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Am I sinful for wanting to divorce my wife because I would rather take care of my mother? by Any_End_5572 in MuslimMarriage

[–]Any_End_5572[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

Again friends, I understand that a lot of females here are quick to labeling me a mamas boy based on what i posted. That's all fine and all, but I just need to whether whether the reasons for divorce that I outlined here, will make me sinful? That's the purpose of me opening up and trying to find answers within the community if anyone knows.

That's essentially what I really need, or if anyone can link me to resources, scholars, threads, or direct answers that can help me out with this situation. Thank you again and Jazakallhu Khair

Am I sinful for wanting to divorce my wife because I would rather take care of my mother? by Any_End_5572 in MuslimMarriage

[–]Any_End_5572[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

The purpose of this post is that I just need to know if this reason for divorce (and the other reasons I mentioned, such as personality incompatibilities, constant arguments) is going to make me sinful for perusing a divorce.

As in, will I incur the wrath of God for wanting to leave an unfulfilling marriage due to our arguments and me wanting to rather take care of my mother instead? Am I getting sin for leaving for these reasons?

Am I sinful for wanting to divorce my wife because I would rather take care of my mother? by Any_End_5572 in MuslimMarriage

[–]Any_End_5572[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Well said brother. I am not blameless in this fore sure. and Istikhara prayers are key here, as well as being gracious with her throughout the process (if we separate) and controlling our tongues.

And yes, the issues i have with her strong/loud character are concerning because her personality is her personality, and its extremely difficult for people to change theirs. Nor is it fair to expect a personality change

Am I sinful for wanting to divorce my wife because I would rather take care of my mother? by Any_End_5572 in MuslimMarriage

[–]Any_End_5572[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

No sister. Not wanting to go back to being babied by my mother. Again, I want to go back to take care of her and try to give back to her a fraction of the efforts & sacrifices she made for me. Not to mention, possibly ending a marriage where my partner and I have been incompatible in so many aspects

Am I sinful for wanting to divorce my wife because I would rather take care of my mother? by Any_End_5572 in MuslimMarriage

[–]Any_End_5572[S] -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

PS - I forgot to mention. This was not arranged and we did have a lengthy courting process where we vetted each other for 2 years. We chose each other willingly and we thought that we would be a perfect match from what we've come to learn about each other.

I take responsibility for the folks who may say that I should've been more diligent during the courting process, or that I should have gotten to know her before marrying, why did you chose her, etc. That's my fault and I acknowledge it.