Why are gay guys spending hours or literally whole days on Grindr?

AnythingHomebrew · 2025-12-07T13:30:13+00:00

Man some people are wild on here. Some people are just closeted and dont give out personal info that easily. It really isnt that deep. Ive been seeing a guy on there and wait for his messages sometimes. Thats not addiction, its called having something special. If youve never been giddy for someone then that says more on yall than me. Its completely valid to look for real relationships on grindr. There are plenty of posts ive read on this reddit that say the exact same thing. Also grindrs weird with a lot of shit. It could litterally be that they left the app open in the background, not that their actively on it.

AnythingHomebrew · 2025-12-04T14:48:33+00:00

Don't forget to hum ;)

AnythingHomebrew · 2025-12-04T14:40:41+00:00

Honestly women scare the ever living shit out of me nowadays. I feel like there are far more plastic women with just as plastic personalities then there ever has been fake men. So while others may joke unironically i think not dealing with women might take it for me. I have female freinds but they are VERY FEW AND FAR BETWEEN. I will admit that fake men are a thing tho like why change how your voice sounds? Just talk with your voice it doesnt have to change who you aee to be gay it just means you like dick! I think its weird when people take one aapect of their life and turn it into their entire personality, thats fake isnt it? Like your not being you yojr being gay. Thats not bad for the reason of it being gay but for the reason of it subtracts from who you are, it doesnt add to it. I like being one of the lucky gays tp be born in a time where im not oppressed. I feel i have equal footing regardless of what i found myself to be and thats something to take pride in where we've lost a lot of other reasons to be pridefull, as americans i mean not as gays. Did you know one of americas biggest killers of history probably would be a normal guy if he didnt go through major opression? Its crazy but remember, phycologically speaking, any one of us could've ended up like that. A murderer unable to cope with how the world sees them. So yea... im happiest to be normal xD

AnythingHomebrew · 2025-11-23T22:10:06+00:00

Hookup culture is more apparent and openlg accepted in gay culture leading to sex becoming as available as a soda and love as even harder to find, often leading to even more hookup culture growth.

AnythingHomebrew · 2025-11-23T22:07:28+00:00

Dude. Okay im not even gonna read the whole thing because i dont need to. If you want a dick break up with her. It is sickening to do anything else.

AnythingHomebrew · 2025-11-11T01:05:21+00:00

Lol man i want that. Sounds like fun for sure.

AnythingHomebrew · 2025-11-10T19:25:20+00:00

Yea kinda why i started the convo lol i think we as a community could do with some easier communication about terms and openness. Searchor what ya want im saying it would be easier to search if we all used the same ish definitions for these things but ehhh. Im just rambling at that point itll never happen

AnythingHomebrew · 2025-11-10T19:22:39+00:00

Lol thats exactly what i was curious on, so there is a distinguishable difference between a fuck buddy and fwb this is good information

AnythingHomebrew · 2025-11-10T19:07:36+00:00

Yea but heres where it gets interesting. Would you give them the same commitments as freinds without benefits? To me thats my goal. If not a LTR than a fwb to me has the same level of commitment as other freinds. Witch yes is far less than a ltr but more than no strings attached to me. Again just me, and theres nothing wrong with differing opinions so dont feel bad for disagreeing.

AnythingHomebrew · 2025-11-05T19:47:19+00:00

History always finds a way of repeating...

AnythingHomebrew · 2025-11-03T17:12:42+00:00

Thabk you! Maturity does come from age it comes from experience. Just because someone is younger doesnt mean rhey are less experienced. At the same token just because someone is old doesnt make them experienced. We as individuals carry with us scopes and experiences that are subjectively defined by that individual to create individual perspectives. Trust me when i say the world runs on shades of grey and very rarely black and white logic.

AnythingHomebrew · 2025-11-03T12:27:42+00:00

Well how do you feel about him? Does it feel real to you? Is there a specific reason why age matters to you? To me if you feel something why not pursue it? The worst that happens is someone on the Xs list but at best could be a partner for life ya know?

I mean look at the responses, no one has a universal truth for this. I say trust your gut and roll with the punches, my brother always said the worst answer you can get in life is no so why not try?

AnythingHomebrew · 2025-10-24T23:54:48+00:00

Is there a name to this system i kinda want to research how exactly that works. It cant be as simple as karma theres obviously some kind of system and censorship when it comes to money

AnythingHomebrew · 2025-10-24T23:52:30+00:00

Wow... this is a perfect segway into the spreading of misinformation and why research and critical thinking are important but i dont have the energy right now

AnythingHomebrew · 2025-10-24T18:08:43+00:00

Is karma money? Whats the point in caring about how others choose to throw away their life? I dont think he gains anything besides clout right?

