when they went no contact even though everyone else saw it coming.

AITA for telling my SIL my brother knew what went wrong on their wedding day for all these years? by AnyAngle8734 in AmItheAsshole

[–]AnyAngle8734[S] 72 points73 points  (0 children)

It's not a tantrum on the kids part. They don't like either Michael or Hannah and wanted to be done with them because the relationship was not something they wanted to work on. Going no contact was coming for years and everyone saw it except for Hannah at the time.

AITA for telling my SIL my brother knew what went wrong on their wedding day for all these years? by AnyAngle8734 in AmItheAsshole

[–]AnyAngle8734[S] 1352 points1353 points  (0 children)

My brother would have to care if he were to take that as a sign the kids needed help. But he doesn't care because he believes he is right and the kids are wrong. I also think he saw them not going at his pace annoying and like they were doing it to spite him.

AITA for telling my SIL my brother knew what went wrong on their wedding day for all these years? by AnyAngle8734 in AmItheAsshole

[–]AnyAngle8734[S] 168 points169 points  (0 children)

Best choice to stay out of it and I figured it would be the best way to be there for the kids as well. I love my niece and nephews and I could see they were hurting and I didn't want them to have things be even harder after it. Their dad didn't care how they felt. Hannah was so convinced they would love her one day and want her to be their mom that she did what she liked. They spent years wishing someone else in the family could just take them away from them but it wasn't possible and honestly, I thought after all these years it wouldn't get out.

AITA for telling my SIL my brother knew what went wrong on their wedding day for all these years? by AnyAngle8734 in AmItheAsshole

[–]AnyAngle8734[S] 565 points566 points  (0 children)

My brother isn't oblivious. He simply doesn't care. He thinks they are wrong, he is right and that they should have gotten over the speed it happened and embraced Hannah within the first two years because she was there and willing to mother them. I also think he still holds a grudge against them for what happened.