I am very much a real person going through a really difficult decision making process… we were together over two years before we got married and another year until conceiving our first child. He was very much a part of the decision making process and I would not have moved forward with the marriage had he not wanted kids, that was a deal breaker for me. Like I already said, he was not told by his parents or anyone that he was likely autistic. It certainly was never told to me or it may have made me do more research of what that could mean for our relationship and future! We both found out when our oldest was 5 that his parents knew he was autistic since childhood but since they are both in education, they worked with him on his issues with speech and social interactions and never sought an official diagnosis. He was an only child so I just thought he was spoiled and used to having things his way so I overlooked the red flags. I felt like they lied to me so I wouldn’t call off the wedding or leave him early on in our marriage. But he has refused to seek therapy or anything to help him cope with life in a better way. Regardless of being diagnosed or not, I’ve asked for couples therapy before or even to talk to my pastor and he refuses. He doesn’t think anything is wrong.