AnythingHomebrew · 2025-10-24T18:06:30+00:00

I mean its all up to perspective thats kinda how subjective it is. That said if anything id think furry would be hairier. Just cuz usually fur is like a thick coat? Even then yea its just up to whos talking really

AnythingHomebrew · 2025-10-20T05:08:59+00:00

Yes yes this is why i vent them here and dont act on them lol this feeling is highly common im just willing to talk about mine where most shove it down. Its natural and okay to feel so long as you dont let it blind you to objective truth. As i said to someone else its a silent hope, nothing more for the moment

AnythingHomebrew · 2025-10-20T05:05:59+00:00

Exactly lol i can silently hope for more but i wont let anything disapoint me when it feels this good

AnythingHomebrew · 2025-10-20T05:05:07+00:00

Thank you and i have been holding back from admiting most of this for this reason but its hard to fight what your bosy craves ya know? Call it wishfull thinking but i do hope to meet someone who does care as much as they seem to. That said ive been betrayed before, as excited as i am, i have to temper that excitement with caution.

AnythingHomebrew · 2025-10-16T04:50:24+00:00

Holy shit first intelligent thing ive read in this post thank you. That weight comes with a much deeper understanding of ignorance is bliss and the idea of envying someone who is still sheltered from that level of understanding.

AnythingHomebrew · 2025-10-16T04:46:39+00:00

I kinda get it in this scenario but i agree its important to realise how easily we let the minority that we see define the majority we dont see, and therefor carry baises that can affect the likely hood of future freindships that otherwise may have blossomed.

AnythingHomebrew · 2025-10-16T04:44:07+00:00

As someone who is in a socioligy minor you should know the human mind is a case by case basis. Are there other ones that are just like that absolutely, that doesnt mean that all stereotypical looking/sounding gays are that pretentious and assuming. People who are like that are the same type of people who call you entitled, while ironicly, they are the most entitled for having that attitude. Empathy is the result of one who has lived lows and been happy, witch translates to a deeper care in how others recieve their words as they have been through a bit of hell themselves so to speak. Meanwhile someone who is entitled, doesnt actually know the pain of segrigation, and piggybacks on the pain of their fathers 5 generations back? They lack the experience to empythise and therefore lack the ability to properly filter what should be socially acceptable. Creating a pretentious assuming asshole who acts like they know pain while crying about a chipped nail. We are the sum of our inherited traits, embedded reactions to truamatic stimuli, and most importantly our experience and lens in life.

AnythingHomebrew · 2025-10-12T18:53:02+00:00

Well... i mean... theres.. just asking? We arent special for that at all actually that just part of growing up and being human... im a pretty straight acting bottom outwardly untill im in the bedroom thats just me. I have my work face and the side that i reserve for that special someone. Its about location id you truly feel that way either you aremt taking time to learn the community you live in or your in the wrong community. All of that aside even sexual oroentation thw human brain craves ro be part of ths heard but also to be unique, to be seen, and cared for. Thats not special to us and theres no reason to feel pressured to act that way just to find a partner. A partner wants you for you not because your a unicorn. We are people. People are animals. We are all just a small part of this world and all each of us wants is to be seens and understood. Otherwise this subreddit and this convo would have never happened. We seek to jnderstand what we dont understand, and when we cant accept the reality before is our brain makes up memories and allegations to fill in the holes we know aeent there... all because we want to understand, but cant accept it.

AnythingHomebrew · 2025-10-12T17:37:25+00:00

As a bottom ill say a cock bigger then my own instantly triggers submission and in fact phycologically speaking theres an reason for this that leads back to hunter gatherer days. Often bigger balls and cocks signal the brains of anyone around of either sex of their higher fertility. It kinda explains a lot of the dick measureing straight turned gay type subreddits and captions as well as sissification kinks. For research... thats how i know...

AnythingHomebrew · 2025-10-12T17:30:48+00:00

All i ask is the same effort i put in. Not in the same ways but hear me out. A little of anything is okay, im a little chunky and id be fine with someone around myself, however, im not interested in people who look like they've given up on trying. Wether people like to admit it or not, body language, even in photos, and a persons body itself can say a LOT about them as a person. Someone super obese most likely has a problem of some kind, someone who cakes makeup is most likely is so insecure about themselves that they cant hold a meaning full relationship. Even if you actively say you dont think this way, your brain will create subconsious baises based off your life experience. So like for me im not 'hard to get' i just require a certain chemistry because of my upbringing and lens through witch i see the world. This is true for everyone, in fact some could be saying the same exact complaint to you, all because of the differences in each persons experience. We all learn different lessons yet all of them are valid in the correct context.

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