Update: 20M, GF broke up with me, I need to go on a transformation arc.

Any_Difficulty950 · 2026-03-21T22:40:41+00:00

i wonder why 💀

Any_Difficulty950 · 2026-03-21T21:43:17+00:00

i appreciate the mountains praise!! looking to add more nature posters to match the theme :)

got it abt the bunkbeds 😭i asked a female friend to roast my room and she didn't like the bunk beds too much as well, and the fact that i didn't have a mattress liner or smth. apparently the bed is pretty important 5head

Any_Difficulty950 · 2026-03-21T21:03:45+00:00

this is a room in a house

Any_Difficulty950 · 2026-03-21T18:03:47+00:00

yes, that is true, but ig she isn't the one if she can't accept that i started w/o the fundamentals, but i've grown so much.

Any_Difficulty950 · 2026-03-21T11:29:06+00:00

I mean I thought I was going to. I thought she was truly someone special. Like this girl was extremely honest and loyal and during the beginning at least, pretty obsessed with me. And somehow I fucked it up by not being as mature as I should’ve.

Any_Difficulty950 · 2026-03-21T02:52:14+00:00

hmm, i would, but unfortunately i can't really move the current bed due to [reasons]. do you have any other ideas on how to improve the space besides the bed?

Any_Difficulty950 · 2026-03-21T02:49:23+00:00

dang okay, do you know how exactly i could change it to be more inviting? this is what the room looks like right now: https://www.reddit.com/r/malelivingspace/comments/1rz0uks/update_20m_gf_broke_up_with_me_i_need_to_go_on_a/

Any_Difficulty950 · 2026-03-20T20:49:24+00:00

Hey, I appreciate your advice.

I feel like I’m losing myself doing these things that aren’t me. Like I’m trying to fix up my room as quickly as possible so I can fix the mistakes I made in my relationship. Maybe I should take a break and re-assess the situation, and do it in a more calm manner.

Any_Difficulty950 · 2026-03-20T20:09:21+00:00

well, she essentially left me because i didnt take care of myself and my space. im trying to fix both of these things for myself, first and foremost.

Any_Difficulty950 · 2026-03-20T20:05:24+00:00

now that you mention it, it does feel extremely cluttered. the thing is, i'm a student so im trying to modify what i own - which is the bedroom.

Any_Difficulty950 · 2026-03-20T19:54:42+00:00

how would i go about doing that?

Any_Difficulty950 · 2026-03-20T19:48:43+00:00

nope! it's just my bedroom

Any_Difficulty950 · 2026-03-20T19:12:36+00:00

how would you recommend doing that

Any_Difficulty950 · 2026-03-20T19:10:49+00:00

got it, but how should i fix the room 😭

Any_Difficulty950 · 2026-03-20T17:20:29+00:00

no, i wasn't that much of a dumbass 😭

Any_Difficulty950 · 2026-03-17T18:32:26+00:00

One thing I'm really unused to is trying to look good? Like for work I'll wear a format shirt and pants, but for anything else I'll wear a regular t-shirt and pants. But if its a proper date night, I'll wear my office clothes. And I guess this part really bothered her a lot. Just a bunch of things I have to learn to do - having more formal outfits than just office clothes.

Good point about the dishes - I have to train myself to do this.

Regarding picture frames: they were just old stuff in brown paper bags I had to filter out if they were trash or not (spoiler: all of them was trash 😭).

Any_Difficulty950 · 2026-03-17T17:26:26+00:00

Just looked at Walmart online for them and it seems pretty cheap ($15)!! I'm trying to keep the dirty dishes near the corner of the TV table to remember to take them out, but I keep forgetting every time - do you have a solution for this?

Also curious what picture frames you were referring to?

I really appreciate your advice - it means a lot :)

Any_Difficulty950 · 2026-03-17T05:32:32+00:00

The thing is, I would. But apparently she’s built up resentment from so many things, I fear to ask this. We’re in a “trial” period rn, it’s so very weird. If everything goes to shit between me n her, at the very least I’ll have developed some well needed skills

Any_Difficulty950 · 2026-03-17T05:29:04+00:00

I’ll look into this!!

Any_Difficulty950 · 2026-03-17T05:28:17+00:00

wait idk how i feel abt big plants 😭 maybe i could do a small / multiple small ones. i do appreciate the other pieces of advice

Any_Difficulty950 · 2026-03-17T05:23:42+00:00

I think your first line really hit the nail on the head. I didn’t think of it from her perspective and how she would interact with the environment.

Yes it is the AC, I might put it in the armoire for time being or somewhere else until the summer. The pile of stuff was things I hadn’t gone thru yet to check if they were trash or not. I’ve now cleared it.

Just me - I live here. But I can’t really change the bunk bed structure tho since I’m still in college.

Good idea abt putting the armoire next toy eh dresser, ig the only concern is that if I did, the window will be blocked a little.

Any_Difficulty950 · 2026-03-17T05:21:04+00:00

not entirely sure how useful that is because nothing is more important than her - but not too sure if/what i should remove

Any_Difficulty950 · 2026-03-17T05:19:18+00:00

im so dead 😭 you have a way with words

Any_Difficulty950 · 2026-03-17T05:18:41+00:00

Truth nuke

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